hey guys is Chris and I'm back of course
I'm back ain't going anywhere
Beast I'm YouTube famous now it's all in
me anything you want done baby I'll do
it now sorry I don't have a regular fan
like Peter Monn so I I use this everybody
this is Chris from the rewired soul
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bell but before I get started on Peter
man and his dry drunk tweets I got a
little bone to pick with mr. Peter Monn I
have a resentment if you will Peter that
was a little 12-step humor for all of
you who don't know so this guy Peter
bond Peter Monn comes to my city the
city of Las Vegas
he's in my town and this guy doesn't
even meet up with me
he doesn't even invite me to the Chinese
buffet and not only that not only that
but this guy while he was here he met up
with none other that my girlfriend's
favorite youtuber Shane Dawson himself
just look at this picture look at this
picture that is a beautiful picture but
do you know how much the better would
look with me in it right that's what I
thought anniversary with his lovely
husband Alex Peter is a man in long-term
recovery so the fact that you made it to
Las Vegas stayed here didn't drink or
use kudos to you good sir kudos to you
but I know our paths will cross again
sometime in the future but anyways let
me jump into this video and it's
actually kind of funny like let's get
into this video I'm doing it in the
whole Peterman fashion where it takes
literally forever just to get to the
video anyway so for those of you who
don't know who Peter bond is Peter
Monn has a drama channel on YouTube
this guy actually has four channels and
he uploads daily that is bananas this
dude hustles like well I hear people
talking about YouTube burnout I'm like
yo you need to go check out this dude
Peter Monn because this guy is hustling
anyways here's the drama channel and I
actually follow it for some of the stuff
that I upload and get some information
from Peter anyways he talked about
youtubers he's been talking a lot about
the makeup community especially with
what's been going on lately but in all
of this people started looking up Peter
mons old tweets and they found a lot of
stuff going on in his past back in like
2012 or 11 or something like that and
Peter you know he has been covering this
with other beauty gurus and things like
that like it was interesting because
Peter he always talks about remaining
teachable and stuff like that and it's
interesting because I think it's going
to be interesting seeing his perspective
on things now that he was on the other
side of it because he always talks about
remaining teachable and what's
interesting is I remember telling my
girlfriend a while back like I think
this guy's in recovery I think he's in
recovery like those of us who are in
recovery like we have certain lingo and
we kind of we kind of spot it but
through watching some of Peters other
videos and then talking to him a little
bit on Twitter I'm like yep this guy's
in recovery and he has over 20 years
pain that's over he's a great guy and I
look up to him and his recovery but
anyways people dug up his old tweets he
made an apology video and what I really
respect about him is that he did an
apology the way you're supposed to do an
apology like and I often say like more
people need to work some kind of program
because they need to learn how to
apologize and Peter did it great and
then basically what I respect even more
is he came back with another video he
said listen I'm not addressing it
anymore I'm gonna go back to doing what
I love which is making videos but
anyways he has a second channel called
Peter isms where he talked about being a
dry drunk and the mind frame of what he
was doing like back then when he sent
out those tweets that have been getting
him some backlash and I think it's
important first of all to to look at the
difference between an excuse and a
reason right
but Peter
Just Giving reasons for it he wasn't
trying to justify it he wasn't trying to
get PB or anything like that but I think
it's great because we need to have some
empathy and understand what was going
through that person's mind at that time
anyways Peter you know I'm sorry for his
losses he at that time he was dealing
with the death of his mom amongst other
tragedies going on his life and he was
part of a 12-step fellowship and what he
did he lost all faith in the program and
everything like that his spirituality a
higher power and he got angry right and
he disconnected from the program and he
did this for four years like that's
bananas like most people who step away
like that especially after tragedy they
go right back to the bottle or drugs or
whatever it is so kudos to Peter for
staying clean throughout that like I
have gone through my own periods of
being a dry drunk and thankfully I
didn't pick up a drink or a drug that
was the only thing I did right anyways
what's a dry drunk anyways so for those
of you who who aren't in the know like
make sure you learn from this like this
is a term that we use so if you're
somebody in recovery or somebody
thinking about getting in recovery or
most of all if you know somebody who is
sober or trying to get sober dry drunk
is basically this like it's somebody who
is just abstaining from alcohol or drugs
but they're either they're like still
miserable there's still not a great
person they're what we call restless
