By the end of this video
I'm going to explain to you why they need to create chaos in our lives.
It’s so annoying
but you're gonna understand why.
Hey there, I'm Rebecca Zung.
I am a narcissist negotiation expert
and I'm a lawyer and on this channel
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Okay. So why do I do this?
I do this because I have had to deal
with narcissist in my law practice.
But I've also had to deal with them in my real life
and I know what it's like.
I had to deal with them creating chaos in my own life.
Yeah, I had to deal with,
not just one but two covert narcissus actually targeting me.
Not as husbands
but close enough to actually cause real drama,
trauma and chaos as I like to say,
drama, trauma and chaos
and I have helped people create real freedom possibility
and purpose in their real lives.
So I'm on this Mission.
I'm on this crusade to help people actually save your lives
and I understand why they need to create chaos.
They do it in all aspects of your lives
especially in negotiations, because with narcissist,
you're either for them or against them
and when you are against them,
they've decided you are Public Enemy Number One.
They want to take you down.
Why?
Because they want to take you down
before you take them down.
It's a black and white world with them.
They want to feel powerful
and how can they feel powerful?
Well, if they create chaos
then they can intimidate you.
They enjoy that power.
They enjoy stirring things up.
They like to see you squirm.
They like to see you be intimidated.
So they like to make that world chaotic
because then they feel like they're controlling it.
Their stirring the pot.
If they've made the world chaotic then they've done that.
Look what I've done.
I'm looking at the people screaming around that
I've made Scurry.
They think they've done that.
It's like they've made the minions,
all scurry around.
Even if it's only for a minute,right?
and they wanted to destroy anybody
who is threatening their sense of power
or their sense of self-worth.
So, they enjoy creating this chaos
because it also distracts them
from their own sense of insecurity, their own
sense of problems with their own sense of self-worth.
and so it's a coping mechanism.
It helps them avoid their own
sense of insecurities and shame.
They carry a deep sense of shame.
It's the same reason by the way
that they always create chaos around holidays and birthdays.
They don't want people to not be paying attention to them.
They want all the focus and attention on themselves
and if want to know more all about
Why narcissist like to ruin holidays?
Definitely check out my video on why narcissist
ruin holidays holidays.
Holidays are coming up soon.
So, might as well, find out why I go check it out.
Check out my video on why narcissist ruin holidays,coming up
and by the way, if you guys have seen
this definitely give me a totally in the comments
or give me your example of what you have seen
on how the narcissist has created chaos in your lives.
Okay. So the other way that narcissist love to create chaos is
through verbal abuse, through physical violence
and why do narcissist do anything that they do?
Well, they get supply from it.
Everything they do is to get this narcissistic supply
which is anything that feeds their ego.
Remember what I said that there is a hierarchy of supply
and there's that diamond level supply which is that supply
which is the outer things.
The big house, the money, the prestigious job,
the prestigious cars, the prestigious friends.
Things that they would be happy to tell people about
but then there's what I call
the dark underbelly of narcissistic supply
which is the I'm going to control you.
Debase you, diminish you, manipulate you
and that is where that chaos comes from
and because they don't have any care
or concern or empathy
for other people's feelings.
Manipulating people and as if their game pieces
on a board creating chaos in their lives.
Telling a piece of gossip
or saying something about
somebody that's not true.
Creating that chaos
filing a motion in court that is totally false.
Whatever.
It doesn't bother them because they're narcissists.
That creates chaos.
I don't have any feeling about that.
They get supply from it, feeds their ego.
They have now stirred the pot.
It feeds their ego.
They get a high from that
and by the way, they can, they can get chaos
also, they can create a sense of chaos
by false promises.
Promising somebody something and that person
Oh, I'm excited.
I'm this is going to happen
and then not keeping that promise.
Letting that person down.
They can't keep thepromise.
That creates chaos in somebody's life
and they get a high from that.
It's really sick.
Or sabotaging somebody's relationship
and telling somebody something about
them or showing up on a situation.
getting attention, showing up at an event
that they shouldn't be at to get attention, creates chaos.
They get something out of that showing up
when somebody is sick at the hospital
and getting attention from that,
that also can create chaos.
They love that.
It all is for the one thing.
Narcissistic supply to get their ego fed.
That's it.
Because that's what they're after.
It's always what they're after.
It's all to feed their ego.
That's why they need to create their chaos.
They get a high from it
and because they don't have any sense
of care concern or empathy for others.
It's not tied to other people's feelings.
Unfortunately, that's how it goes.
They don't have any sense of guilt.
If you're standing over there wondering,
can they do that to somebody,
don't they wonder about the consequences?
Don't they feel anything for anybody?
Don't they wonder about ruining somebody's lives.
NO
The answer is no and so stop doing that exercise.
Ot’s not going to get you anywhere.
Forget about it.
Stop wondering why or how
they could or that for you is a big waste of time.
Let’s accept, they are who they are.
You are not going to get closure.
You're not going to get them to see the error of their ways.
All of those things are a waste of time for you.
You are better off stopping focusing on that.
It the more you give it energy,
the more it will multiply.
What you focus on, you get more of.
So focus on something
that will actually bring you more of what you want.
Let go of that.
Namaste and walk away.
Then like move on.
That is the best advice
that I can give you, right?
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and I send you light.
I send you love.
I am so glad that you're here.
You got this.
Never give in.
Never give up and I will see you in the next video.