sadly Alec Holowka the man who Zoe Quinn of gamergate accused of
domestic abuse and sexual assault before it was proven has taken his own life and
it has the internet divided and we really need to talk about mental health
and cancel culture and everything that's going on right now what's up everybody
this is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the problem but
focus on the solution if you knew what I try to do I try to take topics from the
YouTube community and pop culture and I've been kind of branching out into
different aspects to a lot of people have been sending me topics about
canceled culture and stories like this so anyways if you're into that make sure
you subscribe and ring the notification bell so to start off check it out first
off I'm not monetizing this video but I'm going to extend the free copies that
are available of my new book cancelled until YouTube canceled culture until end
of day tomorrow so end of day September first alright and this isn't me just
trying to peddle my book alright those of you who are just now meeting me like
I was attacked by canceled culture earlier this year the book I share my
experience but I also analyze a bunch of other situations that have gone on and
like I don't know man like just read it and try to just understand what what
these people are going through because at its worst we have what just happened
to Alec Holowka where he ends his own life and I'm gonna be talking about in this video
there have been other creators or other people just in general who have ended
their own life because of the online hate mob or like they get into this
really dark space a great example or multiple grading
examples of this I highly but command you all check out the book so you've
been publicly shamed by Jon Ronson I just finished that book there's multiple
stories in there about people being publicly shamed and things like that and
ending their own lives and like yeah we gotta we got to do something about this
so anyways I'm gonna try to keep the story brief I had to go and do some
research because I just heard about this but this all happened very very quickly
within a week the allegations came out Alec lost his job Alex took his own life
so Zoe Quinn people have their opinions about her I really don't have any I
don't know much about her we'll talk about some of her history in a minute by
anyways she accused Alec of some very serious things in a Twitter thread she
has deactivated her Twitter but you can find what she stated in other videos
it's it's pretty rough alright but anyways after that came out
the internet eight mob came after him and he ended up getting fired now he was
a game developer for an indie an indie company and yeah like a lot of things
came up about you know what we've talked about on this channel like in the
projared story like different power dynamics and things like that but yeah
it sounds like they were in a consensual relationship and it sounds like there
was some abuse going on but anyways his sister Alex sister today just released
this statement and his sister and you'll learn why in a minute
had to private her Twitter alright so here is what his sister Eileen had to
say Alec halakhah and by the way I'm sorry if I'm
mispronouncing this brother and best friend passed away this morning those
who know me will know that I believe survivors
I've always been I've always done everything I can to support survivors
those suffering from mental illness and those with chronic illness Alec was the
victim of abuse and he also spent a lifetime battling mood and personality
disorders I will not pretend that he was not also responsible for causing harm
but deep down he was a person who wanted to offer people care and kindness it
took him a while to figure out how over the last few years with therapy and
medication Alec became a new person the same person he'd always been but without
any of the darkness he was calm and happy positive and loving obviously
change is a slow process and it wasn't perfect but he was working towards
rehabilitation and a better life in the last few days he was supported by many
Manitoba crisis services and I want to thank everyone there for their support
I want to thank Adam Saltzman for staying up late talking with us and
reminding Alec that there was a future my family has and always will be the
most important thing to me please give us all time to heal we tried our best to
support Alec but in the end he felt he had lost too much I currently do not see
a place for myself in games or on Twitter I will be looking at the
responses to this post I appreciate everyone who has reached out to me over
the last few days for anyone who is in a time of Darkness I encourage you to
reach out for support there are always people who will be there for you alright
so yeah we need to talk about few things because yeah this situation has the
internet split and it's it's sad all around all right
the reality is is that we don't know we don't know okay like has Zoe Quinn done
shady things in the past yes does this automatically mean that
she's lying about what happened with Alec no but doesn't mean that she's
telling the truth no but the thing is is that people are
just losing it on Twitter right now and it's just the worst like so people are
screaming at Zoe Quinn being like Alec apologise because something that Zoe
