There’s a huge difference between being the girl a guy wanted to date, and one he
just wants to have sex with.
If you’re looking for a relationship with a man, then knowing this difference is key.
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Okay, now that that’s out of the way, let’s talk about the difference between being the
girl he wants to date, and being someone he just wants to have sex with.
It’s important to understand that when it comes to men and women, sex means different
things.
You may have heard the expression, “Men need to have sex to fall in love, but women
need to fall in love to have sex.” and while that’s not necessarily true in every instance,
it speaks volumes to how men think about sex.
Now I know this sounds complicated, so I’ll be sure to cover it in more detail in another
video, but for the time being, let’s stick to the question at hand: being datable vs.
someone he just wants to sleep with.
In order to be the girl he wants to date, you have to do one key thing, and that’s
to show him what you have to offer him and a relationship.
The truth is, most single men will have sex with any woman they find at least remotely
attractive, and aside from looks, not much else matters.
This means they don’t worry about her confidence levels, self-respect or ambitions; they don’t
question what kind of partner she would be in terms of supportive or kind; and don’t
think about the future with that person at all.
Instead, all they think about is “I can score with this chick.”
Men may try to tell you otherwise, but believe me, I’ve done my fair share of research
and even though some guys are shy to admit it, sometimes all they’re looking for is
sex.
When it comes to choosing a woman to date however, the thought process is much more
complex.
Meaning there’s a huge difference between someone he’s willing to sleep with and someone
he’s going to want to show off to his friends and family.
So, how do you be the woman he wants to date?
Well, the simple answer is to make him realize that life with you is better than life without
you.
The tricky part about doing this is that it requires balance, meaning you’ll need to
give him a taste of what dating you would be like, without giving him too much so he
doesn’t feel the need to commit to you.
I mean, why would he if he can have you by his side AND keep his single lifestyle afloat.
So, from the top.
The first thing you’re going to want to do is be a little hard to get.
Now, I know this sounds counterproductive seeing as you’re trying to be the girl he
wants to date, but hear me out.
By giving him the chance to pursue you, you’re actually feeding into his deepest desires,
and that’s the chasing game.
Since men are hunters at heart, when they feel they have to work to win you over, you’ll
become that much more valuable to him – this also speaks to why he doesn’t want to date
the girl he picks up at the bar and sleeps with that same night.
The short-lived chase isn’t enough to keep him hooked.
To keep the chase alive let him be the instigator in your dynamic.
That’s not to say you can’t be at all hint that you’re interested, but that when
he’s the one initiating plans and contacting you, you’ll be giving him the kind of challenge
that will get him hooked.
Better yet, when he does come calling you can show him how full and exciting your life
is by not being overly available, and trust me ladies, this will make him want you even
more.
Think about it for a minute, no man or woman for that matter wants to be with someone who’s
boring and has nothing going on in their life.
That’s just setting yourself up for a clingy relationship, and he knows it.
Instead he’ll have to work for your time and attention, which again, makes you that
much more of a prize to be won.
This alone is giving him something that the women he’s casually sleeping with aren’t.
As I mentioned earlier, it’s also important that you show him what a catch you are, and
a busy lifestyle is only the tip of the iceberg.
Where it really matters is how you make him feel.
Since people want to be around those who make them feel good, if you can be the one who
makes him happy in a way that other women aren’t, then you’re on the road to being
the one he wants to date.
To do so, be the person who makes him laugh, or the listener he needs.
The one who makes him smile on a daily basis, and who he can’t get off his mind.
Show him you’re the kind of woman who is thoughtful and kind, and the type who will
support him and be on his side.
If you can make this kind of impact on his day to day life, he’ll want to keep you
around.
Of course this can be extremely tough to pull off, especially if he’s really trying to
score with you, but by being your positive, outgoing self it won’t take long for him
to realize that if he doesn’t lock you down, someone else will come along and do so.
If you’d like to learn some amazing and proven tips for winning men over then check
out the free video presentation on my site.
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Be sure to check it out, I promise it’s worth your time.
Well, there you have it, the difference between the girl he dates and the one he just has
sex with.
Now that you know the secret to mastering this, get going!
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