Hi guys, welcome back to my channel. Today I'm going to be doing a reading people's assumptions
of me video. I've seen these going around on YouTube and [Anisa 00:00:09] [Khan 00:00:09]
did one ,and it was so good I watched it the whole way through and found it so interesting
that I thought I would see what you guys assumed about me. So I put it out on Instagram ,and
I have quite a lot through. So I'm just going to address all of these assumptions, say whether
they're true or not and hopefully this should be a really fun video. I had some really,
really lovely ones through. I had a few that were like a bit [inaudible 00:00:34] and I
had a few that were like just so wrong. So I don't know where to start, there's so many.
But my first one, I think I'll start with my friend Luiz. She said that, "You are always
upbeat and productive." So I think I am quite positive person, hence the positivity planner
and the positivity... I think I am quite positive, and I think that comes across through the
screen from what you guys say as well. But in terms of being productive, I am not productive
all the time. I do a few things to try and be more productive. I find that if I set a
timer for 25 minutes and just literally work on whatever I'm supposed to be working on
for the 25 minutes, and like I'm not allowed to move or do anything until that timer is
done, I feel like it speeds me up, and it keeps me focused. But that is probably the
amount of time until I need to like check Instagram make a coffee. Like 25 minutes is
like my limit.
I also recently read a book called The Five Second Rule, and it's really good, and I've
been using the five second rule in my own life. It's like a hold on book, but the gist
of it is, if you fear something, or you don't want to do something, countdown from five
and literally launch yourself into it. So in the morning for instance, if your alarm
goes off, and you don't want to get out of bed, just be like five, four, three, two,
one and we're gone, we're going. So yeah, if there was anything like I'm nervous about
or apprehensive about, I've been using the five second rule, and I think that actually
makes me a bit more productive as well.
The next one I have quite a few times and that is, "I assume that Matt does more disciplining
of the boys than you, you'd seem too sweet." So, that's a tricky one. I think that when
Matt does discipline the boys, he is probably harder with them than me but he is still quite
gentle. But then I do feel like I discipline the more just because I'm with the more like
on the day to day, like every day I feel like I'm the one like disciplining them. Obviously,
when Matt's around he does as well and we're very much on the same page of disciplining.
But yeah, I think I maybe do it more, but he does it better. Does that make sense?
The next one is, "You feel awkward vlogging in public." And yes I do. I don't think that's
ever going to go. I actually sometimes vlog on my phone because I feel like I could be
skyping someone, I could be talking to someone and not just vlogging. So yeah, sometimes
I get nervous. [inaudible 00:03:06] on holiday, I feel like I don't know any of you and I
don't mind vlogging as much on holiday but I'm still nervous in public, hence why I tend
to vlog a lot in my car.
The next one I had a lot as well, and that is, "You wish you had a girl." So I don't
think I do. Before I had the boys, I think everyone around me assumed I would have girls
because I'm a very girly girl. Then when we found out that we were having a boy, with
Fraser, I just remember crying so much, I was so happy. And then I really wanted Caleb
to be a boy because I really wanted to have a third, and I felt like if Caleb had been
a girl, and we had one of each Matt would have been like, well that's that then. So
I was really happy that Caleb was a boy. And then when they said that Jackson was a boy,
I was just like of course he is. Like I just knew [we 00:03:56] would be a boy because
I was so used to having boys. So I don't know, maybe when they're older people say you lose
a son and you keep a daughter when they're older, but I've got three of them, I'm pretty
sure they're going to be hanging around.
The next one is, "You genuinely love your followers, and we love you back." Smiley face.
So yes, that is very true. I honestly feel like I know so many of my followers names.
I make a real effort to read all my comments and reply back to as many as I possibly can.
And I get so many emails and DMs and things for advice, and I always feel like I really
want to reply because you've reached out, especially if you're a new mother, and you've
got a breastfeeding question or something like that. I just feel like it's so important
to reply back. So I do genuinely care.
The next assumption was, "You had unhealthy eating habits in the past." And I can honestly
say I haven't, I've never suffered from an eating disorder. I do definitely yo-yo, I
can put on and loose five pounds very easily just from... I can literally have a crazy
weekend and be five pounds heavier and then be more careful the next week and lose five
to 10 pounds. Like I do definitely fluctuate. So that might be why you think that. But I've
always loved food.
The next one is that, "You're always calm and never shout." So I don't think I am a
shouter, although I do have my moments. But when I get stressed out with the kids, I am
more likely to have to like breathe and count to 10 before I decide what I'm going to do.
