- [Voiceover] This season of Sex Ed
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Stick around until after the episode
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- How was she in bed?
Sade was excellent in bed.
- [Sade] He's really good in bed.
He made me finish like a bunch before finishing himself.
Yeah, he's great.
He's like really good in bed.
(relaxing music)
- [Interviewer] Was sex
talked about in your home growing up?
- [Sade] I actually was very much
an abstinent till marriage kind of person.
I think when puberty started to hit,
you start feeling things, and body changes
and all that occurs.
I had sex for the first time at like 16.
I cried afterwards, had a lot of guilt.
Really fun, great experience, poor guy.
I knew that there were like sexual things
that happened in life,
but it wasn't something that I thought was like
applicable to me, kind of, until puberty.
I met Garrett my freshman year at Yale.
I had come to college very much trying to be single.
- [Garrett] I actually remember
the circumstances of this very well
cause it was the first or second day of October break,
freshman year of college.
- [Sade] Yale's like a really small school.
So, like, I've interacted with him,
kind of, on and off since.
I, kind of like, know who he dated and stuff like that.
But, I didn't know him very well personally.
And then, moved to LA in June of 2020
and he matched with me on a dating app
and so, we went on a date again.
I did just ghost him.
I wouldn't do that if I could go back and fix things.
- [Garrett] Tell me the story of your first hookup.
Say we were in someone's dorm room.
We were playing that game. Never have I ever.
I remember specifically because
during the game of never having ever,
I shared that I had never had a blowjob to completion.
People start to head out one by one
over the course of the night
and then as luck would have it,
Sade and I were the last ones sticking around.
One thing led to another.
- [Sade] I don't remember much about it.
I remember him being very nice and very kind.
But outside of that,
I feel like I was kind of really very much
exploring sexual bounds in my life.
And it wasn't anything that was like particularly memorable.
Though, a lot of that first, kind of, semester hookups
bled together for me.
- [Garrett] What's one thing she could improve upon in bed?
We were like both 18 at the time.
So I think the, you know, the ceiling of how good it can be
is only so high.
At 18, I'm sure she was putting critiques at my end
and I didn't even know what I was looking for.
- [Sade] When I have hookups now,
I talk a lot more about like what we like,
and I'm much more comfortable in bed.
And I feel like when I was hooking up with people in that
freshman year head space where a lot of my sexual
encounters were kind of validation driven,
I don't think I would have spoken up if
something didn't go well.
Or if I didn't finish and now
I'm much more open about that stuff.
So if anything was poor,
it probably was like situational and not him as a person.
- [Garrett] Describe your relationship with her
as it stands now. Casual friends. Yeah.
- [Sade] Acquaintances.
- [Garrett] Yeah.
I moved to LA like less than a year ago but,
we matched on Bumble when I got here and hung
out and then we, kind of, lost touch and then she hit me up
and was like, Hey, do you want to be in this video?
And I was like, yeah, why not?
- [Sade] I reached out to him for this video, you know,
in doing that, I apologized for ghosting him.
And I was like, Hey, like just asking hookups around LA,
would you want to come shoot a video about us hooking up?
And he was like, yeah, sure.
Which I think says something really, really nice about him.
I think he's really wonderful and open and kind
and is someone I would want to pursue as a friend.
I just don't see us ever going somewhere romantically.
- [Luke] I met Sade via dating apps.
We met in a park near where I live.
- [Sade] Luke and I matched on a couple of dating apps.
And then we went on a date in a park.
- [Luke] And we had a fun time chatting
and were connecting on a lot of levels.
- [Sade] And then, we decided to hook up that night
and we've, kind of, hooked up casually since.
- [Luke] Did you use protection?
Yes, we definitely used condoms.
- [Sade] On the first round, yes. On the second round, no.
I feel really bad about it. That's definitely not smart.
Like I don't recommend that,
but I, again, have the birth control implant.
So, I feel sometimes a little bit better about that, but no.
Oops.
- [Luke] How was she in bed?
Sade was excellent in bed.
- [Sade] He's really good in bed.
So, our first round lasted for a really long time.
I remember that he made me finish a bunch
before finishing himself.
Yeah, he's great.
He's like really good in bed.
- [Luke] It's built on a lot of communication. There's this,
I think, misconception that people have
wordless, passionate, amazing sex
that, I think, comes from movies.
And that's just really not the case.
- [Sade] He's really good at
focusing on his partner in bed and
that's something, I think, I don't always find.
Very adventurous, very kind.
First person to ever make me squirt,
which was really cool.
And like, he's pretty committed
to doing that every time.
- [Luke] What happened next?
We both were very okay with keeping things pretty casual.
- [Sade] I don't know.
I'm a big believer in casual sex can be casual sex
and not every relationship needs to be romantic.
Sometimes I think about it, like when he comes over
and we, you know, sit and talk for a long time,
And I'm like, Hmm, maybe this is
the relationship that I want to have.
- [Luke] And then I think we also offer each other
some pretty important emotional support that was unexpected.
