so something I've been doing recently is diving back into old movies and TV shows
I watched growing up and I want to see the lessons that they were teaching me
about things like life and love and one of my favorite movies of all time was
Empire Records I used to watch that movie all the time but I guess we
watched the other day and I don't know if it's necessarily teaching us the
right lessons about love what is up everybody this is Chris from the rewired
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anyways Empire Records so I just watched it again the other night I watched this
movie like probably over a hundred times growing up and first let's do a little
synopsis real quick there's a bunch of characters in the Empire Records but I'm
gonna be specifically talking about the relationship between AJ and Corey okay
so quick little rundown alright so the beginning of the movie we
see that AJ clearly is in love with Corey and it goes to Joe to ask him for
some advice and say yo Joe you know I'm in love with Corey how do I tell her you
know and Joe's handling his own thing with Lucas and Joe's like just tell her
I love you and then AJ is like pushing it off he's like you know what I'm gonna
do about 137 137 I'm gonna tell Corey that I love him I love her right and
basically you see Corey's perspective and blacks Manny's coming in this is her
celebrity crush and she was a child she goes and she flirts with him she wants
to lose her virginity to him go south anyways she runs upstairs AJ's up there
she's a mess she's a wreck she's crying and AJ tells her at that point that he
loves right and she's like freaking out I
still caught up in her head and then AJ gets pissed he goes away later on Corey
tries to come back and apologize and talk to him he doesn't want anything to
do with it movie goes on a bit we find out that Corey is addicted to speed
which is like methamphetamines and by the end of the movie you know Corey goes
up there she talks to AJ and Corey's going off to college and AJ he decides
that he's gonna go to art school by her and they're gonna be in love and all
that good stuff all right quick little rundown if you want to
watch the movie go watch it it's actually over on Netflix okay so yeah I
want to talk about this relationship things that we were taught and maybe
some things that you can relate to when it comes to getting relationships and
good and bad ideas first thing I want to touch on though real quick is like have
you ever watched a movie that you loved as a kid but you watch it as an adult
you like that was really weird alright so there was two really weird
parts of that movie okay like it's a gigantic record store and it was a part
where like AJ after he was upset at Corey he like turns on Rex Manny and
then it turns in like this huge like dance party in the record store and then
him and Deb they start like getting freaky in the middle of the freaking the
store and I'm like what the hell is going on and it was just maybe a couple
scenes later where Corey gets pissed off at Jeana and she runs outside and like
jacks up like the Rex Manning like cardboard cutout I'm just sitting think
I'm like if this is real life like there was probably the same customers in that
store who saw both of these scenarios go down and that is absolutely maddening
alright and then you're taking the consideration of the other things like
you know when war and came back and you know shout out the placement anyways
anyways so yeah let's talk about this so let's talk about you know AJ okay so AJ
he had this infatuation with Corey he loved Corey and they work together by
the way this is extremely common this is something common that I've I've I've
seen just throughout my years and my work history I see a lot of people fall
for the person that they work with and it makes sense it makes
sense but it's a no-no all right some of you saw the video I did on the office
the other day but here's the thing like I just like to sit back and look at this
thing logically okay so when we're working at any type of office or store
or whatever we spend most of our day there right eight nine hours unless
you're working part time okay so the people you're spending the most time
with you get the closest to so I think it's common for people to become
attracted to someone in the workplace and think that that's a good idea and it
is almost never a good idea I know a few people where that has worked out but it
is it is often a bad idea from my experience to try to date somebody in
your workplace because here's the thing when you're going after that when you're
going after that relationship it all sounds like in your head like oh my god
we're gonna fall in love and everything's gonna be amazing it out
like when we fall in love where we have intense feelings for somebody we don't
think of any of the negative we don't think of any of the negative
possibilities and yeah like I guess it's kind of like pessimistic to go into any
relationship with like a negative outlook on it and why would you even get
with that person if you had a negative outlook but here's the reality of it
like especially at that age where you know the the cast of Empire Records was
like teenagers really like you got a figure like things have a good chance of
going south like you looked at the percentage right there's probably a
really high percentage that things are gonna go south and then you work with
that person now you work with that person right like have any of you any of
you watching this have you ever dated somebody at the office and then you guys
broke up and let me know if that became awkward or weird or strange or one of
you actually had to leave the job because of this because that is one of
the reasons why you don't date somebody at work but again like I understand
where that attraction grows because you're spending so much time with them
all right so anyways yeah AJ he's like you know draw pictures of her obviously
he's in love with her and everything like that well Cory she has this thing
for Rex Manning okay and when she goes up there and she's completely distraught
right after you know whatever went down with Rex Manning I was also really weird
scene by the way but anyways the first thing that I want to talk about when she
goes up there and she tells AJ what just happened and she's like sobbing and in
tears and stuff like that like you could really see the selfishness in that scene
because AJ so when we talk about love we talk about being with somebody like I
say single for so so so so so long because I realize how selfish and
self-centered I was oh I thought about with me and it was not fair to any other
partner that's why I often recommend people like if you're struggling with
mental health issues like don't date until you get kind of your act together
right and and you see that like a.j if he truly loved her if like if this was a
healthy love when she came up there and I know he had a set in his head to tell
her that he loved her but when she came up there like she was clearly crying and
