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- How was the sex in your relationship?
- One!
- It was like a solid seven.
What the (bleep) is wrong with you?
Yeah, right. Yeah, right.
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- [Interviewer] So, can you tell me a little bit
about your relationship with each other?
How did you guys meet and how long were you guys together?
- So, we met on Tinder.
And then we started dating two weeks later. (laughing)
- Yep.
- The reason why we broke up, I guess you could say, was
our timing just seemed like it wasn't aligned.
- I wanted more of a relationship than he wanted.
But we had like multiple conversations about it,
where it was like, it's not likely that it's gonna work.
- She saw me as a best friend.
And I think like, it took me a year, a year and a half.
And I was like, I see something out of this.
- And that's when we dated for basically..
- Eight years?
- Eight years.
- Did you have breakup sex?
- (in unison) Which time?
- (chuckling) Yeah.
I mean, yeah.
- Every time.
- We had our break of not talking to each other,
and then when we finally started talking to each other,
we did have sex.
- I don't remember it that way. (laughs)
- How do you remember it?
- I remember us not having sex.
- Hm, who are you lying to? Who are you lying to?
- I don't know. (chuckles)
- Yes.
- Yeah.
- That's how.
- That's how. Broke up.
Hooked up after, more than once.
(woman laughs)
- Uh, no. No.
- No, not yet.
- Not yet.
- (laughing) I'm just kidding.
- How was the sex in your relationship?
- One!
- It was like a solid seven.
What the (bleep) is wrong with you?
(girl giggles)
Yeah, right. Yeah, right.
- (in unison) Ten.
- Oh, okay, cool.
- (laughing) Okay. Cool.
- Nine.
- Ten.
(couple laughs)
- Nine.
- (nervously laughing) Five.
- What point in the relationship?
- Um...
- Or the entire time?
- Uh...
It fluctuated.
- How long did it take for you to be physically intimate
with another person after your breakup?
(girl laughs)
- Like... I don't know.
- It's okay, you won't hurt my feelings.
- Like, eight months or something like that.
It was a while... until I was comfortable.
- I, yeah, I would say about the same.
Maybe a little bit shorter.
- I haven't.
- Yeah, same.
- [Interviewer] So is it safe to say
that it is still continuing?
- (murmuring) What's the next question?
(woman laughs)
- I mean, when you have feelings for somebody
like it- like it elevates it like-
- You have feelings for me?
- Yeah.
- (adoringly) Mmm.
- Shut- Wow.
(girl laughs)
- I wanted to have sex with somebody that I wanted to
get into a relationship again.
And so that takes a while, you know, finding somebody.
- I- the next day for me, unfortunately.
- At the time it was shocking and devastating.
There was other stuff that took place
before that final incident that happened.
I'm a level up type of person.
Like I hit my rock bottom and then I remember myself
and I'm like, oh, yes, I know who I am.
- A few months, maybe.
Maybe a year.
I don't know. Yeah.
Maybe a few months, a few months, a few months. (laughs)
- A year? I don't believe that.
- I just wasn't interested in anybody, really,
for a while.
- For me, it didn't take that long.
I think the reason why I tried it with someone else after
is because I was really upset.
I felt like I could have done things differently
that wouldn't have created that whole
months-to-year of not speaking to each other.
- I mean, I haven't had sex with another person.
I mean, you know, fooled around a little bit with somebody,
but it was definitely like the sad,
and they knew that like I had like just went through
a break up.
I was like, you know.
- I didn't know that he hooked up with anybody.
So, news to me. (laughs)
- What I said, it wasn't a hook up.
- Do you ever still fantasize about your ex?
Yes. Yeah, like masturbating sometimes.
- No, yeah.
I think about- I think about her,
and she's a very gorgeous girl, you know?
- Thanks.
- Yeah.
- No, no, not at all.
- Yeah right.
- But like, I barely slept with him, really.
- [Interviewer] Do you ever still fantasize about her?
- No, never.
She talks way too much.
- No, I wouldn't say I fantasize about her.
- We like- we live with each other, so-
- Yeah.
- If, you know-
- I check her out a lot though.
- Oh thank you. Wow.
I thought I was getting my feelings hurt. (laughs)
- Fantasize is a strong word.
- Mmm, let's hear it.
- (laughing) I mean, okay.
I mean-
- Tell the truth.
- Yeah, yeah.
- Yes, absolutely.
Absolutely. Definitely.
Most definitely. She's hot.
- Do you compare your current partners to your ex?
I don't have any current partners to compare to.
- No, but when I'm like hitting on other girls and stuff,
it's kind of feels like a waste of time.
Just kind of reminds me of like what I have back at home.
