well howdy Partners welcome to the Patterson we're doing a pretty scary video today I feel
like all of our videos recently have been kind of like scary no but scary for us yeah
I know yeah that's a good point actually yeah we're gonna answer awkward marriage questions
that you're too afraid to ask we're gonna tell open up for anybody that's gonna get married
um this is for you or even if you're not gonna get married this is still for you can I just say super
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much for subscribing yes jumping into it oh this is a good one kicking it off light-hearted and
uh before we get too deep into uh naughty whether it's too awkward what is the secret of a healthy
marriage I think the secret to A Healthy Man to manage I think the secret to a healthy marriage
is a combination of a few different things number one is communication communicate your
feelings make sure that you know how each other is feeling what upsets you and I think that's so
important to a healthy marriage and also trust don't break your partner's trust we're agreeing
on that communication complete transparency and openness with each other at all times is the key
for us we've been together over seven years and that's how we've kept our relationship strong
do you threaten to divorce each other no never oh this is a good one how do we split finances
we actually talked about this in a previous video to make a long story short because I feel
like that can get complicated we each have our own accounts and we also have a conjoined account and
that is where like our bills come out that we pay together so like our apartment grocery stuff like
that is from the conjoined or like if we go out to dinner and it's like okay let's just put this
on the drawing card unless like I ask him out to dinner I'll pay or vice versa I just love that you
say couldn't joined account what do you saying the joint account like it to me when you say you could
joined it makes it sound like we're like that is it that's our card our card is Happy f you
I felt weird oh you just made me burp literally 95 of our questions are about doing the deed
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what a shame what shape my side of the bed has a very light duvet cover on it because I sleep
very hot and I want the lightest duvet possible whereas Monica I have a thicker one live demo
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video and uh let's get back to the rest of the video how frequent do you have arguments since
it's clear all couples have but you guys seem like perfect on Instagram it's because we're perfect no
I'm kidding um we of course have arguments don't start you're perfect we do very rarely have always
we had a lot more arguments in the first like two years of our relationship Yeah by us being
open and communicating about those issues and talking about what we like and don't like about
what each other's habits are and stuff like that it's really helps to build a solid foundation for
where we are today and we don't really have those pessy arguments anymore social media is a place to
display the best moments of your life yeah we're filming increasing content every single day but
still what you see about life is still only like three percent of our life yeah you know we live
for 24 hours a day and we maybe create content for half an hour to an hour of that but we do
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to check it out then head to our Instagram the link is in our bio does your s e x Drive decrease
immensely after being together for so long no I mean it may depend on the people like if you've
been together 50 years in your 70 years old then I would understand how can you say to your partner
that you want a baby without saying I think the best thing to do is just to be open up front and
have that conversation I was going to say exactly the same thing and then you could also see their
timeline like how you know what he's thinking and stuff your partner may be feeling exactly the same
they don't know like really well yeah going to the toilets in front of the other person I'm guessing
the question is like do we do it I do Monica not so much Monica puts her tap on because I think the
sound of pee is so ugly so like I don't want you to hear me pee you know what I don't mind when you
see me sitting but I don't like when you like hear it I don't think that's a marriage thing I think
just when we got comfortable enough with each other I would guess probably around like a cup
or so we said she's just I feel like you were doing it the first day I met you anymore yeah I
probably was who is the intimacy initiator most often apparently you right yeah I'd
say probably because I get too scared too scared of rejection so I never ever asked
one day you're just gonna be like no so I would say probably you because I prefer when you make
the move I hate that you've got that fear of rejection still I know for seven years isn't that
sad it's from her past it's not from me by the way no sales never gave me a reason to feel like that
we're getting over it slowly I just don't like the I don't know what I just noticed you're wearing my
t-shirt and it's the same t-shirt that I'm wearing in a different color every time I've been rubbing
your back I'm like wow it's such a competition I was like wait that's mine thank you yeah yeah
oh okay so this is a really good one how do you juggle holiday events between families that's
really good we're basically based in like three different locations right now like our home is
in Florida Monica's family are in New York and my family are in the United Kingdom honestly we
haven't actually really come across that hurdle yet mainly because I'm not allowed to travel back
to the UK yet because my Visa my green card isn't fully approved yet and I don't have authorizations
to travel outside the US obviously we'll sit down and have a conversation about it just before the
time comes but I'm guessing we'll just take it in turns yeah so like one Christmas will spend here
in Florida and everybody that can will come here next Christmas will spend in the UK everyone that
can go well and the next Christmas will spend in New York and everyone like can well we'll figure
it out but that was a really good question that caught us both off garlic wait and I would love
to hear the people that have more experience in this because obviously there's people watching
this that have been married a lot longer than us so if you have any experience with this then
we'd love to hear it in the comments below all right last question this is a deep one as well
do you ever wish you could live alone or have more extended alone time no but I do sometimes
get a bit overwhelmed with how much time we spend with each other and obviously I've been completely
open with you Sam likes alone time whereas I don't care I don't need alone time but some people need
alone time and it's not like he doesn't want to see me no it's just my personality yeah
a lot of and a lot of people are like that you just need some time where you're by yourself I
am absolutely perfectly fine being with Monica's 23 hours a day I freaking love it that one hour
a day that I need alone time I just go to the gym by myself I'm still sleeping yeah she's generally
still sleeping and I think that really helps is the fact that I get up at about seven half seven
or so in the morning Monica then gets up at about 10 a.m or something and we got solid like three
or four hours of alone time and yes I do get an easy sometimes I come in and give her a kiss and
a cuddle and all that kind of stuff maybe I don't need as much alone time as I as I'm saying I do
that's how we manage it really I would love to know your thoughts on that as well comment below
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