- Have you ever been cheated on?
- Yes.
I have been cheated on before.
- With the guy you're hiking with?
- Yes.
- And you forgave him enough to go hiking with him?
- I forgave him and I also forgave the girl.
- Wow.
- I know.
- Hi, I'm Rose Surnow and this is inside intimacy.
The show where I ask life's great questions
to total street randos.
Today's topic is
cheating.
Have you ever cheated or been cheated on?
- Can't hear you?
- Convenient.
Have you ever cheated on someone?
- No.
- I been the other woman.
- And how did that feel?
- At the time I thought it was sexy and risque.
And now I feel like an asshole.
- Have you ever cheated on someone?
- I have.
- What happened, what was the situation?
- It was mostly like at the beginning of the relationship
when things were not serious enough.
- And did you ever tell him or did you just keep it
to yourself?
- I kept it for myself.
- You know if you feel like it's really gonna hurt somebody
to find out that you had some one night whatever
in the middle of nowhere and it doesn't matter
and it never will, then just leave it alone.
- So if you're cheating then I think that you know
it's obviously dishonest, I think that you should be
completely open, that's not right at all.
- Have you ever cheated on someone?
- Yes, I have cheated on someone.
- How do you say, I'm sorry for cheating on you, in Italian.
- It's a very like sticky subject to me.
- It is, which is why I think it's important
to talk about, because whether we agree with it to not
it's happening all the time,
so this thing is kind of inevitable.
Not inevitable for everybody but it's never gonna go away.
Then how can we sort of get our heads around it,
you know?
- Definitely I think all guys cheat.
- So how do you trust men,
if you think they're all cheaters?
- I don't.
- What was your emotional experience of being cheated on?
- Heartbroken honestly, you know, you don't really expect it
and then it's almost like what do I do now.
- I was very sad.
I listened to Usher's Confessions for a long time.
- What was the most awful part about it?
- Feeling like you had no idea what was going on.
That you feel like you have a sense of your reality
and then it turns out that's very different.
- Do you think you could ever forgive someone
who cheated on you?
- I don't know, probably not.
- Do you think if he cheated on you
and 20 years from now and it was a one time thing
and you had kids and your money was together
and you loved him and he still loved you
and he made a mistake, do you think you could forgive him?
- I really don't think I could personally,
just that's why my parents got divorced
and so, - someone cheated
in your parents?
- Yeah and so it just kind of like hits a strong note
in me but I think it's possible for other people
but for me personally I don't think so.
- Because one of your parents cheated
and then they got divorced, do you feel more empathetic
to why people do it, or more judgmental about it?
- I think more judgemental, honestly.
- Are there levels of cheating or is it all the same?
- To me emotional cheating's way worse
than physical cheating.
- I think that emotional cheating is really like
an okay thing in a way.
- You do?
- [Purple Sweater] Yeah.
I'm sorry I do. - New to me.
- Tara?
- It's new to me.
- I mean, I don't know, I think that one's the one
that's in the shade, if it comes to doing actions
that's different, if you like have a crush on a coworker
to motivate you to go to work, go ahead.
- Do you think that
watching porn is cheating?
- I hope not.
- Me too.
- What if he's like following a bunch
of like Instagram models, is that okay?
- Oh I don't care about that.
- What about flirting really hard with someone
when they're not there, like she goes to drink
with her friends, flirts all night with a guy
doesn't tell him, that she has a boyfriend
and then never sees him again, is that okay?
- I think that's dishonest.
- I think that's dishonest too, if I ever am attracted
to someone, I tell him.
- You do?
- Yeah, I think that just being honest
about like when that happens, helps kind of keep
everything above board.
- That's really progressive and mature of you.
- Thank you.
- So do you think that there are ever circumstances
where it could be justified?
- Definitely not.
Just break up.
- Just break up?
- Just break up.
- What if you've been through so much
and like you've invested time and then
you end up there and then it's like, why,
and then the person is really like, you know, sorry?
- Just break up.
- No, we know people who've been cheated on
and they've moved on to like really address issues
and have like a really healthy relationship.
- Do you think cheating is ever a good thing,
could it ever be a good thing for relationship?
- Yes, so to actually show there are problems
in the relationships itself and that something is missing.
- Like why do you think people cheat in the first place,
if they're happy, what do you think they're,
what do you think that is?
- I think you can be happy and bored.
- I think that you can love someone
and be physically attracted to someone else
and those two feelings don't negate each other.
- Do you guys have a celebrity pass?
- I'm my own celebrity pass.
- I don't doubt that John.
- I would give him a pass for one
of the Hine sisters for sure.
- well don't say that 'cause they literally live
in this neighborhood.
- Robin Webster.
- Honestly, my wife.
- Oh.
- Okay, I want to, I've wanted to sleep with Halle Berry
since I was like 14, that's a crush right, so like.
- She's cheating.
She's cheating on me right now.
- What if I told you we have Halle Berry here?
- Well, Julie I gotta go.
- Have a nice cheat free relationship.
- Thank you, that's the goal.
- Bye, see you later.
- You guys are doing great, I believe in you.
Do you hope that you spend 20 years together?
- Yeah, I hope so.
- Same here.
- Ah you guys are so fucking cute.
Good luck out there, Melissa, I believe in you.
You know what, I don't say this, we've interviewed
a lot of couples today
but I think you guys are gonna make it.
- Thank you.
- Yeah, I think you, Marley, Robin, Jessica,
I think this family's gonna make it.
- That is nice to hear.
- Why God, why?
Please don't cheat on me!
Sexting is cheating!
Going to cocktails with your hot coworker is cheating.
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