How do I balance myself between attachments and detachments?
Sadhguru: Drop all this nonsense about detachment, attachment, everything.
The process is just this, you cannot do life unless you’re involved with it. Is that a fact? Is that a fact?
Participants: Yes
Sadhguru: You cannot do life unless you’re involved with it.
Now is this involvement becoming an entangling process or a liberating process, that’s all it is.
If your involvement is leading you towards more joy and more freedom within you, what’s the problem?
If your involvement is becoming entangling and causing misery to you and everybody around you,
then there’s a problem, isn’t it?
The problem is not of involvement, the problem is only of entanglement.
An entanglement is happening to you because you got a disease, it’s an infectious disease.
Anything that you get touch; you’ll get infected by it.
If I give you a bar of gold and ask you to hold it in your hands for two days, third day you can’t give it back.
You got infected by it. Yes?
And this is not just with a bar of gold, even if I give you a brick, if you hold it in your hands for three days,
after that you’re not willing to give it up because you got infected by it.
If I give you a lump of earth (Taps on his thighs - denoting the body) hmm, it’s a lump of earth, isn’t it?
If I give you this and a day comes and I say, ‘Give it up,’ (Laughter) you will cry (Laughs)
as if something is being taken away from you. Your problem is you’re coated with an adhesive.
Wherever you go, just about anything sticks to you.
(A participant’s phone rings) Now the phone is stuck to you. (Laughter)
You cannot even come to a Darshan keeping your phone down, ‘Just in case…’
Just in case in this forty minutes if you have an emergency, you must have the phone on, isn’t it?
(Laughs) So anything that’s given to you, you get stuck to it not because there’s
any problem with the damn phone or the brick or the bar of gold, there’s no problem with any of them.
The problem is you are coated with an adhesive, so it’s better you don’t touch anything.
(Laughter) Anything that you touch will stick to you.
So, we said, ‘Let us make our involvement selective or one-pointed.
Let us not touch anything that comes our way because we are coated with glue.
If you’re not coated with glue, you could touch everything and there’s no problem,
but you are coated with glue right now. With this coating of adhesive,
it’s best that you don’t touch a speck of dust because it’ll stick to you.
I want you to just imagine yourself, all the things that you have touched in some way they are stuck to you,
I want you to imagine they’re physically stuck to you right now.
What a mountain of a human being you are right now. (Laughs) Yes, you’re a mountain, isn’t it?
Just try to walk. We would like to set up an exercise like this for you.
Everything that we touch we’ll tie up to your body and try to walk, it would be painful, everything will be painful.
That’s how life has become for most human beings because
anything they touch sticks to them and it becomes painful.
Just anything - you give them a new house, they’ll make a pain out of it; you get them married,
they’ll make a pain out of it, the children, they’ll make a pain out of it. Just about anything.
You give them a job, they’ll make pain out of it. Yes or no?
Participants: Yes
Sadhguru: Just Anything …So, the problem is not with you or with the object, the problem is the adhesive.
So, what we need is a solvent. Hmm? Isn’t it?
What we need is a solvent which will remove the adhesive, so that till you completely
take away the adhesive, till then it’s best you don’t touch too many things.
If I ask you 21 hours a day meditate, so that you don’t touch anything, you wouldn’t listen.
So I just started with 21 minutes, just trying to increase the time when you don’t touch anything
except yourself because you’re a… there are all kinds of men you now like
Spiderman, Batman, Superman, you’re a Glueman. (Laughter/Applause)
When you’re a glue person, you better don’t touch anything, you know. (Laughs)
Because the female version will come, Superman will come, then Superwoman will come,
Spiderman will come, Spiderwoman will come. All those things will come.
So, you are a Glueman or a Gluewoman, so when you are like this, it’s best you don’t touch anything
till you wash yourself sufficiently, so that if the glue is not completely gone, at least it’s generally gone,
at least in most areas of your body it’s gone.
Then it is safe to walk around in the world, till then it is not even safe to enter the world, isn’t it?
Because you can’t choose. When you are coated with glue, you cannot choose what should stick to you;
just anything will stick to you, isn’t it? So, don’t talk about all this big-big things.
When I say, ‘Big-big things,’ don’t think they’re really big.
It’s big rubbish - attachment, detachment, compassion, love, all this is one big rubbish.
Just being a full-fledged human being, all these damn things will happen, isn’t it? No?
Participants: Yes
Sadhguru: You be a full-fledged human being.
What we need to carry with love, we’ll carry, what we need to carry with a distance we’ll carry it that way,
what we need to look upon compassionately we will, where it needs stringent action, we will do it.
The way it’s necessary you will live.
All these qualities have been invented by non-human beings, non-human human beings.
(Laughter) Do you understand?
They’re all trying to piece qualities together and make something because they’re nothing.
If you become a full-fledged being, you don’t have to bother about being loving, compassionate,
attached, detached, rubbish. Just be a full-fledged human being.
Whatever is needed at that moment that will come out of you, isn’t it? Yes or no?
Participants: Yes
Sadhguru: And that’s how it should be.
So, our objective and our work and everything that we’re doing is to… the blossoming
of a human being, not to make you into a loving-rubbish.
Compassion can be lots of pai… you know, unbearable, somebody’s compassion.
Tell me if you get a job, do you want to get your job
because of your competence or somebody’s compassion? Hmm?
Participants: Competence.
Sadhguru: There are some compassionate cases you know, we’ll bear with them. (Laughs)
You don’t need all this nonsense, you have to just nourish this being (Referring to oneself)
in such a way that this will blossom. When this blossoms everything will be in place.