over the last two years there have been extremely different outcomes for people
despite everyone living through illness and restriction while some people gained weight
and had a decrease in strength other people lost weight and really bulked up pretty well
what caused some people to see opportunity where other people saw deprivation internal versus
external locus of control would you like to know what that is let's talk about it locus of control
is your perception of the underlying causes of whatever happens to you if you have an internal
locus of control that means that you believe that you control what happens in your life if you have
an external locus of control that means that you believe that luck fate god or other people
have more control over your life than you do of course it's normal to fall in the middle believing
that you have some control over some things and relatively little control over other things the
problem that we're going to talk about today is what happens if you're following closer to one
extreme versus the other for those of us who were stuck working from home for the last two
years right around the corner from the kitchen so easy to get up and go get a snack and nobody
around to judge us being bored feeling lonely was really dangerous because our comfort foods
were not that far away usually we only have to deal with the temptation of our comfort foods
one or two hours before we go to bed at the end of a hard work day but we've been in the situation
where from the time we get up in the morning until the time we go to sleep at night those foods
are there calling us and even though now the gyms have reopened because we're working from home
we really don't have any reason to leave the house and so our motivation to go to the gym plummeted
right i'm already at home in my pajamas probably been wearing them all day you know work from the
top pajamas to the bottom getting uncomfy to go work out even more uncomfy doesn't seem appealing
and so what's happening your weight is rising and you cannot wait for the world to get back
to normal so that you can get back to a routine that allows you to better manage your weight or
maybe you live in the house next door and for the first time in you can't remember when
you're losing weight easier than ever before why because over the last two years all the junk food
lunches and sweet coffees have been eliminated from your diet you weren't able to go shopping as
often because of all the restrictions so whenever you did order your groceries you actually ordered
healthy foods because you weren't tempted by all the candies and cookies and chocolate bars in the
aisle or right next to the cash register and since you were bored you started doing online workouts
and actually made use of those weights you bought years ago that were collecting dust in the corner
and now you're scared because life is going back to normal and you know you're going to be tempted
by the free donuts on the counter at work and eating out junky foods at lunch with your friends
and you know for sure that by the time your work day is over you're going to be so exhausted
going to the gym will be the furthest thing from your mind the problem with an external locus of
control is that basically you're being taken along for the ride you have no control over whether the
situation continues improves or changes to meet your needs you're seeing the people in your life
as having all the power the circumstances as being unchangeable and the outcomes as being inevitable
and even in the circumstances where you have a positive outcome like weight loss over the last
two years you're at the mercy of the situation continuing for you to continue to have success
and then all of a sudden returning to work has you stressed because automatically that means you're
going to start eating it out you're going to start eating off plan and of course you are going
to regain the weight when you have an internal locus of control you believe that your decisions
determine the outcomes in your life whether you work from home or the office the food you eat
you see as your decision if i want to be healthy i choose healthy food seems simple enough so why
don't we all just have this attitude your locus of control is cultivated over time
you've been cultivating it since you were a very small child it's based on how your
parents modeled problem solving for you and it's also based on how successful you were
on solving problems throughout your life as you've been growing up so if you've learned through the
interactions that you've had in the world that you don't control things you're going to now
need to teach yourself that you actually can have control over some of the things that are happening
in your life and the best way to do that is to identify something that you would like to change
unfortunately most people with an external locus of control
don't even let themselves see the problems that are happening in their life because they don't
believe that they could actually do anything to change the situation so why would i focus on it
to make myself upset when there's nothing i can do about it so i kind of pretend like it's not there
but in order to change something you need to look at it the next step once you've looked at it is to
decide what kind of change would i like to see be realistic with yourself if you set yourself a goal
that you'd like to lose a hundred pounds in two months you're likely going to fail at that but
then the problem is if i fail at that goal i've just reinforced this faulty idea i have
that i can't control things in my life and i'm going to believe that even though maybe i lost
10 pounds in that two-month period but that wasn't the goal the goal was 100 pounds so because i made
the goal unrealistic i see the entire endeavor as a fail which then reinforces the fact that
i don't control my life see the problem the third part is to be ready to overcome obstacles
making changes in life isn't easy and that means that you're going to encounter even more problems
when you're trying to make change in your life and that doesn't mean that it's not possible
it means either that whatever you're trying to change is probably that hard to change which
is why you were avoiding it in the first place or it might mean that whatever you're trying to
change you just don't have the right information or skills to change it yet and you might need to
learn some things to successfully accomplish the change you know that whole idea of problem solving
it so going back to lesson number two wellness lawyers when you're finished watching this video
you probably want to go and check out my other videos on overcoming obstacles problem solving
getting your life under control getting your weight under control i've got quite a few
if the goals that you have for yourself are realistic and important to you you're going
to feel good working towards them because you're going to feel like you're taking care of yourself
there is a lot of truth to the old adage that life is about the journey not the destination
we are often so focused on trying to reach our goal weight that we're not thinking about the
fact that once we reach our gold weight there's going to be more work to do to stay there wellness
warriors if you'd like to know how to eat healthy all the time check out this video right here
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