- Is that-
- I mean, yeah, I haven't had any.
I'm sure I will, you know.
I guess you kind of always do think about it.
And he was like my best friend, too.
So that is a big thing for me.
- She wasn't the problem in the relationship.
It was just the relationship, you know?
So it's like, I'm like always gonna like-
trying to find that connection again.
- I try not to compare like everyone to her.
We knew each other for so long that we knew each other,
like inside and out.
- I just know what I want now.
You just know everything...
(laughing) Nevermind. I shouldn't say that.
But yeah, it's just very different.
Like I still compare, to this day...
- Great to know.
- Yeah, great to know. (laughing)
- What was something your partner did in bed
that you hated?
- Give me this.
(couple laughs)
- (in unison) Huh.
- I think it was just mainly inexperience.
That's really it.
Like, I didn't like the position you were in.
- To be honest, you were inexperienced too.
- Yeah.
- Because it was your first time.
But other than that, what we learned from was like,
you know, like porn or whatever.
- I didn't watch porn growing up.
- All right. I didn't either.
- Yes- you did. He did.
- Honestly. It's never-
there's never been anything where I'm like...
- We never even just had an awkward moment in general.
Now I know more like what I like to do.
- Yeah, same.
- Stuff like that.
- I would've maybe just like
a smidge more variety or something.
- Yeah, yeah. No, totally.
Because I would get home from work late and be tired
and be like, okay. (laughs)
- Like, she'll try to rub me in my area,
but I don't know why her hand literally just like travels
like just goes to different spots.
I'm like, you're not at the right...
Just stay right here.
- Well, so like as lesbians we use a strap on,
and when there's like a preparation period,
she sometimes will like break character.
But sometimes I wish-
- Because I get awkward!
- I know.
I wish the transition would be smooth.
- Like, I gotta put it on. (laughs)
- So that way-
- I don't think she likes to give oral for a long period-
- That's not true.
- A long period of time.
- Just this guy takes a long time, and I'm tired, you know?
Can I like, can I be really, really honest right now?
- Cool. Yeah.
Do it.
- He likes eating (bleep) a lot,
but it's not something that I always want.
Like, can we chill?
Can we just kiss and hold hands?
But um... (laughs)
- Do you still feel bonded to the other person
because of your sexual history?
I don't feel bonded because of her sexual history.
I just feel bonded because we had history, you know?
- Yeah.
- You know, we went through like, high school together.
- No, I feel more bonded to her because actually just like,
that's like a little- so tight right there, but yeah.
- Yeah. It was my, it was my first, like I was a virgin,
and I think we kind of taught each other, you know,
if there's things that I liked,
and then I told her, and then it's things she liked,
she told me.
- I just never had anything good before him, honestly.
So I think for me it was like pretty high.
- Oh, he's not gonna answer that.
- Oh no... (murmuring)
- He doesn't use that word.
- Just read it.
- Do you still have love for each other?
- You can answer.
- We don't use that word.
- We?
- (laughing) Apparently, when I'm drunk I do.
- I mean, it's just hard for me, like to do that in general.
Like that's not a word I like I use often or anything.
So I just, wasn't quite at a point where I used it.
We just, don't not like each other.
We're still just like, cool.
Like, oh, she's a cool ass person.
Like she likes me like...
- Yeah, obviously.
I love this girl a lot.
I think she loves me too.
- You're flirting a lot today.
- Oh, shit. (chuckles)
- Yeah. We still have a lot of love for each other.
We definitely feel lucky in that aspect.
It's not always that you get to have that with your ex, so.
- Like, I mean, definitely I've learned so much from you.
Like about myself, about relationships, about sex,
like about everything.
- I mean, maybe like friendship-wise.
Yeah. When we're friends.
No, we can't.
You just shake your head no?
- No.
- No, we're not friends.
- We can totally be friends-
- So this is why, this is why we'd never date again.
Because we like know each other way too well now.
It hits a point where I could never.
- [Interviewer] What are the chances of a reconciliation
or getting back together?
- Definitely. I'm just like, she's the one, so.
- We we've had talks about this
where we need to work a lot of stuff,
and it just never clicked to me until we broke up.
- But I think the underlying flaw was that
we didn't know how to love each other-
- [Man] Yeah.
- In a relationship.
Like, we knew how to love each other as best friends,
so I think this is actually pretty great,
because we were gonna talk about it like later today.
- I don't wanna have to focus on anybody, but my baby
and myself right now.
- There's a couple things that I know that he wants to
deal with and that I wanna deal with, like personally
- It's on the table to the side.
- To the- yeah.
Way to side.
Right to the back.
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