- We are emotional beings.
Emotions don't turn off
just because I've walked through the door of work
or because I've turned my laptop on
and I'm in a business setting.
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There's a phenomenon that I write about in my book
called emotional contagion.
We can literally catch the emotions of those around us.
And I'm sure you probably have experienced
something like this.
You're connecting with a peer or a colleague
who's feeling down,
and before you know it
you start feeling that same emotion.
And the same can happen for someone who's really upbeat,
really positive,
after you finish engaging with them,
you just feel high and maybe you can't explain it.
We literally can catch the emotional energy of another.
I'm Cassandra Worthy.
I'm a speaker and founder and CEO
of Change Enthusiasm Global
and I'm the author of Change Enthusiasm:
How to Harness the Power of Emotion
for Leadership and Success.
Emotion actually travels faster than rational thought.
And so when you're experiencing a big change
like being given a new manager,
like your business being acquired by another company,
there's actually an emotional response that happens first.
And the first things that we typically face
are what I call the signal emotions of change
and those are fear, frustration,
anger, anxiety, and grief.
And I feel too often we are taught
or we have learned to suppress those emotions,
to ignore them,
especially in the business world
and the professional setting
because the change has to happen.
You've got to get through it.
So let go of those emotions
and just grit your teeth and bear it.
And so it's so important that we are in tune to
recognize those emotions because they're very powerful.
When we're fueled purely by those signal emotions,
we do and we say things that we often regret.
And I know that either you yourself
or you've experienced folks around you
who have acted in anger,
who have acted in rage,
and that can take you into that mental downward spiral.
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So as I think about the power of choice
and I think about our emotional energy,
the geek in me always comes out
and I think about the first law of thermodynamics.
And it talks about energy,
that it can neither be created nor destroyed.
Rather, it can either be transferred,
transformed, or conserved.
So if you apply that to our emotional energy
with us being the closed system,
we can conserve our energy,
holding it in, suppressing it,
and then it manifesting in all types
of other physical ailments like higher blood pressure,
inability to sleep,
like driving us to the bar
and wanting to drink all night,
all the things that stress can bring about.
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We also have the choice of transferring that energy
which is like emoting, venting to another.
And honestly, this is where most of us go
at the very beginning of a change announcement
because it's kind of our natural tendency.
We want to vent, we want to talk about how terrible this is.
Did you hear about this announcement?
Can you believe this?
And so it's moving that energy.
But if you're only venting,
if you're only transferring the emotional energy
from one individual to another,
it's like playing this game of hot potato, right?
You're just moving that same energy all around.
And it's not just one individual
churning and moving into a downward spiral,
it's the entire organization.
The other choice that we can make
is to transform that energy.
That's like transforming anxiety into anticipation.
It's the same energy,
but it carries a different signature.
It becomes fuel.
The more that we can be self-aware of these emotions,
self-aware of the data,
we can use it to inform us in a way
that can be productive to help us evolve and to grow.
And so as an individual,
when you can become empowered to recognize those emotions,
of course allowing them to exist,
but then knowing that you are in the seat of choice,
you have the power to transform it,
you're literally rewiring the chemistry of your brain.
I think about our negative thoughts
or the thoughts that inspire or nurture negative emotion
as weeds that need to be plucked
and the soil that the weeds are in
as our mental state.
Farmers remove weeds from soil
and it can actually inform them
on what that soil is deficient of,
what that soil needs more of.
It's a really compelling analogy for me
because it teaches me that if we can remove
the negative thought from our mind and then explore it,
understand it,
it can inform us of our mental state.
And then the more that we are informed
of our mental state, what's lacking,
what's deficient,
what do we need to be nurturing,
what should we be thinking?
It can help us reap our intended crop,
or the way that we wish to experience that change.
You are going to face an infinite amount of change
in both your personal and your professional career.
We can be empowered for that change to happen for us
and not against us.