well after I just uploaded my video about Trisha Paytas and Jason Nash a ton
a ton of you commented and wanted me to make a video about david dobrik of the vlog squad possibly
enabling these two so that's what we're here to do what is up everybody this is
chris from the rewired so where we talk about the problem but focus on the
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let's talk about this so I just made a video saying I'm worried about Jason
Nash and Trisha Paytas I got a ton of requests to talk about their
relationship and I mentioned in that video you know that it kind of seemed
like maybe david dobrik is enabling on but it also seems like it gives them
some like real talk so a lot of you requested this video so a couple
disclaimers real quick the first one is if you're new to my channel my channel
is a four david dobrik my channel is a four Trisha Paytas my channel is a four
jason nash it's for you okay so if you can relate to this situation like a lot
of people wanted me to make this video because they are the david dobrik in
this situation they have friends who are in toxic relationships and they don't
know what to do so remember this isn't necessarily about them if you want to
comment about their relationship in the comments go ahead do your thing baby but
this is to try to help you if you have friends who are in a toxic relationship
like this now the second disclaimer is this and I just thought about this
before making the video so like a lot of this these suggestions
I'm gonna give and everything like that for you is based on it this is affecting
your mental health okay so like in david dobrik situation if it is not affecting
his mental health than who cares like do your thing man if this is not affecting
you if Jason coming over and complaining to
you about Trisha all the time is not affecting you if it is not emotionally
draining to you do your thing some people are wired like
that like some people can take that stuff in and listen to it laughing off
do whatever but for some of us like if you have somebody who keeps coming to
you with the same problem over and over and over and over and over again it's
time to set up some boundaries alright so that's my other disclaimer so if
you're in this situation you have friends who are in toxic relationships
and it's not affecting you mentally or emotionally that's cool don't even worry
about it but maybe share this video with someone
who it is affecting alright so anyways when I was watching the new jason nash
video where they were talking about this situation where jason almost called the
cops on tricia and everything like dave is laughing the whole time david's
laughing and Jason made a comment earlier in the video like you're just
gonna use this for one of your bits and done it out of da right and I was kind
of like is Jason like or is David like enabling this behavior because it's good
for his vlogs or you know whatever but I remember like so those of you who don't
know david dobrik and jason nash have a podcast together called views and it's
interesting because my girlfriend Tristan she doesn't listen to any
podcast she hates podcast and she listens to
views all the time with david dobrik and jason nash but here's what's even
crazier she's not even like a die-hard david dobrik or jason nash fan but for
some reason she loves that podcast but anyways anyways that's besides the point
it's a good podcast it's funny i actually like jason a lot more in the
podcast and when i see him in this toxic relationship with tricia but anyways i
remember a while back around the time when I made my first one of my first
videos about Jason Nash and Trisha Paytas they they did of
a podcast and like david dobrik was given jason tough love like if you want
to know okay so a lot of you are coming here asking like what do you do like
what do you do if you know your friends are in a toxic relationship like david
dobrik like was like the the best like in that podcast i'm gonna try to find it
and link it down below but what david dobrik did like that's how you talk to a
friend in a relationship well first of all let me recap Jason and Trisha had a
brutal breakup on the internet like like the most public breakup you could ever
have nothing was private not a single thing was private and and it's and it's
well that's not true that's not true at all there was lots of things that were
private I mean and I didn't think it was that brutal at all I thought it's pretty
what went on was well what no I mean how would you know what was right and what
was a lot private which makes me I mean if I'm sure there was more things in
private but the that was public private and I just think it was I mean I mean I
mean end of the video he broke up with me because I'm fat that's a pretty it's
a pretty brutal thing to say about another about another person you know
what I mean that's like a news headline like he was constantly calling Jason out
on his BS right like here's the thing like honesty is a huge part of mental
health denial will kill you okay so like I a lot of my mental health is based on
me constantly working on my self-awareness right you me a lot of us
who struggle with mental health issues where the type of person who lies to
ourselves and tell what says everything's fine or minimize things and
we don't understand why we're so upset well we need we either a need
self-awareness or B we need people in our lives to call us out on our crap
right so Jason mash in that first podcast I'm
talking about he kept telling David like oh you know it's not that bad it's not
there and David and David like no it is this is nuts
this is cray this is not healthy you know what I mean
so this is why I tell you guys to keep people around who tell you what you need
to hear not what you want to hear so I guess that's what I'm one of my tips for
you if you have friends in these types of relationships like don't don't play
into their BS do not do that like I've mentioned I had a friend who was Anna
toxic relationship for two years maybe more than two years and she would tell
me about how terrible the relationship was all the time and I would ask her
like why do you post this on social media like everything is all unicorns
and rainbows and she would tell me she wants people to think that they have a
good healthy relationship she wants her parents to think they have a good
healthy relationship and this is why I keep trying to teach you guys to quit
caring so much about what other people think like on my last video I just did
about Trisha Paytas and Jason Nash I asked you guys I asked you guys in the
comments how many of you have stayed in a relationship way too long waiting for
the other person to change well here's a follow up how many of you have stayed in
a relationship way too long because you were worried about what your friends
would say you were worried about what your parents would say like I've seen
