80% of our communication is non verbal. That means that when you're talking to someone, they are more
picking up on your nonverbal cues, the way you're talking to them, your eye contact, and your body
language. All that stuff put together. It's less about the words that you say. Why do you
want to learn something like this? A lot of guys might want to learn body language so they can be
more attractive to the woman that they meet. But instead, it's a little bit more counterintuitive
than that. The reason why you want to learn this is so you feel more confident, and you feel more
powerful when you're talking to a woman. I want you to focus more on that part, rather than I
gotta do these things to get her attracted. But of course, the things that you're going to be doing,
the things I'll be describing today, do help as well. First, let's talk about your body and your
stance. There's something called a "power stance", and that is when you were standing up and you have
really good posture. I'll give you a little tip right now, like how do you have good posture.
Normally, people are hunched over like this. So instead, you want to straighten your back,
you want to roll your shoulders back, you want to stand up tall like this. And then you want
to keep about one and a half to two feet distance between your legs when you're standing up. That's
a power stance - that is going to make you feel more powerful, you are more erect in your body,
you're going to feel taller, and you're going to be taking up more space when your feet are
spread out by a couple of feet. It's going to make you feel a little bit more powerful and
of course, it's going to make you look more attractive, versus a guy who is slumped over,
hands in his pockets and taking up as as little space as possible. We don't want
to do that. I remember years ago when I was learning from the pickup gurus about taking
up more space. And I have to say that there is something to that. When you take up more space,
you do look more confident. Now here's the thing, you don't want to overdo it. You don't want to be
taking up so much space, your legs are spread out by like four feet, you're gonna look more
ridiculous. But the whole idea here is being more comfortable in your body. That's what this
power stance is all about. You want to look more comfortable in your body. Now of course,
you can look a little too stiff if you overcorrect yourself. You don't want to go too much. But also
the other way of being all shrunken and like this is going to be the opposite. We don't want
that either. We want comfort, we want you to stand tall, be okay with taking up space in this world,
and feel comfortable with your surroundings. That's why this idea of taking up space and
standing more erect is so much more attractive. And that's why you see when you see leaders do
this, and public speakers do this, and celebrities do this. When you see this on them that's one of
the reasons why you become so attracted to that, because there's almost this fearless
sense of them taking up space. That's really the idea. When people are shrinking in,
when they're not giving good eye contact, which we're going to get to in a second, it just looks
like they're scared to be in the world. And you're going to feel like that because your body is a
very powerful thing. And also, she's going to view that from you when you guys are talking to each
other. Now next, I just mentioned eye contact so let's bring that up as well. Eye contact is
a really big portion of feeling powerful and feeling comfortable and feeling confident in a
conversation. And I know that a lot of guys don't do this. In fact, to this day, I'm still working
on it. I still have to pay attention, it's not a full on habit or has not become fully part of
me. It's something that I'm always working on. And that's the idea of talking to someone and looking
them in the eye when you're talking to them. Now it is easy to look someone in the eye when you're
listening because there's not much to do. It tends to be a little bit more challenging and something
that you can practice when you are talking to someone and simultaneously looking in their eye.
A lot of people tend to look away or look down. Or sometimes when I'm talking to someone I look like
this or I look up. It just happens because that's how naturally some of us talk. But if you want to
make a very powerful connection with someone and even feel powerful yourself, looking them
in the eye when you're talking to them is going to help that dramatically. We connect more with
people on the other end and on your end when we're able to maintain that eye contact. Next,
which is funny let's talk about speaking from your voice and I say that's funny because, I don't know
if you can tell, but I've lost my voice a little bit. I'm just on the tail end of a cold here. But
still I will do my best. When you're talking to someone you want to make sure you are projecting
and you're projecting more from your chest or your belly rather than talking from your throat. And
a lot of us when we're nervous or when we just feel uncomfortable, right like do you ever get
like really cold when you're outside because it's winter and and you're kind of just shivering and
you're talking from your throat like you just feel uncomfortable, right? So you want to be instead
talking from your chest and your belly. I'll give you examples of what that sounds like. Alright,
so right now, I'm doing everything I can to talk from my throat. Instead of talking any lower. It's
all about breath, there's only so much breath I have when I'm talking from my throat, try it.
Okay, now, let's go a little bit deeper. Let's talk from the chest, which is basically what
I've been doing here on this video this whole time, is talking from the chest, taking breaths,
deep breaths, and projecting my voice when I'm talking to you. Now we can go from the belly. And
now I can project even more because I have more airflow, and I'm bringing it all the way down to
my diaphragm. And I can even feel the vibrations rather than in my throat or my chest, but actually
coming from my diaphragm, coming from my belly and talking to you. Now, you don't have to be that
intense with it. But you want to be talking from at least your chest, to your diaphragm so you're
projecting, so people can hear you, so you're not whispering and talking from your throat
and sound like you're choking on something. And maybe you haven't even noticed that when you've
been out and talking to people, but it might be happening. And now that you're watching this
video, you will notice it. Make sure that you're taking breaths, you're speaking from your chest,
and even does help to, like we were saying earlier with the power stance, to open up a little bit
to bring your shoulders back to be talking from this area that is now more stretched out. Really,
it all ties together when it comes to your talking as well as your actual body positioning. Because
when you're able to have that power stance, and stand up tall, you can stretch your chest out,
you can talk more clear with more volume, and you can be projecting it more when you're talking
to somebody. And when you're using these body language tips, you're going to be approaching
women. And if you want to learn how to approach more women I'm going to give you 7 tips right
here on this video that you see on the screen so you can do better at attracting a woman so
you can use the tips that you used on this video that you heard on this video alongside with the
tips to approach women and get them attracted to you. And if you need more help with all this
put together go to TrippAdviceCoaching.com where you'll actually get a one on one coach
so we can coach you through this whole process of meeting and attracting women.