Hi everybody! I'm Melissa and welcome back to CloudMom. Today I'm back in my
favorite place, my studio which used to be a baby's room now it's my girls room
and I'm answering a question from a viewer which I love doing and this one
is about having babies close in age and it's coming in from Natasha. So Natasha
thanks so much for writing in and here's your question. Hi Melissa. I just found
you on Pinterest when I searched having kids close in age. Thank you.
My daughter is five months old and I just found out that I'm pregnant again.
When I watched your video and you said the same thing to your first and second
I thought I might see if I could just ask you a few questions. And I'm glad
that you did. Mainly I'm just afraid for all the "well that's close together" and
"weren't you using protection", etc. comments and I'm just wondering how you
dealt with them. It's still pretty surreal, as we weren't planning it, so
it's a bit of surprise. Thank you so much Natasha. Natasha this
is one of those if I had a nickel kind of questions because I cannot even tell
you how many times and it's got a number up until the hundreds if not the
thousands at this point people have made to me what they thought were funny but I
kind of felt to be slightly derogatory comments about how close in age my kids
are, how many we have, you know, why I had them in rapid succession. I mean I wish I
had a nickel, okay? I remember first telling my group of new mom friends when
I was pregnant with my second baby who turned out to be Lachlan, when I had only
Headley and he, I got pregnant when he was five months old and we were out to
dinner for the holidays because I had gotten pregnant at around Halloween, and
these mothers looked at me with the greatest look of shock. It was as if they
were gonna fall off their chairs. It is if as if I had like turned into a monkey
or something at the table. That is how shocked they were then I was already
having another baby. And for people that, you know, don't like to take on
a lot or are happy with one baby or like two sort of know that they're in control of
things or in command of things, you know it's not what they might necessarily
choose to do, but in your case it's a surprise.
In my case it's it was, you know, what we chose to do because I started later and
I knew I wanted to have a big family, I knew I want to have a lot of kids, and I
kind of felt like time was not on my side. I'll be perfectly honest with you. I
had my first baby when I was 34 years old.
Had I been 24 years old I might have gone two, two, two, like my mom did or really
spaced out the babies, but I knew I wanted a big family and I didn't want to
wait 2 or 3 years before that second baby. I wanted to make sure you know I
could have that second baby and I'm so glad that I have him. So anyway the
derogatory comments, they will come and they won't just come you know every now
and then they will come a lot because when it comes to having babies, raising
children, even though it's one of the most personal things and everybody has
to you know follow their own tune and beat to their own drum, for some reason people
feel that it's completely fair game to make any sort of comment they want. And
they will always do that and especially people who you know, our parents and you
know now maybe don't have young kids anymore they always feel like there's
sort of experts and that they can sort of say whatever they want and I think
you can take it in kind of a negative way but usually they really don't mean
anything, they just want to kind of connect with you and see what your
thought process was and it's not necessarily as critical as you might
hear it. So with all that said, what would I do? You have to ignore those comments
and don't get all ruffled by them, don't get frustrated, don't get bitter. Just
sort of laugh them off and say yep. I wouldn't say we didn't plan it because
you don't want your baby to know that but I would just say listen we're so
delighted we're thrilled it's a blessing and smile and move on. And that's really
what I would do and just preserve like the good karma. So to sum it up, I would
say yes we're having our babies. They're very close in age that's what worked for
us you know, we're really excited about this baby. It's gonna be challenging, but
we're really up for it. You know, thank you so much for your interest or whatever
you want to say. Take it as just being somebody being interested in you, laugh
it off, walk away, just be happy for all the blessings that you have. That's my
advice. So I hope that's helpful. Please write in again in the comments
and let me know what you think and thank you so much for watching CloudMom.