"This is us" returns January
14th.
Joining us now, one and only
Chrissy metz.
Hi, Chrissy!
>> Happy new year!
>> Happy new year to you too.
Nice to see you both.
>> Nice to see you.
>> I hear you have a new year,
new mantra, is that true?
>> It's sort of a new money traa
I try to impart all of the time.
But this is --
>> Next level.
>> I like want to control things
and I don't always know what the
outcome should be for me.
So surrender and trust.
I want to do the work and see
what the results will be.
>> Yes.
>> I feel like you're -- I feel
like you've been doing that.
When I think back to the last
decade for you and all of the
interviews we've done, I think
things just sort of took off and
surrendered.
>> I guess so, for me I want to
be present.
I just want to be vulnerable.
I want to be comfortable being
uncomfortable.
So that's good and helping.
But really, I have to like not
try to control the outcome.
No.
>> You hear Oprah talk about
this in your lunch?
You know Oprah, they lunch.
>> We talked about all sorts of
things.
>> You kick it, huh?
>> She's an old friend.
>> Of course, she's like a guru
for all of us, you know.
She has so much knowledge and so
much wisdom for so many facets
of your life.
She influenced me in that
capacity.
>> I love it.
>> You came out with your memoir
"This is me" and essentially
what was the message you wanted
to get across?
>> For me whenever I was
approached about doing a book, I
was like it's too soon.
Is my career over?
What's going on?
>> Yes.
>> As long as I can say what I
want to say how I want to say
it, yes, it's your book.
What a concept, great.
I wanted to just impart my life
lessons and what I have been
through and how things do.
This is that things happen not
to you but for you.
>> I love that.
>> So okay, I will just talk
about those really difficult
lessons from all sorts of
things, from unrequited love and
hard, tumultuous childhood.
>> And a memoir is just that.
It's not an autobiography.
You can have many memoirs.
>> You can have many a memoir,
folks.
Just so you know.
>> Speaking of love, one guy she
was with did this cute thing and
I thought it was adorable and
she moved on.
>> That was a long time ago.
People can still be cute but
they're not my cute person.
>> You said the best thing when
I said are you in love?
>> I said yeah, with myself.
Not to say I don't like boys and
I'm not interested.
Let's be really clear.
>> Do we have a type?
Are we looking for something.
>> It's about a vibe and
chemistry.
>> You surrender, that is the
mantra?
>> Yes, surrender and trust.
What's going to happen.
I'm not worried but should a
really intelligence man come
around, great.
>> I think you need smart and
artsy, right?
>> Agreed.
>> Mario is a good matchmaker
too.
We're both good at this.
>> Next level, with my arrows
coming out right there.
And meanwhile, you continue to
crush it on "This is us."
>> But it's so sad!
You get your tissues.
>> It's cathartic and it's
important.
We're never given a hand book of
this is how you handle these
situations in life.
I feel like the show beautifully
writes how do we handle life on
life's terms?
And let's do it together and do
it in a vulnerable, real way and
that's why I think people love
the show.
>> Why do people love Kate so
much?
First, thank goodness you kept
that baby.
If something happened to that
baby, I told you early on, I
would not be okay.
Now he's so sweet.
I love how you're playing into
the blind thing, the flash
forward, famous rock star, the
music.
>> That for me was so emotional
because Kate pursuing music and
so did Rebecca and their life
became about their children.
And see him doing it, it was
like so emotional for me.
And then to Blake, who plays the
teenage adult jack, is just the
best and sweetest and talented
guy.
It's just all been emotional.
>> It really has.
>> Playing with a real child
that's not my own, that's been
challenging.
>> You like that?
>> You like handing him back?
>> I love him.
He's very sweet.
But we had to get in the system
of let's not wake him up and
let's make sure he's not hungry
because then he's going to hate
me and recept me and I'm not
even his real mom.
But it's been so great.
He's really special, really
special.
>> So delicious.
>> He's so cute.
Like --
>> And you still have time for
other projects, "Breakthrough."
You're great in that.
>> Thank you.
>> Busy all the way around.
>> You know, yeah, working on
some music.
>> Okay!
>> The pipes on you, Oscar buzz already.
Is this incredible.
We don't want to jinx anything.
>> We don't want to jinx
anything but on the short list
and writing a song --
>> How about Diane.
Tell us about Diane, tell us
your thoughts.
If she were here, what would you
say to her?
>> She will actually be here.
We will take a break and talk
about that great song you're
talking about and the legendary
Diane Ross will join us.
She's wrote the original song.
Hearing the Oscar buzz.
Coming up next.
>> So beautiful.
Nominations are just one week
away and there's already buzz
about Chrissy metz and the song
"Standing by you."
>> The original song, by the
way, was written by the legend
Diane Warren!
>> Hi, Diane!
>> Legendary.
>> Diane, who I have known for a
long time now, I just want to
brag about you for a minute.
She's a grammy, Emmy, golden
globe winner in the songwriter's
hall of fame and also nominated
for ten oscars.
Such an underachiever, Diane.
You really need to step it up,
by the way.
>> Do you have a personal proud
achievement -- an achievement
you're most proud of?
>> It's like what you were
talking about during the
commercial break, I can't
believe I do this.
I am just happy I get to write
songs for a living.
I get to write songs that touch
people and I get Chrissy to sing
them and I'm here.
It's amazing.
>> How did that feel to be such
a bad-ass?
And he's so much fun, wild and
fun.
>> Yeah, I mean, we're all
bad-asses here.
But I like that.
>> We had James brolin on the
show recently and he said that
you wrote a song --
>> Copyright it.
>> He was telling the truth.
He influenced one of your songs?
>> Yeah, yeah.
There was an interview with him
and Barbra streisand and he was
talking about he didn't want to
go to sleep because he would
miss her.
>> She's going to start crying.
>> That's one of my favorite
songs of yours, by the way.
Right on cue there.
So beautiful.
>> Thank you.
Me, I don't want somebody to
listen to me breathe.
I want to hear my cat purr.
I'm being real.
So I got the title for that
song, I wrote it down, "I don't
want to miss a thing."
And when "Armageddon" came
along, I wrote the song for
that.
I don't know what number Oscar
nomination it was.
Fifth or something.
>> What did Barbra later say, it
was incredible?
>> Yes, she was cool.
You get ideas everywhere.
>> We have to say something
really clever with her here,