- [Spicy] You might think the only person who could be
trusted with your love life is you, right?
Wrong.
Enter the Board of Dating, a group of friends, family
and even co workers, you enlist to do the choosing for you.
Guided by a relationship expert,
that's me Spicy Mari,
they're not leaving until they make a match.
Because when it comes to dating,
we could all use a little help.
This is Board of Dating.
I get to meet Benison today.
- Hi, I'm Benison, I'm 26 and I work in Sales.
Dating life has been chill,
I've been single for a little bit.
- He seems like he really wants a relationship
but what exactly is he doing wrong.
- I haven't put in the work, to like really find a girl,
I'm just not putting myself out there.
- I wanna see what he is really looking for in a woman.
And how self aware he is.
- Hi.
- You've been waiting for me.
- I have, I have, welcome.
- Glad to meet you in person.
I can't wait to figure out what is going on in that brain
of yours, I mean tell me what does an ideal relationship
look like for you, what are your relationship goals?
- So I've never really had a real relationship.
It's been more like things.
- And what do you think is holding you back
from finding someone.
- I think I'm just tryin to do me and understand me.
So that I could do that for someone else.
- Majority of men feel like everything needs to be
perfectly put into place, before they start finding
someone to share their life with.
Something that might be important to you,
which is commitment.
- Commitment's number one, just to have someone by my side.
To do that and just feel that way every day with.
And the future would be fire.
- Describe to me, who are the lucky winners
who get to be a part of your board.
- Hi, my name is Michael.
- I've known since like sixth grade,
we were learning like how to write complete sentences
together and essays and yeah, it's wild.
- I'm June, I'm Benison's co-worker
and I've known him for about a year and a half.
- She understands what I like and the kind of jokes
and humor I have and I think she will be good at
spotting who would appreciate that maybe.
Or who's kinda like in the same realm.
- I'm Lucas and I've known Benison since high school.
- He's way more mellow than me, but I think he sees
and feels a lot of what I see and feel.
- Well I think Benison's like a character.
- Oh definitely.
- That's what makes him unique, like a cartoon.
He's always talking to his fans on Instagram.
- Bro.
- Bro, this is fire dude, fire.
- That's the one right there, this is fire.
- They've been around me for enough time to know
like this is Benison.
- He can make the most out of any opportunity.
- Very energetic.
- Very loud.
- In a good way though, in a good way.
I think Benison should be with a girl who is
very outgoing as well, she doesn't necessarily
have to match his level cause his level is like.
- [June] Be too crazy.
- Yeah, it's like a different stratosphere.
- Okay so now describe to me what you think
you need in a woman.
- Compassionate, adventurous, curious.
- It may help you to write a list.
On the left hand side write everything you want,
if you could just build the ultimate human,
nobody's perfect, but then on the right hand side,
write a list of everything that you need.
What you cannot live without.
Talk to me a little bit about who has a relationship
that you admired.
- My Mom always says my Dad chased her everywhere she went.
- Are they still in love?
- I wish they would show it more.
I wish they would like be kissing all the time,
and like doing what they used to do and just like,
I don't know, other than that, they're definitely in love.
They sacrificed their whole damn life
so I can do what I'm doing right now, it's nuts.
- What would a girl who's dating you now expect
if you brought her home to your parents?
- I've never actually brought a girl home.
- [Spicy] Never?
- No, it's just like bringing a girl home is kind of
a big deal and Korean specific is very important to them.
When it comes to who I settle with.
Not only comfort, but practicality.
Mom's always like how am I supposed to talk to your girl
if she doesn't speak Korean?
Am I supposed to send her emojis or something?
I'm like Mom, chill, we'll figure it out.
So it's like yo, what if I bring a girl
and I teach her Korean every day and she speaks better
than me, mom's like make that happen.
- Why do you feel like you're ready for a relationship now?
Or to start dating seriously now?
