so many people are up in arms about the way 13 reasons why quote/unquote
romanticized self-harm but in this video I'm gonna explain why Skye is actually
the best character and how she was so well written what is up everybody this
is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the
solution and do me a favor this is the first video I'm actually doing on
self-harm so please please please share this video because this is a topic that
we don't talk about enough and this video might be able to help somebody
that you know who might actually be self harming and you don't even realize it so
the first thing I'm gonna do I'm just gonna get this out of the way with a
real quick rant everybody who's being all morally outraged about how this show
romanticized self-harm you need to relax calm down take a step back and really
look at what's happening in this show not once not once not only did they not
show herself harming herself but they didn't even show her scars especially
especially because some of your favorite bands talk about mental illness and
romanticize this all the time look at Lincoln Park amazing bed and they talk
about the struggles of mental illness constantly many of their fans talk about
how much the music actually helped them because they didn't feel so alone
anymore so unless you're gonna be morally outraged about this whole idea
of the tortured artist you need to just stop okay so in this 13 reasons why
season two review like I'm gonna explain how the show writers did such an
incredible job showing Skye's journey from self-harm to hitting rock bottom to
getting a diagnosis and to recovering okay so there are gonna be some spoilers
in here first one Scott self forums alright I talked about it a little bit
in my first impressions video but anyways Klain Scott are now dating clay
knows about Skye's self-harming behavior and they kind of get into it so there
are some conversations where they talked about how she was supposed to do other
things instead forming one of them they mentioned
snapping a rubber band on your wrist and another way to do this if you know
anybody whose self harming something on my girlfriend actually told me that they
did at the psych ward is take a piece of ice with some red food coloring and
putting it over where you would normally self-harm this sometimes helps relax the
brain when people want to get into this behavior so why do people self-harm
there's a there's a couple reasons actually there's a lot of reasons I'm
gonna talk about two major ones one of them is to feel something okay one of
the symptoms of depression is numbness so sometimes people self-harm to feel
okay and something that I've been meaning to
make a whole video on but I'm just gonna touch on it real quick some people
actually get dopamine and endorphins when they do self harming behavior so
they've actually done some studies where the drug naltrexone the non narcotic
medication I don't know why I did it is not a narcotic medication this is a
dopamine blocker it helps some people who are searching for that dopamine hit
from self harming other people self-harm as a way of punishing themselves or they
do it to not feel their emotions when they're dealing with like this really
bad emotional struggle sometimes the self harm can actually take their
attention off of it alright so this is a big deal and it's it's actually a really
rampant issue in like the teenager community so we need to talk about it
and I think the show did such a great job of showing recovery from it so what
happens is that sky actually hits a rock bottom alright she went to go cut and
she must have they didn't explain it but she must have hit like an artery or
something like that and she had to go to the hospital she was hospitalized
alright and clay goes and he tries to talk to me all this other stuff and sky
is like trying to break it off with him so by the way if any of you out there or
somebody who is dating or in love with somebody who struggles with mental
illness like clay is a perfect example of what not to do so at one point clay
goes to visit Skyy at the hospital and she's gone and he's freaking out he's
blown up a phone and the nurse ends up telling him like listen I can't tell you
where she is I get this because I work in the field and it's a HIPAA violation
but he was the nurse was very vague and he's like listen she's in
program she's gonna get better all right so while she's there clay is blowing up
her phone all right listen up everybody whether
it's rehab or some kind of mental health facility typically there was a blackout
period where you cannot talk to anybody all right and there's a real good reason
for that you really need some time to focus on yourself with all without all
of the outside noise all right so clay is foam bombing her and if he had been
educated about this he would have known why she wasn't answering the phone
anyways clay finally here swimmer and he goes to go visit her and they're talking
and she was diagnosed with bipolar disorder all right
so I will put some links up in the info card I've had two guests Kim Charlson
and bipolar pug okay but they both did videos on having bipolar disorder check
them out if you want to learn a little bit more about that but this guy talks
about this relief she got from just like actually getting a diagnosis and how
they're giving her medications and and clay he says something that I actually
hear a lot from family members and friends or loved ones of people getting
on mental health medications they're worried this person's gonna change
listen up very carefully like sky is so focused on her recovery she's like yo it
doesn't matter if they changed like I need to change I do understand what I
was doing right it's a major issue sometimes the people in your life they
don't want you to get better because they fear maybe if you get better you
won't love them anymore all right so but sky talks about the sense of
relief that she gets from actually understanding what's going on with her
bipolar right these these ups these down she makes a joke about how she tried to
do something with clay underneath the table while they're eating dinner with
his parents but lastly lastly Skyy ends up breaking it off with clay because
she's moving away to focus on herself and her mental health and clay doesn't
want her to leave he loves her and it's understandable but like with anything
when it comes to your recovery it's something I try to beat into your head
on a regular basis Skye said that her recovery has to come first you know and
eventually clay let go but this is so important I see so many people who don't
do this they you know Skye and clay were dating for five months and they're
teenagers and people like no no I'm not gonna focus on myself I need to date you
we're gonna get married and all this other stuff for
any of you watching this who are like 20 years old or older like think about how
I love you were with your highschool boyfriend or girlfriend and how you
don't even think about them anymore right so it was really admirable how
Scott was willing to focus on her own mental health and that's why that's why
I am so sick of people saying that they romanticize self-harm like this was
perfectly done this was perfectly done I would almost encourage more people to
watch this show just for Skye's character development all right
like if more people saw that and they could relate to that and realize what
they needed to do to get well it would be amazing all right I might do another
video about like the mole outrage about thirteen reasons why because I 1,000%
disagree but anyways anyways do me a favor leave some comments down below let
me know what you thought about Skye's character development in thirteen
reasons why season two okay and again like I said please share this video
because I did throw in some tips for people who do self-harm or if you're
somebody who has struggle with self-harm in the past or currently are maybe share
this with other people so they understand it just a little bit better
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