irritable and discontent maybe they have
anger issues and frustrations and all
sorts of things that's because they
don't have any type of program
it's brutal like I can't explain okay
clean and sober six years ago when I got
into a 12-step program
and so working with a sponsor and I
worked my first step like for me my
experience with with it was this was a
two-part step okay so an a a the first
step is we admitted we were powerless
over alcohol and that our lives had
become unmanageable right we admitted we
were powerless over our addiction and
that our lives have become unmanageable
right so in the first part of that step
we're admitting this okay I'm a drug
cool for me the second part was the most
important part what it taught me was if
you take the drugs and alcohol away from
me I'm a very screwed-up person if
nothing else I'm even more
without drugs or alcohol like this is
something a lot of family members don't
understand
well it's something a lot of addicts
don't understand when they first get
clean and sober a lot of people have
this misconception that you take the
drugs or alcohol away and now they're
gonna be this perfect angel they're
gonna be kind considerate and
compassionate and honest and all these
other things but no no like when when
they took the drugs and alcohol away
from me I was I was an insane person I
was angry I was yelling at everybody I
was fighting with everybody it was
complete madness so like what I learned
in that first step was oh wow I need to
keep working more steps because I am a
messed up person see alcohol and drugs
are only a symptom of our problem right
there's a lot more going on we turn to
those substances as a solution for
dealing with life so part of this whole
journey is learning how to deal with
life in a better way how to deal with
our relationships in a better way and
like listen very carefully like I'm not
here to preach 12-step programs to
anybody like I often tell people who are
new to somebody I tell them this I do
not care what program you work just work
a program I don't care if it's a 12-step
program I don't care if it's an
alternative to 12 spa that programs I
don't care if it's meditation I don't
care if it's through support groups I
don't care if it's just getting your
butt into therapy but you've got to do
something okay like it breaks my heart
because I know people who are in
sobriety they've been clean or sober for
a long time and they're still miserable
like part of my story is when I got
clean and I was meeting these dry drunks
in meetings like I made a deal with
myself I'm like if I am ever that
miserable I'm just gonna drink or use
like that's just me like I am NOT going
to live this life unless it is amazing
unless I am happy unless I am saying so
if they can do it good for them but it
breaks my heart seeing how many people
do this dry drunk thing for years like I
have a friend who calls me regularly and
he's he's just constantly irritated or
angry and dealing with all these issues
I'm like man there's a step for that
like you got to remember pain is
inevitable and suffering is optional so
many times our resistance to things it's
causing
our own suffering okay like here's the
thing like things are gonna happen I'm
gonna get angry I'm gonna get upset I'm
gonna all these other things but it's my
choice whether or not I want to go out
and get the tools I need to live this
happy free sane life like I am always
not always I am most of the time in a
good mood
anyways Peter did this for four years
until he finally got to his breaking
point
and went back into the rooms and now
he's doing great again and that was the
reason behind those tweets there's a
quote from the literature from Narcotics
Anonymous and I always misquote it but
it says when the pain of staying the
same becomes too great
we finally let go and become willing to
change and that's what it was for Peter
the pain that he was going through
finally got so great
that he finally went back and got into
the solution but anyways I love Peter to
death he is a great guy like please if
you like my channel if you like my
content do yourself a favor and go
subscribe to his Peter isms channel I
will link it down in the description
below if you're into more YouTube drama
stuff I love his channel because he he
has the same message as I do like when
we talk about these things we're trying
to teach people lessons like he's very
kind and compassionate when he makes
these videos he's not looking to drag
anybody or you know just spill the tea
all over the place like he tries to have
a very empathetic point of view and he
offers suggestions and advice and things
like that but anyways he uploads on the
daily so I'll provide links to both of
those channels his Peter Maude main
channel and his Peter ISM channel but if
you need some like daily inspiration
some daily wisdom make sure you're
checking out his Peter isms channel he
has four channels right now he's
starting a fifth one and I yours truly
and actually going to be a guest on his
new channel that I believe he's starting
next month I need to send him a video
anyways I want to hear your comments
down below did you know what a dry drunk
was do you know anybody who is a dry
drunk were you a dry drunk let's have a
conversation down below in the comments
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