Quinn said in her statement was that Alec has since apologised right so
people are you know questioning the timing and what you do this because
apparently she was having financial troubles and things like that but listen
to me very carefully anybody trying to blame Zoe Quinn for Alex suicide like
that is absolutely brutal and not cool like we saw this happen when etiqa took
his own life and people are blaming keemstar like blaming someone for a
suicide is just the worse now I saw like when I was researching this I saw
someone who was talking about this zoe quinn situation and they brought up
valid points and they were talking about people like andy signor or most recently
pro jared or people like chris hardwick um it happened to Johnny Depp these are
men who were falsely accused of very serious things by women but that doesn't
mean that we can just you know say oh well this person's lying this person's
lying like this is why the court of the public opinion is just insane it needs
to be handled in the court of law like I can tell you from personal experience I
have more female friends than I then I want to even my count
that have been sexually assaulted have gone to the authorities and nothing
happened because they didn't have enough
evidence because they didn't believe them like you guys like one of the
reasons the whole me to movement happened was because this happened this
happens all the time now like does it mean does it not mean that there are
some bad actors out there who are going to make false accusations does it not
mean that there's you know there are you know both women and men can do this and
just make up stories because of a breakup or because of ulterior motives
of course but it's not it's not our place to decide that you know what I
mean but like on the other side of it the people on Zoey
side I get what they're saying too because like I said I have friends who
have been through this and not been believed and people are saying like you
guys are now using this as an excuse to not believe women and it's disgusting
and it's like yeah like just all around it's it's just sad and like everybody
wants to be judge jury and executioner here's my opinion on the whole situation
and those of you who know me I am NOT a licensed therapist I am NOT a licensed
psychologist but I have many opinions on mental health matters because I worked
in a drug and alcohol treatment center for a little over three years
we specialize in dual diagnosis so addiction as well as mental health and
I'm currently working on my CADC certified alcohol and drug counselor to
work with people with mental health issues as well so we we know we know for
a fact that Alec had some sort of personality disorder which is a type of
mental illness and you guys like I don't know if you've ever known anybody who
has a personality disorder I don't know if you've ever struggled with a
personality disorder but yeah I've worked with many many people who have
had personality disorders some of you might have dated somebody with a
personality disorder like it sucks for everybody involved it's very easy to
think that the person with a personality disorder is trying to hurt you they are
trying to harm you like one of the reasons I talk about borderline
personality disorder so much on this channel is they're such a stigma like
people have such like a hatred right towards people with
BPD like oh this person is purposely doing it like many people with
personality disorders are victims of something themselves and this doesn't
excuse their behavior but some of them are trying to work on it like there are
many people who have found ways to manage their personality disorders and
it sounds like Alex Alec was doing this and I empathize with him like I
empathize with you know his sister was saying he was going to therapy and he
was trying to become a better person and all these things and whatever happened
was Zoe Quinn you know it sounds like you know it was you know years ago and I
feel for the dude because those of you who don't know me too I was a drug
addict for almost ten years and I was a piece of shit all right well I didn't do
the things that Alec was accused of I was an awful person I was an awful
boyfriend I was also an awful son and everything like that but the question
becomes is like like what about the path of redemption like I don't this is why
cancel culture is just such a bitch right like we are trying to convey this
message that there is no path of redemption if you screw up you are just
screwed up for life and I wouldn't be sitting here right now if that was true
like I've been clean and sober for seven years and my life is completely
different like we have to look at these things case-by-case and give people the
opportunity to have a path of redemption we're all constantly changing you
watching this video you're a different person than you were five years ago
so why are we acting like people can't change and this dude apologized to Zoe
we don't know if there were actual criminal things that he did this was
these were all just allegations but shit man like like just the internet
hate mob is just awful and then like his sister his sister had a prime minister
Twitter because like I'm just gonna tell you right now everybody needs to calm
the fuck down like look at these look look at what
people were saying on Twitter today to this man's sister this woman just lost
