- When everyone else is doing better than you,
what should you do?
and the reason why I wanted to record this video
is actually had that idea lingering
around in my mind for a while, and then I had
a call yesterday, and one of my clients
asked me exactly that, he's like, Max,
what should I do?
I feel like other people
are constantly doing better than me,
and I have a friend who's also in the program.
He's doing better than me,
and he just overall seems to have an easier time than me.
What's your advice?
My advice was the following, number one, you do you,
all right, meaning whatever your goals are
on a macro level, they're your goals.
Maybe they're less cool than someone else,
you know, maybe your friend wants to become
successful musician or rock star,
and he's having people cheer at him already, you know,
and your goal is like, hey, I just wanna build a business,
and you know, create a happy life for myself.
So on a macro level, that's already important
as a first step.
Your goal should make you happy, not somebody else.
Your goals don't need to be popular.
Your goals shouldn't make your parents happy or proud.
Your goals should be your goals,
which are also kinda often is an issue
with people who wanna get started with our first business.
They feel like there's a lot of resistance
from their friends and family,
you know, of trying to fit in.
You want to make them proud, so you go to college.
I mean, if you set your life, your life goals
in a way to make others happy, you've already lost.
It's not the point of life, right?
All right, that's on a macro level.
On a micro level,
you do you means compare yourself to yourself,
to your previous self, not to others
because I can guarantee you no matter how much money
you're making, there's someone else who's gonna make more.
Even if your name is Jeff Bezos (laughs).
That was actually, I did not plan that.
Regardless of how smart you are, there's some Asian kid
who's probably gonna be smarter than you.
Regardless of how good you are at something,
there's somebody else who's gonna be better than you.
So if your goal is to become
better, smarter, richer than others,
you're automatically going to fail,
unless you know one person that's on the top,
and even there, you're gonna be constantly scared
of others taking you over.
So what to do instead is focus
on comparing yourself to yourself.
Meaning are you going to bed smarter every day?
Are you going to bed faster every day, stronger,
richer, with more experience?
If you compare yourself to yesterday,
now you watch this video right now,
have you learned new things?
Have you gotten closer to your goal?
Have you made maybe more money,
if you already have a running business?
That is what your goals should be.
Compare yourself to yourself, to your previous yesterday,
to your last week's you last month's you,
because that way you focus on what's actually important,
progressing and getting better.
All right.
Key point.
The other one is
because I told that, the client as well,
and he's like, yeah, you're right.
That, you know, that helps me a lot, thank you,
but sometimes, I get so angry
when I see other people better than me.
I get so angry, especially in terms
of in times of social media,
where you see the very uneducated,
YouTube,
TikTokers,
vloggers doing well in life.
Here you are stuck in some nine-to-five job.
You have to get up every morning,
every Monday, every morning, whatever,
and you see some TikTok guy
like, oh, so and so makes so and so much money.
You're like how is that even possible?
These idiots, right, and it gets on your nerves, right,
and I told that to my client as well, I'm like, good,
go get angry.
Use that as motivation.
This idiot can make more money
than me and has a better, easier life.
Well, good,
use that to fuel you.
We're so often being taught
to turn away from negative emotions,
you know, if it makes you uncomfortable, don't do it.
Go back to your little safe space.
No, 'cause negative emotions are good sometimes,
oftentimes even, they make you wanna change,
they motivate you, right, they give you a sense of urgency.
So don't try to turn away from them.
All right,
and by the way, 99% of this
TikTok, vlogging thing, it's all fabricated.
I know many of these people, of course,
there's richer ones that actually make money,
but most of them are broke.
Most of them reach out to me say, hey,
I heard this online coaching thing,
can you help me,
and they can't even afford anything.
They literally have no money, it's insane.
I mean, if you would see like, some of the messages
that I have, I mean I'm not gonna share those
'cause I don't wanna bad mouth people in their absence,
but I have messages of literal,
verified check mark, two-million-follower people,
who are like, Max, like, you know, it's all fake,
like I have a fake lifestyle.
Can you help me actually make money?