everything and he's like no I'm gonna tell her that I love her right now while
she's crying and sobbing it's like no no no no no no in that situation AJ should
drop what he's doing and say yo what's wrong what's going on you know what I
mean and talk with her about it rather than succumbing to his own selfish needs
of I need to tell her that I love her okay and AJ ends up getting pissed
obviously and there's something else like about these relationships like AJ
gets pissed that she threw herself at Rex Manning right part of it was he was
pissed that she didn't reciprocate his love right then and there but that's
something else that's a whole nother video thing maybe I'll talk about it
when I start talking about friends where Ross is like we were on a break but just
that kind of jealousy when you're not even together you know what I mean but
it seems like this is justified jealousy because you have such strong feelings
but the reality is when you're not together that person is free to
literally do whatever the hell they want all right so as the movie goes on and
Gina and Corey get into this argument we find out that Corey is addicted to
methamphetamines right like she is or just amphetamines maybe I think it
was just an amphetamine it's but she's addicted to those and she uses them with
you know what the excuse that you know she has study and things like that and
and this is very common by the way many college students become addicted to like
things like ADHD medications like adderall ritalin things like that just
so they can study just so they can cram because they want to they want to get
good grades or they want to get into the best school or whatever it is but we
find out that poori clearly has a problem with that so in the final scene
where they they come together where they come together like this is just one of
the things that I I noticed like as an adult now looking back on these movies
and this idea of love right so one of the things is that aj says he's gonna
move to another state just to be near cory right he's gonna leave everything
behind and just be near like this is often such a bad idea right when we when
we sacrifice everything especially at that age like I'm really gonna talk
about like that age before the prude the good old prefrontal cortex the logical
brain fully develops I get such a bad idea to drop everything and move there
like when I went up to college with my friend one of the reasons that he went
up there too was to chase after his high school sweetheart and that went south
real quick because she got to college maybe that's an entirely new video idea
she got to college and she saw all of the other options she had and she
started cheating on him and I'm not saying this is what always happens but
we really got to think through before we're gonna move somewhere for somebody
else this is something that happens a lot though even with adults is that I've
seen this countless times countless countless times and I almost got into
that situation myself many times where we have this like early kind of like
honeymoon phase love and we're willing to do anything for him we'll move for
them we'll go anywhere with them you know we'll let them move in with us or
what with in with them or whatever it is in that very early stage and from my
experience what I've learned like the test of a relationship isn't what it
looks like with everything's at its best the true test of a relationship is how
things are handled when they're at their worse right like that is the true test
of the relationship I've seen so many relationships fail that were seemingly
just the perfect relationship but the second the second either
conflict happened or like stress like external stresses maybe somebody had
like family problems or friend problems or work problems or something like that
and and the two people were not ready to be there for one another in that
situation then they break it out so that is one of the reasons why like so early
on in a relationship making the decision to move like to be closer to somebody or
move in with somebody it's such a bad idea right like we waited two years
before we moved in together okay and and before that I think the only other
girlfriend I lived with we were together for quite some time before we moved in
without that relationship it's a hot mess anyways the last thing I want to
touch on is people people who date other people who are inactive drug addiction
like I'm a recovering drug addict for those who didn't get the memo
like I am in recovery and I know that people can get sober I know people can't
get clean but to date somebody to start dating somebody in their active edition
is the worst thing that you can do it is the absolute worst thing that you can do
and something that was completely neglected was like AJ found out that
cord was addicted to drugs and then he's like okay I'm gonna move across the
country for you like what dude what like I'm not saying Cory is a bad person in
that situation she's a sick person who was struggling
with an addiction but like that is that is either a neglecting the drug
addiction or be this type of Savior behavior but we see people do this how
I'll use my my own experience I had plenty of women date me knowing damn
well that I was a hot mess I was an alcoholic I was a drug addict there are
some videos I've done in the past on codependency some people were dating me
just because they wanted to fix me or just because they wanted to help me and
things like that and like it wasn't fair of me to even allow them to date me but
like these things they do not end well like I was telling I was telling
Tristan after watching the movie like one thing that they don't show you when
these like romance of these romance movies like is what happened like a week
or two later right or a month later or three months later right please like
guarantee if you saw AJ and Cory's relationship a month or two later it
would be a hot mess I would imagine things like AJ buying
her drugs or fights happening all the time you know what I mean especially
with the amount of effort that Cory's putting into school that's a whole
nother topic right like AJ's moving over there and you know how Cory is about
school like Cory really doesn't have the time for a relationship you know unless
he gets through that whole thing and there's some talk about her dad and the
pressure he puts on her and everything like that
but anyways like I really want to look back at a lot of TV shows and movies and
what they kind of teach us about love because like I mentioned in one of my
other videos announcing that was gonna be covering movies and TV shows was that
I was raised by TV and movies they taught me about what love looks like and
in most cases in most cases they're unhealthy or unrealistic or both you
know what I mean so if you have any examples of movies and TV shows that you
think show examples of unhealthy or unrealistic laws that you want me to
check out and maybe do some videos on let me know down in the comments below
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