people stay in a toxic relationship because they don't want their friends to
make fun of them and they want they don't want them to say oh oh look you
just got into another bad relationship or oh you're like the break-up king or
breakup queen like who cares would you rather would you rather them
like poking fun at you or sitting in a toxic relationship for months or even
years all right so anyways in this new video David's like laughing kind of do
it but like I kind of see David in the same light as I saw Shane Dawson at the
end of his Jake Paul series where Jason just kind of like listens and he in his
brand he's analyzing it and he knows it's a bunch of BS he knows it's all
wrong he knows his BS and like I can written I can definitely relate to it
David because I'm the type of person like I call people out on their stuff
but I try to do it in a light-hearted way right like if somebody's acting
crazy like I'll laugh and joke with them about it but like I'm I'm really like
giving them like hey you know like you need to identify this because like it's
not it's not normal like when David was like okay yeah so you guys like this
isn't good right so I don't I don't think David is
enabling him but he did mention like later on like this is a healthy this
isn't good or anything like that but if you're somebody who's who has friends
like this like here's what I'll say here's what I'll say if it's affecting
your mental health if your if your friend is calling you up constantly
telling you about their terrible relationship and they're not willing to
do anything about it you got to draw a boundary you got to I
keep telling you guys over and over and over again quit being an emotional
banker for other people's problems like stop it stop it like I'm here to help
those of you who know me you know that I am here to help I'm here to listen I'm
here to reply to your comments and stuff like that but if you keep coming to me
with the same problems and refuse to do any type of solution then I don't got
time for you and you end in it sounds rough but you got to do the same thing
with your friends I have friends who consistently get in bad relationships
and then think they're gonna be able to turn to me and I've cut those people out
or if I haven't cut them out I don't talk to them about their relationships
anymore like cuz I that does affect my mental health like I threw that
disclaimer at the beginning of the video but these things do affect my mental
health when I have people who are constantly complaining to me and
refusing to get into the solution that's just something that I can't handle
that's something I can't do it it frustrates me it angers me it's
something that I it's brutal like at my job in my career I can deal with that
these are clients you know what I mean but when there's people in my life and I
can control like whether or not I pick up their phone calls answer their text
or their DMS or their messages no like I set up boundaries with them and I say
listen I'm no longer going to sit here and listen to you complaining about your
problem if you refuse to get in the solution and that's what I suggest of
you - this couldn't go even - like a job right like let's say you have somebody
who friend of yours who's always complaining to you about a job right
always complaining about their job and then you you ask them to try to get them
solution focus you say okay have you been looking for a new job and they're
like no okay the quit complaining to me about your job if you're refusing to
look for a new one right like I'm here to help you and strategize and stop
it's like the excuse for the job thing I hear all the time is like I'm constantly
working so I can't look for another job I'm like Nana Nana now you go home you
binge watch Netflix you scroll through Instagram for three hours take one of
those hours and start looking for jobs and filling out applications I don't
give me any of that BS I'm one of the busiest people that I know so if you
ever try to come to me with some you know like you don't have time thing I
will laugh in your face this is my third video today and I'm in the middle of
writing a book so so be be careful and tread lightly when you try to tell
people that you don't have time to get into the solution right like another
thing is to like when people tell me that they don't have time to meditate
and I tell them that they only have to meditate for five minutes like
meditating the damn shower you know what I mean but like again this is for all of
you who have friends who are getting into toxic relationships set up
boundaries with them set it up like as a friend it is your job it is your
responsibility to be there for them and support them and help direct them to
solutions give them suggestions but if they are not taking those suggestions
there is very little to nothing you could do like when I made my video
yesterday about is amberlynn Rita lost cause
I don't think she is but if she's not willing to do the work then there's not
much anybody can do for and that's one of the things about being like mentally
ill or having any kind of mental health issues
it takes the person's willingness alright so I hope this video provided
you with some good suggestions and you know the I guess I'll end with this the
most common excuse I get from friends in this scenario is well I can't I can't
cut him out of my life they're my friend I can't like you need to go watch the
video I did about Logan Paul being a terrible brother like the hell you can't
the hell you can I've had to cut best friends out of my life for drug
addiction alcohol addiction then being toxic starting fights starting drama
whatever it is I've done it a million times there's a difference between can't
and won't in my last video I about T series I talked about internal locus of
control and external locus of control get the internal locus of control and
realize you can set boundaries the reality is is that you're uncomfortable
setting boundaries that I can hear that I can work with that I can give you some
strategies for but never ever ever ever tell me you can't set up boundaries I
was really a comment on the last video I think there was a few comments saying
that they're in a relationship and they said I tried to leave three times but I
can't and by the way I don't know the specifics of this situation but when I
fear that when I hear the word can't I'm like okay like are you locked in a
dungeon like what what is happening is this person holding you hostage because
I think a lot of us get twisted especially with boundaries the
difference between can't and won't all right
like I really want you guys to think about that okay really really think
about that all right anyways if you like this video please
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set up some boundaries and I'll see you next time