[Music] Hi everyone. I'm going to talk to you now about something that is very sad.
It's something that many of us face at different times in our lives, it's death.
And why I want to talk about death is because it's something we should talk about,
you know and we should try and bring some joy into it. Especially if you have a loved one
that is going to die and you know they are going to die,
but we don't want to face death at all. We don't want to talk about this.
I always remember this young woman saying to me, “Lorna you know, I'm going to die
I have stage four cancer and they have said there is no hope”.
And she had such a smile on her face and she said, “My family won't talk about death,
it's like as if they avoid it all of the time and I want to talk.
I want them to share with me how they feel with my upcoming death,”
and I said to her, “You know it's probably very painful for them
and painful for you and they don't want to hurt you by talking about it because they love you”.
I always remember her saying “I know they love me and I love them too
but I would love them to share. I'd love to hear from them
what they want to share with me before my death
when I can still hear them clearly and see them
because I'm not afraid of death,” she said.
“I know it's going to come and I know I'm going to go to that place
called heaven and I'm going to feel so much peace and love”,
she just said. “Because of you Lorna, now I know my Guardian Angel will accompany me
and even the souls of loved ones that have gone before me”.
And I said to her, “Who has gone before you?” and she turned around and said, “My little friend.
When I was a child, my friend died all of a sudden, unexpected.”
And she said, “Nobody talked to me about death,
even at that time and I really needed to know a little bit more.
But I would love my family to talk to me before my death and how they feel.”
So if you have someone in your family or a friend,
don't be afraid to say to themy,
“I want to talk to you about death because I know it's coming
and I want to say to you all the things I need to say”.
I always remember someone else telling me you know they spoke to their father.
You know he was going to die,
they had all faced it but no one spoke to him about death. She said it was at the last minute,
“We in a sense love our dad so much that we were around his bed at that last moment and you know
we gave out today because we told him we didn't want him to die but we didn't
want him suffering anymore”. She said her dad opened his eyes and looked at them all
and just said to them, “There's no reason to be afraid of death,
it's okay, I already feel so peaceful and so relaxed I know it's time to go”.
And even in those few moments just before their father's death,
similarly, one of the other siblings turned around and just said to their dad, “Well now when you get
there um, you've got to give us a sign or two to let us know that you're okay”. I always say
we shouldn't leave it till the last moment to talk about that because when that sibling had said that
just a few words came from their father, he just said I love you and closed his eyes
and he was gone.
And it's that part of death that none of us want to talk about or none of us want to face.
But it's like, if you know
someone you love or care about or a best friend, it could be anyone,
don't leave it till the last moment.
Ask your loved one can you talk about death with them because you're going to miss them so much,
you're going to feel so lonely
and you know you're going to go through a hard time
and I bet you anything your loved one won't mind.
Your loved one will say to you it's okay to talk about that
because it's something we all have to face at some times in our life.
I always remember this mother and she had a son
and he was killed in a car crash and she had said to me, “Lorna if we only had known that,
that death was impending my son, that it was going to happen shortly,
we would have spent more time with them and talked more and we would have told him we loved him
over and over again and again. She just said, “Because we got no warning of death,
we took it for granted, that you know,
we might grow old but he will grow up and marry and everything like that”.
So again it is important or it's very important to have it on your consciousness,
in the sense that you know, you have today. Your loved ones are around you and just in case,
that death knocks on the door for one of them, it's so important to let them know you love them
and how would I say, it's not important in the way that you expect because they will know that
but it's important for you as a human being to have told them that you love them.
And all our loved ones are okay when death comes but don't be afraid to talk about death. Don't
be afraid to even bring it up as a discussion and I know so many people are so afraid because they
just say, “Oh well I can't talk about that you know, that will upset my friends or my family,”
but I think more and more people are talking about death in the sense
you know, maybe you don't notice the ads on the TV you know and what is it to do with a will
or to leave your family money and to help them out again. That's a way of talking about death
as well but I think the most important thing is
when that time comes, there is no fear. Your Guardian Angel takes that soul straight to heaven
and they can be back around you within, it's like the same second. It's something I can't explain
but we do need to talk about that a little bit more. It's like you know this young boy that,
you know, no one talked about that to him and even though he knew his mom was critically ill, but no
relative came and talked to him. And when death did come for his mom, he was literally devastated,
and even afterwards you know, no one came again to talk to him and I know that young man suffered
for years because he said he didn't know his mom was okay he didn't know where she was.
And he just said until someone gave me your Book Angels In My Hair,
and he said you know that gave me so much understanding about that.
And even though it's not a book on death as such, it's a book on life. It's about you
but it helped this young teenager and I think it's really important even to talk to teenagers,
especially if a parent is sick or a sibling or you know someone that they're close to in the family
to explain to them that even when death comes,
their loved one, the person they love will be okay
and they will have gone to heaven and they will be completely at peace
and that's the very important thing to remember and maybe that's enough to talk about that today.
But if you have a loved one and you know everyone in the family knows how sick this person is,
ask them can you talk about that because you're going to miss them
you know and that its going to really hurt and you need to talk about that. Because maybe you
will say to them, I want to make sure that you somehow spiritually come back and give me a sign
and let me know you're okay because that's the thing that we fear. We fear that that you know,
when someone dies they're lost, you know maybe they haven't gone to heaven but I can assure you
every soul goes to heaven. You have nothing to worry about in that way about your loved one.
so if you have a loved one, maybe ask them in some Gentle Way can you talk about death because
you're going to miss them and don't be afraid to tell them all you want. to tell them heal
everything and just love them. so I'm going to say God bless and love you all. Bye bye. [Music]