- So I mentioned earlier, I wanna be at this crazy,
perfect spot, so I've gotten to this place where I'm like,
I'm kinda beautiful the way that I am, I'm kinda like,
and I feel that to the core.
Maybe it's like a journey that I do with someone
or maybe someone helps me get there
or maybe I help someone, whatever that may be.
This process doesn't have to be a solo project.
- I do think that if he found the right person
it would only enhance his life experience.
Someone who gave him that wind beneath his wings.
He would soar, oh god, that's so cheesy.
- Did not mean to use that.
- Hi, hi you guys.
Really excited for Benison,
was going through a ton of people trying to decide
who would be best for Benison based on the things
that he's looking for and I found some good candidates.
Three people, I need your guys' help now deciding, okay?
So the first person who I was thinking is Olivia.
- My name's Olivia, I'm originally from
Boston, Massachusetts, I work in production,
I love creating my own content, going out there
and shooting photos or video.
I feel like my personality's a little assertive,
kind of sarcastic and sometimes I feel like it's
a little too much for dudes out here in LA.
I would love to find someone that is very goal driven.
So if that's you, you know who to call.
- So she's really funny.
- [group[ Yeah, Uh Huh.
- [Spicy] So the next person is Jolesa.
- Hi guys, my name is Jolesa, I am 26 years old.
I am a unit secretary, love what I do, love working
in the hospital, love helping people.
My friends would say I'm funny, they'd definitely say
I'm laid back, I can be a bit stubborn sometimes.
I guess a little bit of what I'm looking for in a partner
is someone who's just as driven as I am and vicious as I am.
You have a good relationship with your family,
like I do with my family.
So that's a little bit about me
and I'll see you soon.
- [Michael] Nice - [June] Yeah, she's so cute.
- [Lucas] I think it's over.
- No, wait, wait, you can not decide yet.
I have one more person.
Just give me a chance, just give me a chance.
Cause I think you might like Carrie too.
- Hello, my name is Carrie.
I write comedy for TV and I am an actor,
you know when people decide to hire me.
What I'm looking for in a partner is someone that can laugh.
And also it would be dope if he thought I was funny.
- [Michael] Dope. - [June] She said dope.
- [Spicy] Points for dope okay.
- I would say that I'm really fun and I like to have fun.
I'm not very good at this whole dating thing.
I usually end up dating people that I already know so
this is terrifying, but I'm up for an adventure.
On that note, it was a pleasure.
- [Spicy] She's cute too.
- [June] Cute pie. - [Lucas] Yeah.
- I wanna hear from you, your pros, your cons.
- Okay so Olivia, she seems to have a very strong
Boston personality and Benison is such a Cali boy.
One thing I did like about her is that she's in to content.
And I know that's weird to say,
but Benison is like
- Documents his life too.
- Content guy.
- [Spicy] Okay so give me some info on Jolesa.
- I mean she's beautiful, family oriented.
Benison's always with his family.
- Always.
- This would just be a wild card in terms of chemistry.
And I just wonder if they would get along in person.
- [Spicy] Last but not least, Carrie.
- She said the word dope and Benison loves,
he loves that word.
- Yeah, you guys were like oh, she said dope.
- Pro, dope, okay.
- That would be one wild date.
- I would just wanna like
- [June] watch that date - Observe
- If they went on a date, at least they could either
leave as friends or as more than that.
Whereas some of the other ones I could see, just like,
not working at all.
- [Spicy] Oh, okay, I see that.
So what is it?
You're gonna have to choose.
- I'm excited, anxious, nervous.
Two people meeting each other, just to meet each other
and just hang out, there's nothing that can go wrong with
that, it's a beautiful thing.
- Hi, how are you?
- How are you?
- Good, how are you? - Awesome.
What's your name?
- Jolesa.
- Benison, hey.
- Bennison - yo, yo.
- Or Jo for short, whichever one.
- Jo for short, which do you prefer?
- Either or.
But most people call me Jo.
- Honestly, I already forgot your name,
you're gonna have to give it to me one more time.