But I wouldn't say that I'm always calm. Like I am quite a chilled person but you can ask
Matt. There are times when I am quite stressed out if I'm really busy with work or if I have
a million things to do, I can definitely get stressed out. But I probably do go inward
more with my stress than like take it out on anyone around me, I think. Although Matt
might disagree with that.
The next one is that, "You're pretty confident about yourself but that that was hard to achieve."
And yes, I would agree with that and I did get quite a few assumptions through about
being insecure or having insecurities. And I do think that now at the age of 35 I'm at
a good place where I do feel more confident in myself and I think the best thing about
getting older is that you don't care. Like you just care less. You can like filter through
the crap, you can see who genuinely has your best interests at heart and who doesn't. I
just feel like the older I get, the clearer things are, if that makes sense. And I do
feel pretty confident in the person that I am what I stand for. But as like a 16, 17
year old girl, definitely insecure and not knowing what was going on or who I was or
what I stood for or anything like that. So yes, it was hard to achieve.
The next one cracked me up. It is that, "You're like super rich." So that was so funny to
me because it just hasn't always been this good. Obviously we had a house, we had three
kids, we had a car, we both worked, life is really good. We had holidays. But it's taken
a while to get to this situation. Like when me and Matt first got together, I wish you
guys could see what we were like. Like I remember I was... We got back from traveling, I was
a very junior PR girl, and my wage had to cover me and Matt because Matt set up his
first business. And obviously it takes a couple of years to get business off the ground so
we had to live off of like very little money and all my family live in Canada. So we had
to like, you know, all of our bills... We couldn't live with anyone. We had to have
our own flat and like... It was really hard.
I remember especially when we were getting married, we had the cheapest wedding. I think
our entire wedding cost 5,000 pounds. We just did things so cheaply. Like my bridesmaids
had to buy their own dresses, my wedding dress was really cheap and like a friend did the
food, like... One day I have to do a video on all of that and how we did it. But even
to pay for that wedding, I worked two jobs, Matt worked really hard and it was tough.
But now look where we are.
Next one is that "You don't read." And you're right. I don't read, I listen to books. I'm
obsessed with audiobooks. I've talked about that before on my channel. I just feel like
I don't... I feel guilty if I sat down to read. And I know that's silly, but I struggle
to relax as it is. I do still want to learn, but I need to be learning while I'm doing.
I need to be cleaning or sorting out stuff while I'm taking stuff in. So I always listen
to audio books and podcasts, but I don't really have time to sit down and read.
The next one is that, "You wear makeup every day." And that is a fair assumption because
I do. It's just a personal thing, I know it's not for everyone but I really liked wearing
makeup, and my grandma is really the same, and I grew up living with my grandma for a
while. And I remember like watching her get ready sometimes, and it was so sweet. Like
when my grandpa used to like come home from work before he got home, she used to put on
a bit of lipstick. perfume, sort her hair out in the mirror like so she'd look good
for her husband. I remember thinking it was such a sweet thing. And I don't know, it just
makes me feel more confident, and it's also fun. Like I really enjoy wearing makeup. So
yes.
The next one is that "You're very confident about being a mother." I really enjoy being
a mother, but I definitely question myself all the time. Poor Matt, once all the boys
are in bed, I'll say to him, you know, we should have done this differently for dinner,
or we should have done that, or I could've done that better, or... I definitely question
myself, I feel so much mum guilt. The thing about motherhood is you never know if you've
got it right until they're grown up and by then it's too late to change what you did.
The next one is that, "You have no family in the UK." And that is correct. My mum and
sister and everyone from my side, they've all moved back to Canada. We do have Matt's
mum and sister and like his side here in the UK and his mum helps us with childcare. But
yeah, that is it. No family for me. I have Matt now so I kind of do have family.
The next one is that, "You are clever and willing to learn." So I don't think I am actually
that clever. I think at school I did okay. But I was the type of kid who really had to
try to get like a B, whereas, you know, there were like children around me that would like
literally waltz in and get like an A*. And I would think I work so hard and I've managed
to get a B. So I think I've really had to work at it, especially maths. I sat my GCSE
maths three times before I got a decent grade that I wanted. But I kept going back, I kept
redoing it. So I think, where I lack in cleverness I make up for in hard work. I mean, I don't
even know if cleverness is even a word. So there you go, that just shows. And so many
people on Instagram will send me like grammatical corrections and I'm like, cheers.
A few assumptions here that start with no hate but I'm not even going to carry on reading
after the no hate because I've learned when a comments starts with that, there is only
bad things to come.
The next one is that "Matt is your rock" And I had quite a few assumptions like, "You're
head over heels in love with Matt." Like quite a few about Matt. And I think that is a fair
assumption. Matt sort of came along at a time in my life where I just really needed him.
