- One of the most amazing things about life,
it's also one of the hardest, and that's making a choice.
No matter what we do, the different things that we try,
the different paths that we take;
whether we wanted to take them,
or somebody told us that we needed to take them;
we do these things and they're supposed to help us
come to some kind of conclusion.
Ideally, what are we going to do with ourselves?
What are we going to do with our lives?
And every step we take, we really hope
we'll come to this aha moment,
that's going to indicate that,
so that it will be the easiest thing in the world to choose.
But again, it's still a choice and choices are challenging.
So, even after all the trials and experiences,
what do you do when you genuinely don't know what to do?
Good morning, good life, (screen whooshing)
welcome back to Amy TV. (screen tingling)
I was inspired by this idea because of Jen or Jenesis.
She sent me an email and it said,
"Hi Amy, I'm struggling with career exploration.
I'm getting my PhD in a couple of months
but I know I want to pursue non-academic jobs.
But for now, that's it, that's all I know for sure.
Tough to figure out ideas for the right target jobs for me.
Thanks for all you do, Jen."
This is such a prime example, right?
We gave something a try, we pursued a path.
We're actually finishing the PhD,
like that's dope, amazing job, Jen.
We know exactly what people will think
when we have that degree, that we should do next,
which is why you're saying to me,
"I don't know that I want to do
any academic work in particular with this degree,"
because that is a foregone conclusion
of those who have checked that same milestone.
It's really interesting, right?
You've got the degree, maybe it's something else
or you have this other career path that you took,
life in general.
We're hoping that they will help us figure things out,
but then we also get to a point,
especially if we're further along in the process
of making a decision
that it might
be limiting to us instead,
there's a little bit of parallelization going on.
I could go full on what a normal person would do
in this situation, or I can think a little bit bigger
because I don't want to be compartmentalized.
It doesn't matter if you have a PhD;
it doesn't matter if you've graduated college;
it doesn't matter how much work experience that you have.
No matter where you are right now,
if you're thinking to yourself, like Jen,
"What do I do, if I really don't know what to do?"
you should be asking yourself this question:
how can I be an instrument for good?
Because the fact of the matter is,
that we are here to serve.
When we think too much about,
"I have this degree and I have this experience,
and I know I could do that,"
it's very egocentric,
and if we're trying to not just
use the ego for positive things,
but understand how we can use them in a way
that helps others,
we have to consider those others a lot more.
What is it that I have achieved so far?
And what is it that I'm good at?
And what is it that people would like to see from me?
People being those you serve,
not those who are holding expectations, difference.
We always love to hear the stories
that the people who got one kind of degree
and then went on to go do some crazy other
type of work instead,
because that certification does not define you.
It is just another step in the process.
When you start to open your mind to,
"How am I an instrument?
How am I a messenger?
How do I serve?"
and also then take into consideration those details
that you have in your arsenal, in your toolbox,
then you can get more creative
about what it is that you can do.
And then after that, you just got to do something.
You have to choose something.
It's continuing to be the experience that you build.
No one's going to be able to tell you,
"Go in this direction, try this, do that,"
because we would really just be going
for those other things,
that would have automatically been assumed of us already,
if we were just taking into consideration
what everybody else in the world thought that we should do.
We will not know until we experience it for ourselves:
you've got to try something.
You have to try something and say, "That sucked,
I don't want to do that anymore,"
and you have to try something and say,
"Okay, there were good things about that.
There were other things I didn't love about it,"
and measure them accordingly.
But you need to measure your own experience,
rather than looking outward
for what is going to work well for you.
What we're really hoping for, is that we get to a point
where we have that big aha moment, right?
It's just like, oh I figured it out.
I feel like I can say that there was a point in my life
where I didn't know what I wanted to do,
but I was just dabbling.
I had played with video a little bit,
I was experimenting with social media,
I was working in politics at the time,
I was doing all kinds of random stuff,
following a path that I had chosen
and trying to navigate whether or not I liked it,
which I was still measuring.
And also just trying other things,
so that I knew that the world didn't stop
with just that PhD path, right?
This is what I think the world wants from me.
So I'm going to try it,
but I'm also going to try some other things.
The day that I realized I was learning a skillset
that could then go on to be who I am today,
first of all, had no clue about that right off the bat.
And second of all, it was just an opportunity
that I tried something new,
and I started to get that feedback
and that positive feedback about other things
that I was trying, that I might be good at,
and that might be called of me,
was an indication that I might be doing something
in the right direction,
especially since it was bringing me joy.
I don't think you have to be
the most passionate person in the world
to find the right career path for yourself,
because we don't want to ruin passion either.
We just need to find that purpose;
that purpose that when we are in our groove,
we're in the right place, at the right time
that we need to make money (fingers clicking)
at this, because this is working.
That will never happen,
until you try something.
So, ask yourself, "How can I be an instrument for good?
How can everything I've been doing,
help me to find what is that calling, for me?
What are people calling me for?"
They aren't going to call, until you give it a try.
Jen, thank you so much for opening up to me
and replying to my email and telling me all about this.
I was very excited to share this in a video today.
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