Like literally them like, admitting these things,
and it's not point of my channel is never gonna be a channel
where I bad mouth others,
but at the same time,
you should know that just because you see it on social media
doesn't mean it's real, all right, very, very key point,
but anyways, so use it as motivation.
If this idiot can make it, then I can make it too,
and you can do that on a micro level as well,
if you have a friend of yours that seems to do easier,
and you're like, I know this guy,
like I used to get drunk with this idiot.
He used to do all these dumb things in school.
If he could do it, then I can do it too.
I bet a lot of my friends are thinking that about me,
like Max, like out of all of us,
Max is the one who's doing it,
who's traveling, building business, this idiot, good,
because the truth is if I can do it,
most likely, they could've done it as well,
or could still do it, you know, so use that as motivation.
That's a good point.
The other aspect though that I wanna mention is be careful
in a world like ours where everything
is rubbed in your face,
to not try to go the easy route
and don't try to go for the low-hanging fruit.
All right, if you see all these people making money
easier and faster than you
and being more successful faster than you,
don't let that tempt you of going down the easier route
and trying to go for making a quick buck,
because out of my experience of being in entrepreneurship
for a lot of years now and teaching entrepreneurship
for a lot of years now
is a legitimate business takes time.
All right, building a legitimate business takes time,
especially if you're coming from zero experience.
All right.
Like we literally see that with the very, very beginning,
when we brought out Freedom Business Mentoring,
our beginner program.
After a couple weeks,
people were like, oh, this doesn't work.
This doesn't work, the programs are, of course,
you can't build a legitimate business
after a couple weeks.
You can maybe get to your first four to five figures,
and even then you can only get there
if you're consistent and you're putting in the work, right,
but if you wanna build something legit, long-lasting,
something that automates income
a prepaid to a mobile,
a business that moves itself, that takes a while,
but that's also the only way
to build something legit and long-lasting.
All right, if you do things fast,
they're not gonna work, all right.
It's like a fuse that burns too fast, all right.
It's like an inferno, it's big,
but it burns down very quickly.
What you wanna have is you wanna have the ember, right.
That just like heats for a very, very long time.
You wanna build something legit, all right.
You have to stick to proven process,
and don't get into this like shiny object syndrome.
That again, this whole comparison often gets you to.
Let's say you're starting out, you stick a new process.
It gets you first progress,
but now, you see your friend coming along
or someone that is doing better
and they seem to have such a better time.
They're doing something else,
and then you're like, well, I have my proven process here
and I'm progressing, but I'm not progressing fast enough.
Let me switch, let me do the other's thing.
So now you've given 20% here.
You're now doing the other thing.
You're gonna do 20, 30% there,
but then you find this other new shiny object,
and now you abandon the second project,
you go to the third one, you spent 20% on that,
and you spend 20% on that,
and so on and so forth, and so on and so forth,
and ultimately, you don't have a single working
legitimate business, you have three, four,
or five things that you've started for 10, 20%,
and that is it, and that is what you have to avoid.
Comparison can make this want you to do.
Comparison can tempt you
into getting the shiny object syndrome
and jumping from, oh, let me do this.
Let me do that, let me do this, let me do that.
It's not about finding the new magic pill, shiny object.
It's about doing one thing properly until you get results.
All right, and I always loved to give that comparison
in my very first business, the dating advice business.
I can give you a little metaphor here as well.
Imagine you have several different options.
All right, you're a young guy,
and then, you know, there are several women
that are interested in you
and you like them, you like all of them equally, right.
So you like them very much,
and you go spend a little bit of time with her,
and you spend a little bit of time with her
and you go on a couple dates with her.
You give 10% of your effort to that one
10% there, 10% there, 10% there.
What oftentimes happens is you end up
not getting serious with any of them
because instead of giving 100% with one and making it work,
you go to 10% here, 10% here, 10% here,
and they're all kinda lose interest.
and it fizzles out with all of them.
It's exactly the same with business.
All right, go build something legitimate first.
All right, let's talk about this shiny object syndrome
more in a couple seconds.
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and yeah, to get back to the shiny object syndrome,
I see that on a higher level as well.
People always give that, oh, I want to diversify my income.
Diversify my income.
