When it comes to the 16 personality types, INTJs are one of the rarest ones to exist.
That’s why very often, as an INTJ, you might think no one gets you. No one
understands the struggles you go through. But don’t worry. I get you. And that’s
why today, in this video, I’m talking about
the top 7 things only true INTJs understand and go through.
But hey, even if you’re not an INTJ, you should stay tuned and watch the video till
the end because trust me, it will really help you understand your INTJ friends and
partners a lot better. Let’s get into it.
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Starting things off for us today and number 7 is They always envision what the future
could be like.
Most people focus on the present moment. But that’s not the case for an INTJ. If we talk
about an INTJ’s cognitive functions, their most dominating one is their introverted intuition.
And that’s why as an INTJ, they’ll often notice that they’re somehow
always envisioning a future that’s far away and all the things they can achieve till then.
Most people think of the present and put in efforts to reach their goals in the future.
But INTJs work their way backward. They envision
a future goal. They imagine the ideal future they can have. And then they work their
way back and figure out how they will achieve that future.
This trait is an INTJ’s strength but also a potential weakness. It’s a strength because
let’s face it. Envisioning the perfect future is great
to motivate you to work. And of course, it’s great because you kind of have an assurance
of what your future will be like. But at the same time, focusing too much on the future
means you end up losing touch with the present moment.
Next up and number 6 today is INTJs often get told to ‘cheer up’.
As an INTJ, the most annoying thing is being asked to cheer up. Especially because
nothing is even wrong. You’re fine. You’re doing good. And suddenly, someone’s like
‘Hey, what’s wrong?’ or ‘Hey, cheer up.’ or ‘Hey, relax!’. It’s one of
the biggest pet peeves for an INTJ. As an INTJ, I’m sure
you hear these regularly and that’s why many
INTJs start faking smiles or trying their best to look ‘happy’.
But here’s the interesting part. Nothing is even wrong. It’s just that INTJs often
look like they’re not happy even though they feel
absolutely great. There’s actually a bunch of reasons for
that. The thing is, INTJs like to keep their feelings and emotions private, even if they’re
positive feelings. That can be explained by another one of their cognitive functions,
introverted feeling. They don’t think it’s useful to be hyper
or cheerful all the time. And they don’t even like
showing their emotions too much unless someone has really gained their trust. That’s why
even when they’re really happy, they probably won’t show it on their faces.
And because of that, most people think they’re worried or distressed. And many even
view them as cold robots. For INTJ men, most people view them as ‘angry’ or ‘too
serious’. INTJ women are often viewed as intimidating because their serious expression
is seen as cold or aloof. Or you know, it’s more known as an ‘RBF’.
Number 5 on today's list of things only true INTjs will understand is They care more about
their own morals.
All around the world, peer pressure is very common. Many people end up doing things
they don’t like or they don’t want just to ‘fit in the society. Many of us might
relate to this but an INTJ would never.
When it comes to INTJs, they focus more on their own intuition and their own opinion
instead of focusing on what society thinks. Their intuition combined with their introverted
feeling cognitive function means they’re unique
to their own moral codes and their own ideas. When it comes to protecting their own moral
standards, INTJs are always very determined and sometimes, they can get stubborn about
it too. Sure, that can be considered a weakness but
looking at the bigger picture, it’s great that
they don’t care what society thinks. So, next time you see an INTJ friend being
stubborn about their opinions, you know why!
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Next on the list and Number 4 today is They often get over-stimulated.
As an INTJ, it can often be difficult for them to process too much information. For
INTJs, their extraverted sensing function, which
is the most inferior one of their Functions is the reason for this. And that
means they stay in their head. That’s why oftentimes, INTJs can’t be
fully aware of their surroundings, however, oftentimes
They live more in their head than in the present World. And that’s why loud noises,
unpleasant environments, or sensory interruptions can over-stimulate an INTJ and they
can get quite stressed because of them. Even small details can really overwhelm them
so you always need to be careful with INTJs. But the good news is that this function starts
developing during their mid-life or a bit later so as an INTJ grows and matures, they
get a lot better at handling sensory data.
Starting our top 3 things only true INTJs will understand is They just can not stand
inefficiency.
Sure, one of their huge pet peeves is being told to cheer up or smile more. But an even
bigger pet peeve for them is someone being inefficient. They simply can't stand it. I
mean, sometimes, you might get annoyed or think they’re being too demanding but it’s
just something they can’t control. The thing is that INTJs are extremely organized
and they like to keep everything organized and they like to keep everything
going according to plan. And they simply want everyone else to do that too. If they’re
managing a team, they would expect very highly of everyone and they’ll demand everyone
to be competent and work efficiently. Yes, it might seem like a good thing but sometimes,
it can have a huge dark side as well. Sometimes, they end up setting a very
high bar. INTJs think laziness, procrastination, and any other feelings have
to be kept aside until the task is done and dusted perfectly. For them, it might seem
achievable but for other people, it can become too much to handle. Because INTJs don’t
want work that’s just good enough. They want work to be perfect. And when other people
don’t do that, it can make their blood boil. And for others, it can become quite
stressful.
In the runner-up spot and number 2, today is They love being prepared.
Some people enjoy going with the flow. For them, it’s like whatever happens happens.
Well, these kinds of people will be the worst partners for an INTJ. Because for an INTJ,
everything has to be perfectly planned out. Spontaneous just isn’t a word in the
dictionary of the INTJ. And no, planning doesn’t just mean having
a specific plan for them. They need a plan. But then, they also need a contingency plan
in case their actual plan doesn’t work out. And usually, INTJs may even develop a contingency
plan FOR their contingency plan. Right now, if you’re not an INTJ, this probably
wouldn’t make sense to you. But as an INTJ, you’ll
know you want to know what to expect. And even if the unexpected does happen, you
want to prepare for it. That’s why a spontaneous disruption can make them quite
frustrated. So, when it comes to INTJs, make sure to plan
things in advance because trust me, they’re not a fan of spontaneous plans.
Topping our list and the number 1 thing only true INTJs will understand is They’re not
a huge fan of diplomacy.
When it comes to professional life, being diplomatic and polite to your co-workers is
kind of a must. For many of us, it comes naturally.
I mean, we can hold small conversations and we can sugarcoat the trust and be nice
to people. You know, just so we don’t hurt their feelings.
That might come naturally to you but for INTJs, that's not the case. INTJs have a lot of
talents but unfortunately, these social skills aren’t high up on the list. I mean, of course,
they can be social chameleons and they can learn it with time but for them, ALWAYS being
in a polite mode can be extremely draining. Like I mentioned before, INTJs are focused
on getting the work done. So, talking to colleagues and being nice to them isn’t
really a priority for them. Especially if there is really
crazy office drama going on, most of the time, an INTJ will have no interest in it
and they’ll keep their attention on the work at hand.
Typically, that means they get a lot of respect and appreciation. But sometimes,
it can end up setting them apart and making them feel like a loner. And that can get
quite difficult and frustrating. But hey, don’t worry. It’s nothing they
can’t pay attention to and work to fix!
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