Rupert Spira interviewed by Amy Torres and Bill Free, amytorresacim.com teachersofgod.org
When we are faced with a decision
for instance the decision 'should I stay with my Partner of leave?'
I would recommend referring that decision to one's deepest love and understanding.
for instance
If we've been in a long-term relationship and we're considering leaving
all kinds of factors come into play such as
fear of being alone
or fear of what other people will think of us.
These kind of factors I would not call
factors that come from our deepest love and understanding
they come from fear
And any decision that we make
from fear
will carry that fear into the consequences of our decision
and somehow the fear from which we made the decision
will be extended into our subsequent circumstances and situations
and therefore the situation that we found ourselves in
even if we leave that situation - that relationship in this case-
we will tend to find ourselves in a similar situation down the road
because we have made a decision
from fear, that is from the separate self.
The separate self will be perpetuated
in the next situation -in this case the next relationship-
and the next relationship will again turn out to be a struggle between two separate selfs
and again the conflicts will arise, so we will go on and on repeating
these patterns until we make a decision that comes from love and understanding
irrespective of the consequences
that we don't think 'If I make this decision, what will become of me in the future?'
No, it's just
'Does this decision come from my deepest love and understanding?'
And if it does
'Do I have the courage to go ahead and implicate that decision, irrespective of the consequences?'
And because a decision that comes from our deepest love and understanding doesn't contain the separate self in it
whatever circumstances follow from that decision
will be free -at least to an extent-
of the separate self
and therefore if e.g. it was a relationship
the next relationship we enter into
will be -at least to a degree-
free of the fears, desires, and neuroses of the separate self
and therefore the next relationship will have the best possible chance of being a truly intimate relationship
rather than a battleground between two egos.
So that is how a decision that comes from love and understanding
will express itself
in our subsequent activities and relationships
and our subsequent activities and relationships will be gradually purified of the fears and neuroses, the desires, demands, and inevitable conflicts
of the separate self.
And that actually matched up exactly with the content in the course
trials and lessons
if you're listening to fear instead of love
and making that decision.
You'll get the trials and you'll get the lessons repeated.
Yes, and life has an uncanny way of manifesting in the form of our
circumstances or relationships
whatever we haven't clearly looked at inside ourselves.