Tripp Kramer here from Tripp Advice.com.
Let me ask you a question.
Have you ever heard of the Law of Attraction?
If you have, great.
You already know what I'm talking about.
And if you haven't heard of this, there's a lot of different definitions but I'll put
it very simply.
It's basically what you bring into your life, is what you focus on.
I have a little bit of a problem with the Law of Attraction.
But I do also see some nice benefits from it.
The Law of Attraction has been around for centuries.
A lot of great people, like Shakespeare, for example, have used things like the Law of
Attraction.
It's come into popular culture, I'd say around the early millennium around 2006 when this
book called The Secret came out, which was this massive success.
It's a small book that talks about the Law of Attraction.
I know about the book.
I'd never read it personally.
But I don't love what it says in there because I feel like a lot of what's discussed in The
Secret and other areas of Law of Attraction is very mystical.
It's kind of spiritual, not connected and grounded into reality.
When there's nothing grounded into reality, it's hard to really understand how something
like that works.
A lot of people say if you just think of something that you want, in this case, maybe it's a
girlfriend or wanting to have multiple women in your life or maybe you want a lot of money
in your life or you want a great job in your life, you just think about it "kumbaya" and
it appears.
I don't believe it in that sense.
But there is one part of the Law of Attraction that I do like.
What I do believe to be true about the Law of Attraction is that what you focus on can
come into your life.
I see this more in a practical way.
If you're always focusing on something that you are looking for, you just might see it.
Why, because you're clearly going to become more conscious of it, if it comes into your
realm.
But sitting back and doing nothing and just thinking about it, it's not going to happen.
Let's say, for example, that you want an amazing girlfriend and you can picture her perfectly.
You know exactly what kind of girl it is, you know what she's into, you know what she
looks like, you know her values, you know everything about her and you have this picture
in your head.
If you have this in your head and you're always thinking about it or focusing on it and it's
part of your consciousness, what will happen is, when you go out and you're dating and
doing approaches or you're swiping, you're going on dates, because that is going to be
on your consciousness, you are going to know that if that woman is in front of you, then
boom there you go.
You have won.
Why?
Because you were aware of it.
A lot of guys, what they do is they go out and they just date.
And they usually are just thinking about what girl do I think is pretty.
They're not really conscious of what kind of woman that they're looking for.
And then they get into some relationships that don't work out because the girl is not
right for them.
Why?
Because they weren't thinking about that type of girl before it happened.
Again, the way the Law of Attraction is playing into this is basically you having a clear
picture of what you want and looking for it.
So clearly I think we both know this.
That women are not going to just appear on your doorstep.
It's not that simple.
It's not like, you're just going to sit back and they're going to come to you.
Especially in this day and age, we know that we do have to be the one to approach to start
the conversation to make things happen.
Yes, no matter what, sorry to break the bad news, but really I'm just trying to break
reality to you.
No matter what you want in life, you have to put in work.
You have to put in a lot of work.
I've known this in my life, anything that I've wanted has taken a lot of work.
But that's the reality and that's okay because now you know what to do.
Nothing is going to be purely magical.
However, you shouldn't just be putting work in and hoping for the best.
If you want to do this smarter and not harder, you have to be conscious of exactly what you're
going for.
Even if it is in the realm of money, you should know exactly how much money you're trying
to make and what you're going for.
Let's look at it in that light.
Let's pretend that you wanted to make $100,000 per year and you were thinking about that
all the time, all the time, all the time.
Some people say in the Law of Attraction, if you want money, you actually write a check
to yourself for the amount that you want.
Not because that paper is going to magically send signals to the universe and give you
money in your bank, but because it's going to be there.
You're going to be looking at it.
All the action steps that you're going to be taking will be toward making that money.
This is the same thing here with you and women.
You're going to be taking the action steps and understanding how to filter for the right
woman when you know exactly what you're looking for.
How do you do that?
How do you figure out what kind of woman is going to be good for you?
Here's the first answer and the simplest answer.
You have to date a lot.
You might have an idea of what you're looking for.
Maybe you have a type physically, but that's only half the battle.
If you're going to be dating and looking for a relationship then you're going to be with
a person and their personality, their values, their ethics.
All that stuff matters because you'll be spending a lot of time with them.
And because of that, you have to know what to look for.
Real quick, I want to talk to you about the 3 non-negotiables.
The 3 non-negotiables is something that I came up with.
I actually talk about it in my book Magnetic.
I'm going to put a link down below so you can check this out if you want to read more
about the 3 non-negotiables and learn about how attraction works, not the Law of Attraction
but attracting women and how that all comes together for you to have a dating life where
you're meeting lots of women.
Check that out in the description below.
For now, the 3 non-negotiables I talk about this on page 138.
Basically the 3 things that you are looking for in a woman.
These are the 3 things that you are trying to see that they either have or they don't
have.
I'll give you an example.
You could say, one, she has to be physically fit.
Physically fit, meaning someone who is fit, who's active, who's taking care of their body,
things like that.
That could be one.
Another one could be that they really want children.
That's a really important one because if you want children, you want to find someone who
also wants that.
A third one, it could be that she's financially responsible, that she has her finances in
order, she's not completely broke, and she has no desire or passions in her life.
That's just an example.
It could be anything.
A lot of people can do stuff around religion or politics because those are really important.
Just think about whatever is important to you.
What's important to you and what's important to you in a relationship and in a woman.
Like I said, you're going to have to date a lot to maybe figure that out.
You might even know what they are but then you'll get into a relationship.
You'll be dating someone and then you find out wait a minute, that thing wasn't as important
as I thought.
I'll give you an example of what that might look like.
A lot of guys who are younger, they say to me I want someone who has the same interests
as me.
And I say what kind of interests are you talking about?
They say I really want someone to like the same music as me.
And it's interesting because I was talking to a client one time and he got out of a relationship.
And he said one of my important things or non-negotiables was that we listened to the
same music and then I realized that that had barely any effect on the relationship at all.
And her liking the same music as me or not liking the same music as me, didn't really
do anything for the relationship and the relationship ended for other reasons.
I'm not saying that that was dumb or they're stupid of him to think that way.
What I'm saying is you might think something is important but once you experience it, it's
not as important.
It depends what that is.
What you should do, and again I talked about that in the book, what you should do is come
up with this list of 3.
Figure out what it is.
Use the Law of Attraction kind of stuff to be thinking about it, to be conscious of it
all the time.
Write it down, put it in your wallet, put it in your pocket.
Before you go into date, look at that list so you can understand what it is that you're
looking for.
And by the way, this advice goes to anyone.
It doesn't matter if you're 18 years old or you're 55 and you're watching this video.
You should know exactly what you're looking for so you can find it and have a better shot
at a really awesome relationship.
Again, hard work is inevitable.
Whenever you want, you're going to have to put the work in.
You're going to have to do the approaches.
You're going to have to message people on the apps, you're gonna have to get rejected.
Rejection is inevitable, but remember every rejection is one step closer to the woman
that you are looking for.
I hope that helps today.
Remember, if you want a copy of Magnetic to learn more about the 3 non-negotiables and
in general learn how women are attracted to men and how you can tap into that, go down
below.
It's also on Amazon.
The link is there for you to just click on and check it out.
Also available by the way, in audiobook and in Kindle, if you want it like that.
Thanks for watching.
I'll see you on the next video.