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If you want to be able to set yourself up
to be able to date
from a place of abundance
so that you can have a greater chance of success
then there are five things
that you actually need to think about and consider
before you start dating.
And I’m going to tell you what they are in this video.
Welcome back, I’m Renee Slansky for Flirtini
and I’m a professional dating
and relationship coach.
And as always,
I like to be able to prepare you
before you go on your date
so that you are dating from a place of wisdom
and so that you can make dating
a whole lot easier.
Because let's face it, it is exhausting
to just keep going out there
and finding that your effort
isn't equaling results.
Now, before I jump into
what those five things are
that you need to consider
before you go on a date,
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and let's dive into it.
First thing is this,
ask yourself what are your intention?
Why is it that you want to date?
Are you dating just to have a hookup
or are you dating to explore your options?
Or are you dating with the intention of
wanting to build a real relationship?
Knowing what your intentions are
helps you have direction,
which produces results
that are clarifying
so that you know
where you're going with your love life.
If you don't know what your intentions are
it means that you are dating from a place of lack.
And when you date from a place of lack
you're going to find yourself
really confused, you won't be able to know
who that you should be dating,
what you should be doing,
and where you should be putting your energy
because you won't actually have a point of direction.
The second thing to do
is ask yourself
what is it that you want?
What is it that you want
in a person or in a partner?
Is there specific things
that you find that you really need
as well as other things that you desire.
Now remember, there is a difference between
need and want.
Need is necessary
want is added extra bonuses.
So, take the time
maybe write a list
journal it around a little bit
and get clear
on this person that you ideally want
to be able to build a connection with.
What do they look like?
How do they treat you?
What's their family like?
Are they interested in the same things as you?
The more that you can paint a picture
of what it is that you truly desire
out of dating
and out of the person
that you want to connect with
it gives your brain this signal
to seek out that opportunity
and make a reality.
This is how we actually make
manifestation work for us.
Now, the third thing to do is this.
This isn't just about going okay,
I want to go out there and date
somebody that looks like this
and does this and this is what they can give me.
This is also about what you can give them.
I would also take some time
to ask yourself what is it that
you bring to the table?
If you want to go out there
and date successfully
you have to know who you are as a person
and what value you bring to the date
and to the relationship.
We can't just be sitting back
and being self-entitled about the whole process
that does not make you
a high value woman or man.
This is about knowing okay,
well, I’m an excellent communicator,
I’m somebody who is able to give a lot,
I’m somebody who is
financially stable
so I know that I’m prepared
for the next level of the journey.
I am somebody who is able to
have flexibility with my work and travel.
You know, whatever your good qualities are
that you can bring to a relationship
make sure that you're clear on that
before you start becoming
attached to other people.
Because the last thing that you want to do
is actually hurt that person
or feel like you weren't
ready to get back out there.
It's really important that
you are a dateable person
before you go on a date.
Okay, the fourth thing to consider is this.
I want you to make an immediate list.
Ask yourself when you do actually start to date
is this person able to meet
my immediate list?
And an immediate list is
things that you need right now
that are fundamental to your joy
and also to you being able to reach again
whatever it is your intention
and your goal is when it comes to dating.
For example,
maybe on your immediate list
you need somebody who is
emotionally available
maybe you need somebody
who has a lot of time
to be able to go out
and actually experience things together
because you feel like you just don't have enough fun in your life
and you're not going to just wait around
for somebody that's just going to give you the scraps.
Maybe on your immediate list you need somebody
who is already ready for the next stage of their life.
Meaning they are ready to have marriage and children
if that's something that you want.
Are they somebody who
hasn't just gotten out of a relationship?
Are they somebody who is actually ready to date
and they're ready to be able to find a real connection?
Either way,
whatever is on your immediate list
it's obviously something that is
going to give you a firm foundation
to be able to build
something with, with this person
so that you continue to actually
grow what you have with them
and know that you're heading in the same direction.
And lastly,
make sure that you're aware of the red flags
and the green flags.
I feel like we talk all the time about red flags
and we're not really sure what green flags are.
Green flags are basically
positive behaviors and traits
that this person is showing you or that they have,
which is an indication that
yes, they are somebody that is dateable
and that you should give it a go.
Being aware
of what to look for
before you start dating
means that you're able to date
from a place of abundance.
Now, things to consider
might be your own red flags that you have.
Are you a self-sabotager?
Are you somebody that isn't emotionally open?
Are you somebody that attaches too quickly?
Again, the more that we can know about ourselves
and what it is that we are seeking
and wanting and the more that we know about.
You know, who it is that we're dating,
the gender,
what their mindset's like,
how they behave
it gives us a sense of confidence
and it also helps us have some guidelines
on how to be able to date strategically
and consciously
so that we're not just going out there
and trying to find love
and finding that it isn't actually working for us.
Well, let me know if these tips
below have helped you
and which one that you liked most.
Good luck with your dates
and of course, if you are needing a date
don't forget to check out the
dating app Flirtini down below.
And can I just say it's also an app to be able to
create great social connections as well.
Maybe you're someone that
wants to ease into dating so you just
basically want to focus on
interaction, engagement, and friendships
well, you know what? Our app does that as well.
In the meantime, I’m Renee Slansky
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if you've liked this video.
I will see you next time,
bye for now.