- Jolesa.
- Amazing, I'm gonna call you Jolesa, I like Jolesa.
- Thank you so much.
- You're lookin' awesome, yellow's in right now.
Marigold is fire.
- In there like swim wear.
- You got it, you swimmin', you swimmin'.
Well I'm super stoked for this date.
- Me too, where we going?
- We are doing an escape room.
Have you done that before?
- I have never done an escape room.
- Oh, this is great, I've only done it once.
But I think this'll be fun.
- I think it'll be fun too.
- We'll try to escape the room, You ready?
- [Jolesa] Yes - Let's do this.
- Let's go.
- Yeah, we about to escape.
- [Jolesa] I know.
- We're about to break free from a room.
- What happens if we can't escape,
are they gonna be like well sorry.
- I don't know what happens when we don't escape.
Yo, we've made it out to the escape room.
- Yes.
- You excited?
- I am excited.
- I'm pumped.
- We might not make it so.
- I think we're gonna make it.
- You think so?
- How do you spell Jolesa?
- J O L E S A
- Shout out to Mom for a dope name, yeah.
Is there a stair case there or something?
- There is a staircase, it looks like
people of my nature tend to run from, yeah, no.
- Let me see that key.
- Looks like a weapon.
- It does right, like you can
all these open right?
- Yep.
- [Both] Oh! Woohoo!
- Oh, that's good, okay.
- What do I do with this?
- I have no idea,
we bout to die okay?
We about to die. - What is this.
- Oh, where does this door go to?
- [Benison] Oh does this open?
- Who's going in there?
You go first. - I got you, I got you girl.
- Ookay okay.
Oh no.
- Yo.
- That was fantastic.
It was a little scary though, I was grabbin' onto my date.
It had some scary parts into it.
- We just had a really nice walk.
- Yes, a long nice walk
- And we made it to Bsweet.
- It's dope, I like it.
It's pronounced hallo hallo, not halo halo.
- And I got the rootbeer float baby.
- It's good.
Benison's really nice, of course he's handsome.
Hopefully we get to see each other again.
Hopefully we keep in contact
and we see where it goes from here.
- [Benison] Hi!
- Benison.
- How are you?
- Good, how you doin' love?
- I'm awesome.
- Okay I hope the date was awesome.
- The date was sweet.
- It was sweet.
Okay give me some feedback, how was it?
- I think we had a lot more in common
than I thought we would.
- It seems like there was a lot of chemistry
between Jolesa and Benison.
- I can't believe he forgot her name, right off the bat.
- We talked about music a little bit, which we kinda got
into, culture was super cool.
Just learning about her family,
we have a lot in common there.
It was like we were friends already.
- From this experience, I think Bennison learned
to just be more open about his dating life.
- So then what about the romantic chemistry?
- Yo, romantic chemistry?
Hmm, I don't think I was like in that realm,
like balls to the walls, like dude have to make this happen.
This is it, girl, Jolesa's like, I mean she has this swagger
that I really appreciate and she's doing her thing,
I feel like I would have to go on more dates.
- Okay.
- I do think that this experience really helped
Benison having to open up about his family.
- What's the best thing that could happen
if you brought Jolesa home?
- Parents are stoked, they're like having a good time.
They're learning about her,
they're learning about my interests through her.
And then it's more of the conversation after,
when I'm having a drink with Dad when everyone's sleeping.
Yo, that chick was fire, that girl's sweet,
I'm so glad you brought her home.
- I feel super confident about Benison and Jolesa.
By the end of the date they were hugging
and like posing together in the selfies.
- I feel like they should go out again.
- Why not, you know?
- Are we gonna go back out with her?
- Yeah, I think so.
She's only been here for a month.
She has so much of LA to see.
- Benison, I wish you the best of luck with Jolesa.
Board sounds like they did great.
Trust your friends, let them in.
I will see you later, good luck.
- Awesome, thank you.
- [Spicy] Bye.
- [Narrator] Soulpancake