before you even say the words i want a girlfriend you have some work to do it's all very well trying
to impress a girl and eventually getting her attention but before you enter into a relationship
you need to be ready you have to make sure that you have asked yourself a few key questions and in
today's video i'm going to run you through those questions that you need to be asking yourself
and tell you the things that you need to think about before you think about starting a new
relationship and if you have been truthful with yourself when you are answering them
you will then either wait until you are truly ready for a girlfriend or you will be able
to start a relationship knowing that you are ready for it let's dive in like and subscribe
do you only want a girlfriend because of your friends does it seem like all of
your friends have girlfriends well i'm here to tell you that even if they do
it does not mean that you need a girlfriend and it doesn't mean that they are happy
although it might seem like everyone is always busy hanging out with their partners
it does not mean they are having fun with them sometimes this happens in a friend group and if it
has happened to yours then maybe it's time to find some new friends obviously stay friends with your
old friends but what's the harm in hanging out with some new friends as well sometimes you can
feel the pressure of all of your friends being in a relationship just don't let that be the reason
that you get a girlfriend get one because you really want one are you bored sometimes our lives
are really busy and we are chronically rushed off our feet other times we have very little to do and
we find ourselves bored and restless that's when we might start wanting a girlfriend simply because
we have nothing better to do this it's a terrible reason to get a girlfriend and you are likely to
get bored with her pretty quickly when we make the decision to be in a relationship with someone
simply because we are bored we probably don't like them very much which means it won't last very long
and you will end up hurting them it's not nice on them or ourselves so think of a better hobby
that you could take up maybe there's a sport that you've always wanted to try or a gaming
club that you've always looked at when you've walked past try joining these first and if you
still want a girlfriend then maybe you are more serious about having one than you first thought
do you have time for a girlfriend on the opposite end of the spectrum from being bored
you need to sit down and ask yourself do i have time for a girlfriend maybe you have a job that
demands a lot of your time and friends that like to see you and family who want to spend time
with you plus you need your own free time as well sometimes it is hard to admit but we simply do not
have time for another person in our lives having a partner adds a lot to your to-do list you have
to start thinking about two people instead of one which can sometimes be really difficult if you are
already really busy then adding the strain of a relationship can lead to it failing so wait until
you have had a little more time in your life so that you can fully commit to that special someone
do you know how to treat a girl nicely have you learnt how to treat a girl nicely it's more than
simply buying her flowers you need to make sure that you can be a good boyfriend before
you become one that means being able to do things like listening to her when she's having problems
and offering your opinion boyfriends need to treat their girlfriends like equal and with lots of love
and if you think that you can do all of this plus take her out on nice dates then you might be ready
for a girlfriend if you think you could do with a little more practice then why don't you spend
some time learning by watching dating advice on our youtube channel and once you feel ready you
can find the right girl for you are you willing to give up a little bit of freedom whether we
like this or not when we have a partner we end up giving up some of our freedom there is no way
to avoid this because as a relationship becomes more serious we then need to spend more time with
our partner you might want to go out drinking with your friends but your girlfriend wants you to stay
indoors and watch movies with her when she's feeling unwell clearly you have lost some of
your freedom here which is okay if that's what you want but if you are not willing on a serious note
to lose out on these freedoms then you really need to rethink committing to a girlfriend could
you handle having a girl around your friends this one probably sounds a little bit strange to you
doesn't it but the truth is can you trust your friends around your girlfriend you still want
to spend time with your friends in fact you really enjoy spending all of your free time with them but
you're not too sure what it would be like to have your girlfriends around when you are with them too
they might not be nice to her or they might be really nice too nice in fact and actually end
up flirting with her both of which you would not like your girlfriend might even hang out with your
friends a few times and then tell you that she doesn't really like them now this it's a risky
move so if you are happy to keep them separate or mix them up but only sometimes then that is fine
if you want to spend time with your friends all of the time then you need to be thinking to yourself
is this the right time for me to have a girlfriend it's more than just sex this one
it's not a question it's a statement you need to remember that a relationship is more than sex
sex is something that comes with the relationship if you are lucky but you shouldn't go in expecting
it or demanding it relationships run a lot deeper and are more about feelings emotions and being
able to share your life with someone and if all you are looking for is that constant you know
time in the sheets then this is fine but maybe stick to one night stand instead of relationships
when was the last time that you had a girlfriend this it's an important question to ask yourself
when was the last time i had a girlfriend and are you a serial boyfriend which means jumping
from girlfriend to girlfriend or has it been a few years since you have been in a relationship
because you might have even never had a girlfriend so let's break this down if you are jumping from
lady to lady you need to be asking yourself why you are doing this and why you think
it's not working out for you plus it's worth investigating an attachment trauma there too
if you don't break that pattern it will only ever continue and happen over and over and over again
so if you've not been in a relationship for a few years this is a good thing maybe you have
done a lot of work on yourself and you really understand how a girl should be treated now
and if you've never had a girlfriend what do you need to learn before you get into a relationship
whatever the last time was when you were in a relationship with a girl it's important that you
think about that time before you get a new one this gents very important are you over your ex
if you have an ex-girlfriend be serious now are you over her or do you have those niggling
feelings left often when a relationship ends we end up hurt understandably
but instead of sitting down and dealing with our feelings we just jump into another relationship
a few months down the line we realize that we are still in love with our ex and then we have
to leave that current relationship and try to win our ex back and by then your ex might have moved
on or they don't want to date you because they've seen you with someone else the person that you
were in a relationship with is really hurt and well they're never going to date you again it's
just messy and it's better to avoid it and wait until you are ready to love are you ready to share
your life with someone when you become someone's boyfriend you start to share a life with them
this means they're meeting your friends and you meeting theirs plus there's families to meet and
you will probably move in together at some point now have a think are you ready for this is it
the life that you want because if you don't feel ready then don't rush into it wait until you are
and if you are ready then awesome it's time for you to say i want a girlfriend there you go we've
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