Like he just turned up at a really good time, and he's so lovely. I feel like I'm getting
emotional. So yes, that's a yes.
Another one about school, this one is that, "You did well in school." I did okay. I did
my GCSE's I got like eight A to C in GCCSE. I did my A levels, that was fine. I went to
university, I got to one, I got a first in my dissertation because it was on something
that I wanted to write about. So I did okay, but I was never like a scholar or anything
like that.
The next one is that, "You secretly want a fourth baby." And I got this one quite a lot,
and I have talked about it on my channel before. I think I'm just the type of person who loves
babies and if I could have 10 I probably would. But realistically, you know, we need to think
about the other boys. I feel like if I did have another baby now it would be Fraser and
Caleb who would suffer cause my attention would just not be on them. And Fraser's eight
now he needs us for homework and all that kind of stuff. So we're done at three, but
I don't ever feel like I'll have... You know when people say, "Oh I'm so done." I will
never have that, I don't think.
The next one is that, "Your favorite ice cream flavor is vanilla." And I don't know why but
I find that offensive. Like that's really boring. No, my favorite one is salty caramel
or mint chocolate chip. What does that say about me? The next one is that, "YOU RUIN
YOUR HAIR", . And no, well, maybe I do, but it's my hair to ruin, right? The next one
is that, "Travel is very important to you." And yes, I would say that it's a fair assumption.
I love traveling, always have had like itchy feet. But it's funny now that I have kids,
I am hoping they don't get that. I now think back to when I used to go traveling when I
was younger, my poor mum must've been so worried I'd be like, "Bye, I'm going off around the
world for seven months, see you." And like literally call her like once a week. I'm secretly
hoping I haven't passed that on, but I feel like I have.
The next one is that "You can't speak French." And I would say that is a fair assumption.
In Canada growing up, obviously, everything is in English and in French. So I can't really
speak it, but I do feel like I can understand quite a lot of it. Or if I see a word written
down in French, I think I would be able to say what it means. And I think because of
that Canadian background, I did get an A* in French at school, but I think that's literally
just because I'm Canadian. I've got this one a lot, "You are never in a bad mood." And
I think although I am quite a happy person, I would love Matt to be here and tell you
about what I'm like around my time of the month because I'm sure he would say she gets
in a bad mood.
The next one I loved because it was "I assume that you're 5' 11." And no, I am 5' 3.5, so
I am quite short. The next one is, "I assume you use fake Tan because you're tanned" And
I do like fake Tan. I probably put it on once every two weeks on my face or if I have an
event to go to or something like that. And if we ever go on holiday, I will have a full
spray tan because I just feel a bit better around the pool when I'm a bit tanned. I actually
joke now that I have kids, and I don't sun bathe, I'm browner at the beginning of the
holiday then at the end of the holiday.
The next one is that "You really look after your skin." And I try to, I probably could
do even better, but I do like to do like at home facials and use lots of different products.
So yes, I do and obviously I'm getting older guys, I need to try and look after myself,
preserve as much as I can. The next one is that "You naturally have quite dark hair."
And basically if you look at pictures of when I was younger I was blonde, and I was blonde
up until about the age of like 14, 15 and then you notice I started to go like a bit
mousy. I would use all the Sun-in, Lemon juice in the sun in my hair to try and brighten
it up until I finally got highlights at about 16 or 17 years old and then it just kept having
them from then. So my natural hair color is probably more this darker brown, like it's
definitely like a mousy brown. It's just like a no color. It's probably the color of like
Fraser's hair, and I'm going to make this the last one because I think this is probably
a very long video now.
But the last one is "I assume that you are a savvy business woman." So I think I've definitely
become... I love what I do, I really love my job and everything about it. I love working
with brands, I love the creative side of it and I've always worked in marketing and PR
so I think I've just always enjoyed that side of it. When it comes to like the numbers and
accounts and stuff like that, I really do struggle with that side of things. But that's
where Matt is actually really good at like helping me because he owns two businesses
and he's had them for 11 years, so he knows what he's doing. He's got staff, and I don't
know, he's just much better at that side of things. So, I do rely on him a lot for that.
But, yeah I think I am, I don't know, it's kind of like just evolved my channel. So I've
kind of had to step up in like the business sense of things because obviously this did
start as a hobby, but thanks. I like that assumption.
Anyway, I think that's it for this video. I really hope you enjoyed it. If you have
any other assumptions, feel free to put them in the comments down below. And thank you
so much as always for watching, and I'll see you soon. Bye guys.