It's interesting too because I get a lot of guys, especially on my TikTok by the way... a
lot of guys and women who I talk about this stuff and they go, "this is terrible. Just be yourself.
This is a bunch of games." It's like... I don't know if it's a game. It's just the reality. Yeah.
It's not really like... a game is fake, and I get it. You can play into this role so it seems
fake because you're manipulating the situation. But are you manipulating it if this is the way
it works? These are the questions I have in my head all the time when I'm thinking about it.
Is it really... if it works, it works. These are the rules of attraction.
Now of course, you can go really far. You can super manipulate someone and
play it to an evil degree. But what I say to guys is don't text her right away. Don't be
always available. Don't be always there so that you can leave some room for a little bit of chase.
I don't see what's wrong with that. And I get some guys who are like, "that's not me. I'm a lover and
I want to." And it's like alright, do whatever you want. It might hurt you in the end. Yeah, it
also depends on who they're texting too. Some girls they want that guy to text them.
They want that affection. But a lot of girls, they do like when guys wait because they're like,
"what's he doing?" Or "is he gonna text me?" And the anticipation increases so when he finally does
text you it's like "yay, he was thinking about me." I guess that's how it goes. And I guess
if they're gonna message you like that, make it meaningful. Like a follow up sort of deal.
I guess if guys text you for an actual reason to text you like planning another date or something.
I think that's good too. Let's talk about this... have you ever slept with a guy on a first date?
Actually, I have. Actually my ex I did actually. That was, yeah. So just one time?
Yeah, just one time. And then that guy turned out to be your boyfriend? Yeah. Interesting.
Actually, I did have another one night stand and he was never my boyfriend. It didn't end up
working out. Which honestly, they never do, to be honest. The odd case it turns into something, but
no. What made you want to do that with him? You know what I... What was it about that date where
you were like, "whoa, yeah this guy." I think I was like... since the two years I've definitely
been in quite a few little flings here and there and stuff. And I think basically what
happened was I think I was kind of like on a fling with a relationship with somebody.
And they screwed me over or whatever. And I went through like, lost a bit of a piece of myself.
And I was like, you know what, I'm always trying to go and date these people. Why don't I just try
a one night stand and see what it's about? So you were.... yeah, it's interesting. You were really
prepared for that. Yeah I was like, you know what, whatever happens happens. Let's just see it,
see what happens and maybe we'll hit it off really good. And he becomes your boyfriend.
Not that one. Oh okay. So this guy was the guy who didn't become your boyfriend. No.
I was like, this is the most unnatural thing ever. Like, comes over to my place and I'm just like,
what the heck? After, I felt like shit. And that's why like... Oh, you feel like shit, why? Well... I
mean, a lot of times... It wasn't good? Well okay, well no. It's never the same. You have to have
that emotional... I feel like when you're dating someone or you have feelings for somebody, it's a
lot better to be honest. Some might argue with me, but that's definitely the way that I feel.
And also because I never really did that too much, that made me like, you know what I mean... girls
get a little bit... like... especially me, I get a little bit insecure a little bit and I'm like,
you don't really know this person. You literally were just messaging them on Snapchat or Instagram
and now they're in your bed and you just the deed, which is something that I used
to take a while before I even did that. Yeah, for a woman it's a big safety issue,
emotionally and physically. Yeah. So I was like... and then the next day, it's like "hey,
see ya." You know what I mean, get their Uber and it's like, oh shit. You know what I mean? Okay,
that's not for me. That's not my thing. So I now definitely have higher expectations for myself.
And that's normally how I know I weed people out pretty easily that way. And that's a lot of times
why like first dates, that's one of my other big red flags. You can tell if a guy's trying
to sleep with you or not. Guys sometimes will play a little bit of the game and stuff and you know.
Have you ever had a one night stand that was not on a date. Like you just met him at a bar
or something? Uh, no. No. Any reason why? Um, well, probably because when I was I was
in Peterborough and I just didn't really do that, to be honest. I always had my friends and stuff so
I didn't end up ever doing the deed because I just.. that's just, you know, sex for me is like,
you know, I kind of... I like to, you know, that's more for relationship stuff. Or if I'm
really feeling it with somebody. Or if we've been on a few dates and it's feeling right, then sure.
It is better when there's a connection isn't it? Yeah for sure. I don't like to... I don't
want to be labeled or classified either. I don't like the feeling of that. It doesn't feel good.
Classified as what? Just a girl that just, you know... You can say the word. Being classified as
easy. That's the best way to say it, easy. I don't want to ever be easy. I don't want that to be my
label or guys to be like, she was easy and then another guy's purposely trying to be nice to me so
then they can get... you know what I mean? I don't want to be that person. Guys, listen to what she's
saying here. This is really important stuff. This is important because you're hearing it right here
from the horse's mouth. Women tend to wait longer to have sex because they don't want to be slut
shamed. Yeah 100% and don't think it's because we're not attracted to you because we could be
really attracted. But we just don't want to... we are also trying to feel you guys out too and see
where you guys are... what your true intentions are. Because most guys you can tell maybe on the
first few dates they might be trying. But after they still want to see you and they're texting you
and they're putting in that effort then normally you know that they're a little bit more into you.
But it's all different. But you know what, that's 100% of girls. A lot of girls are afraid of that.