- My name is Inigo Montoya.
- You killed my father.
- [Both] Prepare to die.
- Hands down one of the best movies of all time.
It's probably top five.
Are you okay?
- I'm good.
So awkward, I'm sorry.
- It's fine, at least you didn't have food in your mouth.
Imagine if it was like a whole mouthful of spaghetti.
- Oh my God, um.
- You know, it's fine, don't even worry about it.
I'm just, I'm gonna go clean up okay?
- [Narrator] Ah, embarrassment.
Your face gets hot, palms are sweaty, knees weak,
arms are heavy, marinara on your date already.
You spiral into a flurry of negative self-talk
wanting so badly to hit undo.
Unfortunately there's no quick fix.
So you feel like this is the worst thing
that's every happened to you.
- It is.
- [Narrator] And there's absolutely no coming back from it.
- There isn't.
- [Narrator] And that anybody who witnessed it
now things less of you.
- Yep.
- [Narrator] But then you stop and say you know what?
Maybe I'm overreacting.
Let's get some perspective.
- Nope, that wouldn't change anything which sucks
because I really liked that guy.
- [Narrator] Whoa, whoa, whoa, what are you doing?
- You did this to me, we're done.
- [Narrator] Claire, don't.
You love pasta, and pasta love-a you.
Please Claire, do it for me.
- Take your pasta.
Okay fine, what's the first step?
- [Narrator] Step one, tell someone.
It takes courage, but sharing the experience with someone
you trust is one of the most powerful tools we have
in overcoming it.
- Oh sweetheart, I'm so sorry that happened to you.
I've certainly be there before.
I was on a very first date and a very unfortunate noise
escaped from me.
- No.
- 7.8 on the rectum scale.
- Oh my gosh, Grandma.
- [Narrator] There's great relief in the compassion
and connection we feel when we realize we're not alone.
But naturally as soon as we're left to our own thoughts
we start replaying the experience over and over again.
- At least you didn't have food in your mouth.
Imagine if it was like a whole mouthful of spaghetti.
- Oh my God.
- [Narrator] So while you're doing this,
realize that no one thinks about you as much as you do.
We tend to overestimate the extent to which our actions
are analyzed by others.
When we do this, we stop listening.
I mean do you even remember the velociraptor bit
that he did?
- That happened?
- [Narrator] Maybe, maybe not, you don't know.
That's the point.
- Oh hey.
- [Narrator] Step three, stop playing the tape.
- You're right, let's get rid of it.
- [Narrator] No no no no wait.
For now stop worrying about the past.
Take a deep breath and--
- Be present.
- [Narrator] Exactly.
- Yeah, I don't get to take a lot of time to just be--
- [Narrator] Step four, time travel.
Get some perspective by going a few years in the future
to see the impact it will have on your life.
Uh, oh, oh my God.
Oh, oh this?
Don't even worry about it, they're all the rage
in a couple years.
What can I help you with?
- Um okay, tell me straight.
Do we ever see Danny again?
That's why you're here?
Yeah, yeah, you guys actually get pretty serious.
- [Narrator] But if you can't time travel
you can also get perspective by remembering
embarrassing moments from your past.
You might notice that some of the things
that felt like the end of the world
are just funny stories now.
- But seriously don't worry, you guys end up breaking up.
Wait, don't tell me that.
Get me outta here.
Wait, don't you wanna find out if you should buy
Bitcoin?
- [Narrator] Which brings us to our final step,
laugh about it.
Once we can look at it as a learning experience
or a funny story we know we've made it to the other side.
In the meantime we can rely on our friends and family
to help pick us up and remind us that we all stumble
from time to time.
And we might as well get used to it
because moments like these will always sneak up on us.
In short--
it happens.
- Hey guys, my name's Oscar, writer and director
of How to Life.
Thank you for watching this week's episode.
If you wanna see more videos like this
or have any specific how-to's you want us to tackle,
let us know in the comments below.
And when's the last time you had an embarrassing moment?
Mine was I was saying bye to somebody and there was
this confusion on whether it was like a hug
or a handshake.
It was just like a uh, uh, uh super awkward.