her brother to suicide and people are out here saying this shit alright over
allegations not even proven over allegations but on the flip side of this
people drove zoe quinn to getting off of twitter by blaming her for this and it
just makes no sense sometimes I honestly feel like with canceled culture when it
gets to this point like nobody's gonna be happy until somebody on both sides
dies like like when this happened when Edeka passed away a couple months ago
people were going after keemstar i was like what do you guys want like are you
guys only gonna be satisfied if if somebody else takes their own life like
calm down like do we not see how sick and twisted and disgusting this is
you're not accomplishing anything like only half these people and the reality
is it's just there's a bunch of angry people in this world like if you're not
in therapy go to therapy I always have a link to therapy that I use it's an
affiliate Lake right but I used to better up all about therapy I truly
believe everybody needs therapy like when I watch what happens online I'm
like fuck man why is everybody so miserable and so angry alright so I want
to end this video with a couple tips and one of the reasons I wrote my book is
because you don't know like you watching this right now you don't know if this is
gonna happen to you like you don't have to be someone in the public spotlight to
have canceled culture come after you like that book I was talking about so
you've been publicly shamed there's a million stories of just regular everyday
people who have had this happen to them the first thing I'm gonna tell you if
you start getting attacked alright especially on Twitter change
your notifications this okay turn all that shit off turn
all of that shit off like I'm letting you know right now I can't see a damn
thing alright like you have to go look for it
I think one of the biggest mistakes anybody makes when they get caught up in
a controversy is they have all their notifications on and they're looking for
this stuff on Twitter like we do not have the research available yet to see
what it what happens to the human psyche when you have thousands of strangers
hundreds of thousands of strangers talking shit to you online so block it
out but people say shitty things to me all the time like when I got cancelled
it was five months ago alright people are still talking shit and guess what I
can't see most of it so if this starts brewing turn those notifications off the
last thing I want to talk about is you know again we don't know if Alec was
guilty if he was innocent we don't know but the reality is is that because of
what happened the internet coming out for him him losing his job he felt that
he lost so much that there was no way to come back and this is this is what
happens like we saw it happen again we saw it just a couple months ago with
Etica if you pay attention to the YouTube community James Charles talks
about how he got to that dark place there's another beauty influencer named
Thomas Halbert he talks about how he got to that dark place and he was this close
to ending his own life and it's because people think that they can't come back
from this like I am so fortunate that I went through my own drug addiction like
I've seen what I can get through you know what I mean so if this ever happens
to you or even if you just lose your job or go through a breakup or just
something like that like you will get through this like
you've got to give it time like something I was taught a long time ago
was don't leave before the miracle happens and when they were saying that
to me they meant like don't leave 12-step meetings
the miracle happens but I use that in everything with life right
like don't quit right before something good is about to happen right and like
this is one of the reasons we've got to keep moving forward even if we feel
depressed or suicidal like if you're feeling suicidal make sure that you
reach out and ask for help I will have numbers and resources down in the
description below all right but just know like things can get better all
right like let me put it this way I want you to think it like for anybody who's
about my age just to give you an example alright my age are in your 20s or
whatever I'm 34 by the way I think about your first love and your first breakup
right they just think about this awful experience that you went through and
think about how you thought you were never ever going to feel better again or
you are never going to get over this breakup but you did right we have to
remember all this shit that we've been through because we can do it again
alright but lastly just a reminder quit participating in these on-line hate mobs
get some help if you're this furious and angry and actual strangers that had
nothing to do with you you need to get help alright but again
like I said my book cancelled inside YouTube cancel culture I'm gonna extend
the free copies until end of day tomorrow September 1st
so check out the description check out the pin comment down below it's at my
website but yeah this is I I don't know man I just I just hope we all wise up
and we don't have to lose anybody else because the court of public opinion and
the internet hate mobs just just go all out on people it's rough
alright but anyways that's all I got for this video subscribe for more I'll be
back with another one tomorrow thanks