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Melody and I, we were going through things with the kids
and stuff like that.
And Melody put the kids in therapy,
and, you know, the judge just saw it right for the father
to receive therapy as well.
DOMINIQUE: Hey. - How are you?
- Martell, good. - How's it going?
Good to see you.
Good to see you as well.
In the beginning, I was a little hesitant.
I guess I always thought that I got it, you know?
But going to therapy, you know, it
gives you an outlet to be able to open up and be
vulnerable without being judged and know
that I'm not being judged.
And I feel that that is helping a lot.
Thank you for seeing me today.
Absolutely.
[INDISTINCT] tonight.
Yeah, I know.
I typically don't work this late.
I know, so I appreciate you.
DOMINIQUE: Absolutely.
So let's talk about your holistic wellness and balance.
I'm off balance right now, though.
I'm so glad you admit that.
Yeah, most definitely.
I mean, this-- I mean, it's tough at times.
You know, like-- like tonight.
The babysitter kind of cancelled on me last minute.
I'm trying to rip and run, and things of that nature.
It gets challenging.
When situations don't go as planned,
I want to know more about how you function.
I know you can kind of ride the waves, but--
Not tonight.
You should have saw me.
Yeah, no.
Tonight, no.
I got mad at my mama.
I got mad at the babysitters.
Yeah, because people are not doing what
they say they're going to do.
Supposed to be here at this time.
You're not here.
You know, some situations might get to me.
I'm ready to cuss somebody out, though.
You know what I'm saying?
Like, I love my mom to death, but why
it always got to be an argument when
I ask you to watch my children.
And I give you this and I'll give you that.
And then when I'm hesitant on giving it to you,
it's because of you're not helping me out.
You said if you don't do what's expected,
there's a little bit of tension on their side.
And then if they don't do what you expect,
there's a little-- so it seems like it could
be an unhealthy relationship.
I would definitely say so, yeah.
A healthy relationship is equal.
And it's almost like I know I got to have your back,
and I know you're going to have my back.
And when it's one-sided, I mean, that's not cool to be real.
I know I've been selfish in the past, and it cost me dearly.
Where's your dad?
He's in Huntsville somewhere.
I'm not sure.
I haven't talked to him in over a year.
Something happened?
Well, you know, he was incarcerated for, like,
27 years.
When he got out, we kind of connected.
So, you know, I want to get us some us time.
You know, we really haven't had that.
THEO: No, we haven't had that in a while, man.
MARTELL: We haven't even talked about you being incarcerated.
We ain't never talked about you not being a part of my life.
We never talked about any of that.
And it's been 20-some years.
He was coming around and things like that.
And I guess as time progressed, he kind of, like, pulled away.
Do you feel like there's, like,
a void with him not being there at this point in your life?
Oh, no.
DOMINIQUE: OK.
I would never say I'm like this
because my dad wasn't there.
I feel that's, like, a cop out when
people say something like that. - Agreed.
It's crazy.
My mom would sometimes say, son, you are who you are.
But she said that because of my younger brother.
You're the oldest?
Yeah, I'm five years older than Montez, yeah.
Wow.
Yeah, he's-- he's a little bit on the bad side, but, you know,
he's a good dude.
Me and my brother, Montez, you know, we have the same mom.
Single parent growing up, and it was a struggle.
It was tough for her, but she did the best she could.
I take full responsibility for the person that I am.
I don't fault my mom nor my dad for anything
that I've gone through.
Is it time for you to reassess those relationships?
The way that they knew you before, you're changing.
Your homework is going to be to try
to make your position and your relationships, even your most
intimate relationships, conducive to your future
and where you're going.
Yeah.
DOMINIQUE: Yeah.
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