- [Sade] I was sexually assaulted a couple months ago
and Luke was just really there for me.
And like, he's the first person I slept with
after the assault and in the middle of the hookup,
I broke down and he immediately caught it.
He was very careful to like ask if I was okay.
Like even if it ended horribly tomorrow,
like I could never regret hooking up with someone who has
just been such a wonderful support system at such a hard
time in my life.
- [Luke] All I'd hope for is that
we remain on good terms and that,
that we look back on
whatever we've had fondly.
- [Jess] So we met back in 2018
interning at Goldman Sachs together,
- [Sade] Jess and I met
in our 2018 Goldman Sachs summer internship.
She worked in finance and I worked in HR and we sat next to
her on the first day.
And I remember looking at her and being like, oh my gosh,
that is such a hot suit.
- [Jess] She's beautiful.
And she's wearing this black suit. And I remember thinking,
I want to be her friend.
- [Sade] Tell me the story of your first hookup.
Jess and I have just like made out again,
like we met in 2018 and then this weekend is the first time
we've seen each other in person since then. So like,
it's cool to have those conversations.
It's definitely
more like emotional, less physical.
- [Interviewer] How good is she as a kisser?
- [Sade] Great, incredible.
She's really hot.
- [Jess] It was good.
She said it was a good kisser so that was good.
She was good. Solid 10 out of 10.
- [Sade] I know she's like
weary about coming across as like a ****boy,
but like, I think she's really, really awesome.
And I also like know about her other dating life and I know
that she's good in bed.
From what I've heard.
- [Jess] Do you ever think about them fantasize about them?
I wouldn't say I fantasize about her or
think about her in that way,
just because we do have like this incredible friendship and
we've talked about dating and we've talked about going into
a relationship together and I don't think I would want to
jeopardize our friendship anytime soon,
just for the chance of dating.
- [Sade] Even if we don't kind of go that route.
She's definitely like a platonic life partner,
someone I want in my life,
like we've talked about like buying a house together or like
we have that, like,
if she turns 40 we both are single,
we're getting married type thing,
but it's definitely like a different relationship.
Then a lot of the other ones I've had in the past.
- [Interviewer] Is there any chance
that you guys would like cross that
boundary while you're here and hookup?
Or kiss or anything like that?
- [Jess] I mean maybe kiss,
but I don't think we would hook up cause that's a pretty
hard boundary for me.
- [Sade] I think it's a relationship
that I'm really, really,
really scared to ruin just as one of the best people I've
ever met.
So I think that my question is always going to be there.
I would be down to,
I just don't want to ever do something that would like ruin
the relationship that we've built. And like,
I think it's hard to hook up with somebody and then have
them go back to long distance and like not talk again.
So I don't know.
- [Jess] I think in the past,
I really struggled with having that line between friends and
hookups and partners. And I think,
especially with our friendship,
I don't want it to go anywhere anytime soon.
So I want to work hard to make sure that doesn't happen or
jeopardize that in any way.
- [Interviewer] We asked her to rank her hookups.
Where do you think you fell?
- [Luke] I think she'd rate me pretty well in Bed.
Maybe not, maybe not.
- [Garrett] I guess I was 18 at the time.
God knows what I was doing in there. I was, I was.
- [Interviewer] Out of these 3, who was the best hookup.
- [Sade] Luke.
Not like, not a question.
- [Interviewer] Who was the worst.
- [Sade] Sorry Garrett, has to be Garrett just cause like,
I don't remember it very much. He might've been incredible.
Also it was years ago. He's had time to improve.
Right? So like I assume there's been an upward trajectory.
I don't have any regrets about my sexual experiences in
life. I think that's something I'm,
I'm grateful to have explored.
And I'm grateful that I gave myself the grace and the time
to like explore that.
Even if it wasn't the healthiest thing ever,
I've grown a lot as like a sexual person.
I'm really vocal now.
And like I asked for what I want and I discussed sexual
situations in advance.
I'm also a pretty like adventurous and open.
And I really like a lot of those things about myself,
which I think makes me a fun partner to have in bed.
If that's something you're into.
- Oh, let's talk about first impression.
What are you noticing here?
- I feel like this is a sex toy.
- That's a good guess.
- This my friend gifted me.I mean,
I have it.
- This is nice.
Good color. Really just great colors.
- If you are going to
go to battle with one of these devices,
I would hold this one. Yeah.
You can hurt someone with that.
- Do we get some of these?
- Alright, you want to learn about a couple of these too?
Do you want to read some cue cards?
- Yeah. Yeah.
Okay. I was like, I'm going scared.
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I'm the number one person that's completely ignorant to all
things sex.
So I'm definitely like looking at this and be like,
I didn't know.
We had that many different parts of our bodies.
- I haven't dabbled in a long time,
so it's good to get reacquainted with these.
- That's it.
- That's it? Oh, that's easier than I thought.
- Oh, that was fun.
Thank you guys.
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You guys
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