You hear that so many times, you know, how many DMs
on Instagram I get from some random broke kid.
I'm diversifying my income.
It's such a fancy sounding word,
you know, and then there's this kid who was like, yeah,
I have like a hundred bucks in crypto and I have this
and that, like diversify my income,
you know who diversifies their income?
Billionaires, and you know why they diversify their income?
Because they have several businesses
that are already making them millions of dollars each year,
and now, they're diversifying their income,
but when you're in the beginning stages
and don't even have one properly running business
then don't diversify your income.
Again, focus on one thing and commit to that 100%,
and I've said this yesterday as well
on a call with my advanced clients,
and they also say like, look,
I can't remember what exactly he was talking about,
but he said like, oh, he wants to start investing his money,
and he's making around 25K a month
or something like that on average,
and I'm like, why do you wanna invest your money already
in something else?
Invest it in your business,
'cause what you have to understand,
at least with the context of online coaching
or online service providing is almost every niche
that you are in can make you at least 50, if not even
$100,000 or euros a month,
right, imagine the potential of your online coaching
or online service business, like a balloon, all right.
A balloon can encompass a certain amount of volume, right.
You can blow air into the balloon
and you can blow it up to a certain size,
and once it's at a certain size,
nothing more can fit in, all right.
That's exactly the same with online coaching
or service-providing businesses.
The maximum size for most businesses,
the minimum-maximum sizes or the smallest
possible biggest size one of these businesses can grow
to is around 50 to 100,000 a month, right.
So if you're only making 25K a month,
the potential to $100,000 a month would be there.
All you have to do is you put your effort
and your focus into it until it's fulfilled,
until all the air is in the balloon,
until all the potential of 100K a month is in there,
but if you now say, you know what,
screw that, I'm gonna keep it for no apparent reason
at 25K a month, and he said, use my money on something else.
You're wasting all this potential
because the hardest part is getting your business
to 25K a month.
That's the harder part.
The much easier part is to getting it from 25K to a 100K.
You already have a proof of concept.
You already know that you can sell it.
You already have your first clients.
You already see that these clients are happy.
You got all that, all you gotta do is you double down
on what works and you scale, you hire a couple
of key employees and maybe you scale your ads
and employ social media as a leverage, that's it.
So why wouldn't you do that with less effort,
getting more bang for your buck,
but instead, you wanna go out and invest in something else.
So I always put it like this,
unless you're making 50 to 100K a month,
it's profit on your hand with your main business,
then don't think about diversifying your income yet
because you haven't fulfilled your potential yet.
All right, if you start investing now in stocks
or you start investing in the gold, or you start investing
in real estate or something like that, the return
on investment is much lower than the return investment
of a working functioning business.
Only once the return on investment diminishes
because the balloon is fully filled,
only then you can start diversifying your income,
but until then, if you wanna get
the most bang for your buck, invest it in your business,
invest it in yourself,
invest it in your skills, invest it in your clients.
All right, that's what you have to do,
and the reason why I put this into the when everyone else
is doing better than you video is because oftentimes,
because we compare ourselves to others,
we all of a sudden want to shiny object syndrome,
diversify, diversify,
and hop around between different ideas
instead of committing to one.
All right, someone asked me once,
this was many years ago, he's like, Max,
what's the best business idea?
It's not about the business idea.
You know how many great business ideas
out there have never ever amounted to anything?
It's not about the business idea, it's about the execution.
All right, my business that I'm in is not new,
not new at all.
There's business consultants out there.
There's business consultants who do it online out there.
The idea is not new.
The execution is better, all right.
Most of my four or five-figure, six-figure-a-month clients,
they're not revolutionizing the market.
They have an idea that someone else has already had.
They're just making it better,
and hell, you don't even need to make it better.
Do you need to be the number one market leader?
No, even if you were the 100th best,
you're still really good
and you still making a ton of money from that.
All right.
So I hope that goes a little bit deeper
on the idea of comparing yourself to yourself
and not to others, where comparing yourself can lead you,
and the fact that you should always commit to one thing,
stick to a proven process
and not get distracted
by the shiny object syndrome.
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I was a waiter before,
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