Welcome back here.
So we're gonna take a moment now
to have our real conversation
that could help save lives.
It is suicide prevention Awareness Month.
This is a topic that hits home for
our next guest and for likely many
people that are watching right now.
Danny Denovo is joining us.
You're a happiness coach,
single mom, an attorney too,
is that right? Lawyer turned happiness coach.
OK, lawyer turned happiness coach.
And then you also have an international
best selling book. Tell us how you,
first of all, got into all of this.
I mean to become a happiness.
Coach, I'm so curious. Well,
I was living the life that I thought
everyone was supposed to live.
I had the job, the house, I was married,
and then I had my daughter.
One night I'm making dinner and I'm stirring
a pot on the stove and she's on the floor.
She's about a year old and she
picks up her little bowl and
spoon that she was playing with.
And she looked up at me and
she started mimicking me,
doing what I was doing.
And at first I thought it was
the coolest thing I ever saw.
But then I got faint and almost fainted
on top of her and I got nauseous
because I realized she was copying
everything that I was doing and I was
teaching her how to live a very lonely,
depressed.
And miserable life.
And so I sat down next to her and made
the promise right then and there.
I was gonna learn everything
there was to know about being
happy so I could teach her.
I didn't think I was wired for it,
but she was gonna learn how to be
happy. OK, so is your mission for
your daughter. But now so many people
are benefiting because of your
important message, right? I mean,
your book is obviously getting out there.
Tell us about kind of what
you're hoping people learn.
How. How can we be happy? Well,
I think there's a lot of
things you can do to be happy.
But number one is you've
got to work at it every day.
It's like going to the gym.
You want the muscles.
You gotta go to the gym every day.
You want to be happy,
you've gotta work at that
muscle every day too.
And then there's just some things you can do,
like taking care of your anxiety
on a daily basis so it doesn't
cycle into depression.
And that's a really hard thing to get out
of. And as far as that goes, I mean,
looking back when you were going
through a lot of this anxiety,
depression is that thing that you
were dealing with that daily,
even with your family.
Looks like everything was going well.
My anxiety and depression started in my
teens and just escalated through adulthood,
so it took a lot for me to get over it,
but that's why I really focus on kids.
Now. Because if we can help them
and give them the skills now,
then they won't get into those
deeper cycles that require medical
intervention and so many other things.
OK, yeah. So stardom young as
you did with yours. How old
is your daughter now? She's 7.
Seven years old. OK. So.
And you brought a few items.
I'm so curious.
Can we get right to this
and show us what are these?
Yeah. Just things you can keep
in your pocket to help everyday.
And these are great for kids,
too, because they can take it
with them to school, right. OK.
So this is called a mindfulness necklace.
And it looks like a whistle,
but it's just a tube and you.
Just take a nice breath in
and then exhale like this.
It's slows down your breathing,
which slows your heart rate
and just makes you feel less
anxious throughout the day.
Ohh.
OK, so no noise.
It's a reminder
to breathe in. Breathe out. We forget all
day. Do you think about that?
Attention to our breathing
until we can't breathe, right?
Yeah, that's a really good one.
Now, this is my lip balm.
I keep this with me everywhere.
And there's a reason, OK,
that us girls reapply your lipstick
up to 13 times a day. My goodness.
Because when we put this on,
it triggers our parasympathetic
nervous system.
Which is our calming mechanism.
It just makes us feel grounded and at ease.
This is why I love to put
on lip. Yeah, OK.
Especially the coconut
flavor oil that smells,
how this smells are very good.
Yes. OK, how about this?
A makeup brush?
I have one of those.
You could just have a
feather in your pocket and
you're just gonna lightly go
like this against your ear.
And that little sound,
that little rustle is so soothing,
especially for younger kids. OK,
so have one of those, which I think a
lot of younger kids, especially girls,
would love to have a makeup brush right
below 1 to be a grown up.
In your pocket? Yeah.
Now, this is probably not the
best for school, but it's fun,
and I think when you're having fun,
you're less anxious.
Anyway, this is just a harmonica.
Alright. And a little bit of
vibrational therapy has been shown
to lower our cortisol levels,
which is our stress hormone.
And it increases that serotonin and dopamine,
which is our good mood feeling
hormones. OK? And the sound
just makes me instantly smile.
So thank you for that. And
then these are what you would traditionally
call something like a worry stone.
But I don't like that word.
I like to say calming stone.
So we gonna keep this in our pocket,
we'll just rub it throughout the day again.
That triggers that
parasympathetic nervous system.
That increases those good mood chemicals in
our body. I have a heart.
Grape soda in my car for that reason,
just from driving, because I
get upset at certain drivers
and I called that tightly. Where
can people go to get your book?
What's the name of it? By the way,
my book is called get in a good
mood and stay there. You can find
it on Amazon or on my website at
dannydenovo.com. Danny,
thank you very much. Great tips
for all ages, I think.
So thank you for being here with us.
It's an important conversation
to have. It's so good to
be with you. Stay happy. We will try.
Thank you. We'll be right back
after this quick break,
so keep it right here.