(whispering) We’re just speaking in public that's it that's all folks. What's up Explearners
today in this video we're going to talk about your number one fear... the fear of public
speaking FOPS. You may be saying well I’ll do that when pigs can fly. No no no no no..
We’re going to tackle that problem right there right now today. And you know what?
I’m going to give you 5 strategies that you can use to conquer that stage fright right
away. Comment below on a time when you were experiencing stage fright. Just right FOPS,
f-o-p-s in the comments below and I will see what you guys have to say about it. So here
it goes. Step number one. Make sure you breathe. Yes. Just (inhale) (exhale). Alright, this
is super important and it gets overlooked the time I will link below what kinds of breathing
exercises you can do. Everyone has their preference but there's different models and if you don't
feel like doing any of those just do plain ‘ole simple breathing ... remember... how
to do that? Ok! Step number two. I want you to visualise a positive outcome imagine a
scenario where every single thing goes right. That's right. All too often were wrapping
ourselves up in this negative vicious cycle of things that are going wrong and we’re
constantly replaying those scenarios in our minds. You know what? Let’s stop doing that
because it's not helping us so instead of doing that we're going to lift ourselves up
we’re going to use positive mantras and positive self talk to get it in the right
mindset. Choose a mantra or choose some type of phrase that really sticks with you and
really get you hyped up and pumped up and excited. Those are the kinds of emotions we
want to be feeling. Not scared not nervous not fearing for our lives, right? It's just
public speaking (whisper). Step number three: know that you have time. Yeah, you actually
have time to speak. There's no way of keeping up with the speaker if all you do is talk
talk talk talk talk at a mile a minute. So instead I want you to know that you really
do have time to think about what you're going to say next and pace yourself. You don't have
to be speaking from a script per se you don’t want to sound rehearsed. You DO want to be
prepared and for that you have your bullet notes and you're able to use that to give
you a cue here on what you're going to say next. You have time to do that you've time
to jog your memory. Step number four. I want you to perspective. So Oprah is actually credited
with saying “nervousness is a selfish emotion” and you know what? There’s some truth to
that. Alright. So what does that mean? Well, let’s unpack it for a second here. So when
you go on stage and you're thinking ok everyone's here to listen to me, all eyes are on me…
that’s not the case. They’re there because they think you can add value to their lives.
Right? Whether it’s making them laugh, or giving them some great tips or strategies
or... whatever else that is amazing that you because you are all so amazing. Don't worry
about what the audience thinks of you. Instead focus on early how can I add value: what is
it that I'm going to give them today be it tips or stories or jokes whatever it is that
is going to make them leave the room happier, smarter, more knowledgeable about something
right? So again, we’re thinking of it in terms of the value that we can add. People
don't really care about you per se, they care about what you can tell them. What you can
offer them so run with that. And the last step… step number five. Prepare. Make sure
that you know what you’re going to say even if it's an outline and you have your bullet
points that's actually the best case scenario that it’s been rehearsed but in all honesty
it's so much better to show up prepared because that's going to increase your confidence levels
right away and decrease your stress levels. Benjamin Franklin said “if you fail to prepare
then you're prepared to fail” … again that's a bit harsh but honestly it's true.
So don't fail to prepare! So there you have it. Start with those five strategies and you’ll
watch yourself just getting more confident and less worried about stage fright. No more
F.O.P.S. here am I right? Alright Explearners, if you like this video be sure to give me
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