- First comes love, then comes marriage,
then comes baby in a baby carriage, right?
Not if Tasha has anything to say about it, okay?
After seven years of marriage,
she says she needs at least another five
before she's ready.
Joining us is someone who has this conversation
all the time, OB-GYN Dr. Thais Aliabadi.
(audience applauds)
So, can you tell us like, do you think
that where Tasha's wanting to have a baby
45, 50, is it too old? Is it too late?
- Yes, Tasha. I need to educate you today.
It's important to understand that, you know,
we're born with about one to two million eggs,
by puberty we have 300 to 400,000 eggs.
And when we hit mid-30s, that number is about 100,000,
and by menopause, is about 1,000.
So it's not only the quantity that goes down,
but the quality is definitely affected too.
So someone at age 30 has a very good quality egg
compared to someone at age 40.
After 45, the chance of pregnancy with your own eggs,
it's not zero, because I can't say that,
but it's almost zero.
So if you think at 45 you're just gonna start thinking
about starting a family, it's a huge mistake.
(laughing)
- [Vivica] Okay Tasha.
- Alright, it's some good advice.
- Thank you so much, Dr Aliabadi.
(audience applauds)
Okay, Tasha and Reggie,
please come join me in the circle of truth.
- [Tasha] Okay.
(audience applauds)
- Okay, Truth Team, what say you Dr. Judy?
- First of you, you guys are a great couple.
We love getting to know you, you guys,
the love is there and we wish you all the best.
And Tasha, we don't want to pressure you.
It really needs to be your decision, of course,
when discussing all of this with Reggie,
seems like he's ready.
But it's okay if you have your fears.
And I just want to allay those fears a little bit,
because maybe you can have it all.
Because two women on this stage,
Areva and Rosie, they both have amazing careers
and they have amazing children, too.
So maybe you can have it all.
But I think the most important thing
is to communicate without judgment.
So you guys need to make a time for regular check-ins
about the situation, discuss your hopes,
and then hopefully through these regular check-ins
you guys will come to an agreement soon.
- [Vivica] Areva.
- Tasha, I went through the same thing you went through,
trying to decide when I should have my kids.
I just graduated from law school,
started my legal career, and eventually
I decided it was time.
And I jumped right in and Reggie had one,
I didn't stop at one, I had two,
I didn't stop at two, then I had a third one.
(laughing)
So trust me girl, it can be done.
You can balance having a family and a great career,
but trust me, when you have children
you will find your heart and your soul.
- [Vivica] Yes, agreed.
(audience applauds)
Judge Mary.
- You know, my mom had me when she was 42,
and this was eons ago.
Like centuries ago.
(laughing)
The problem that I know that she had was
when there would be school functions,
all the other parents were much younger than she,
and she didn't ever felt like she fit in.
Because all of the other moms were younger,
much younger, than her.
So that's something you need to consider.
You know, you want to be on Social Security
when your child's, you know, 16 years old
and playing baseball and football?
I mean, think of the social impact
that'll have, and your ability,
and I don't know how often you deal with it,
with being an older parent and dealing
and having friends with their friend's moms and dads.
- [Vivica] Rosie.
- You know, one thing that you should be
so grateful for is that you have a husband
that really wants a baby but is willing
to support you with the baby.
(audience cheers)
With that said, we reached out to Barnsley Resort
in beautiful Adairsville, Georgia,
and they're gifting you with
a romantic three night couple's vacation
with meal credit and massage at their spa.
(audience applauds)
Whether it's baby making or a passionate weekend, enjoy.
- And let me say to you,
I'm so glad to see a beautiful couple.
You know what I mean?
That there's love, and girl, you are so lucky
to have a man that's like, baby, I don't mind
babysitting, now we're gonna hold you to that,
if you're okay we're gonna hold you to that.
I'll just tell you with me, that ship sailed with me,
I wasn't able to have children, and I regret it.
But the Lord sent me six godchildren, so I'm okay.
So you got a good man.
Start a family, why not? - I will.
- Alright? Alright.
We want to thank you so much for having the courage
to face the truth.