well a lot of you asked me to make this follow-up video about Liza Koshy and
David Dobrik and should they get back together so that's what we're gonna do
right now what is up everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we
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but yeah so let's talk about this topic so those of you who are new to my
channel I don't know David Dobrik I don't know why Liza Koshy I don't know these people
all right this video is more opinion mental health based some of my own
experience I would love to hear from some of you if you've tried this but
anyways let's talk so I made a video earlier about why Liza Koshy and how she
took this break to improve her mental health
like a lot a lot a lot of credit to her like that was one of the better mental
health break videos I've seen like super super proud of Liza Koshy but
something that led to her working on herself was her split from david dobrik
so Liza Koshy and david dobrik made a video a while back saying we broke up
and they broke up and Liza Koshy she talked about how like she needed to work
on herself so you need to learn how to love herself before she could love
anybody else and all that so something I mentioned in my last video was you know
should should they get back together alright and this is something that I
personally have experience with working on my own mental health going through my
addiction getting clean and sober starting to date again and all of that
so you know the there's a few things to take into account because some of you
have gone through this some of you have gone through a split because you knew
that you needed to work on yourself or they needed to work on their self or
both of you need to work on yourself whatever it is so I'm gonna just kind of
bring up some different points and you know this is ultimately up to you but if
you can relate to this in any way hopefully you take something away from
this so one of the one of the questions that I get is you know is it true that
you have to learn how to love yourself before you love somebody else like
absolutely absolutely or you need to be in that process okay so for example some
people find in or like in a relationship during relationship you realize like oh
my god like I'm relying on the other person for all of this love I don't have
any for myself right and if you are a person who doesn't love yourself truly
and you're trying to find other people to fix you there's something I bring up
all the time it's selfish and self-centered right because you are
putting a lot of pressure on that other person you are saying I don't love
myself you need to love me extra so I believe that I am lovable right and
that's not always fair to the other person this is why you know people get
really clingy or they need a lot of attention and things like that so so the
other issue is is that it's very hard to believe that the other person loves you
right if you don't truly love yourself it's hard to believe the other person
loves you so this is something that a lot of people
we have abandonment issues self-esteem issues things like that I know some
people with borderline personality disorder struggle with this if you're
somebody who struggles with BPD let me know if you have experience with it down
in the comments below but especially when it comes to black and white
thinking you might think one day or in one situation even they love you truly
but then they do something that kind of throws you off maybe they don't return a
text message or a phone call or they didn't show you attention right and now
they don't love you I'm not freaking out right and then that could start an
argument and all of that so I'm really glad that Liza took this time off to
take a look at herself and learn how to love herself and improve her mental
health but the other reason why that's important is is because it can put a
strain on the other person right like when we are not mentally well like you
guys one of the reasons I work on my mental health so so so so so much is
because it would not be fair to Tristan if I wasn't mentally well and I wasn't
working on myself I get a lot of comments who of people who are like you
know offended when I say you should a day when you're like Mexican well or you
know whatever it is like because it's unfair like you need to work on herself
like think about think about the audacity that I would have to have like
basically saying this you should date me I'm not gonna work on myself and you
should put up with all my crap right you know like that's not fair but if
someone's dating you and you're actively working on yourself whether it's through
therapy or anything else maybe it's just taking your damn medications right then
it is fair to the other person okay like there there's a lot that goes into like
relationships are hard man relationships are hard but it's even harder when one
or both people struggle with mental illness that's why it's important that
we need to work on ourselves okay so when it comes to should they get back
together it's it's yes and no right it really depends who knows if they even
want to get back together like for example Ford's a perfect
example my son's mom and I we realized after our split like we're way better
friends than we ever were together right our relationship today is a thousand
times better than it ever was while we were together for years you know we told
we were together for a few years after my son
was born and even before that and everything and like we know now that we
were just better friends okay so maybe they'll find that out but if
you can relate to this like I've made videos about the spoiled milk philosophy
right and and sometimes that's true sometimes there's things that you know
won't change in the other person so it's possible it's possible and lies a Cosi
situation or maybe in your situation where you break up and and it's it's
hard to explain this and I hope nobody takes offense of this but let's say Liza
and David we're like this right might as it goes off and starts working
on herself now Liza starts coming up here okay David isn't working on himself
this is all hypothetical okay well now Liza's up here and David's
still here she progressed with her her mental well-being her emotional
well-being her spiritual well-being right all these things but David just
stayed in the same place so it might be a bad idea to get back there but same
thing with you if you're single right now and you're working on yourself like
maybe your motives wrong like oh I'm gonna work less on myself so I can get
back with him or I can get back with her right but what happens is we were so
working on ourselves we discover that we're a different person the new person
that we are the evolved person that we are wouldn't date that person again and
I hope I hope that makes sense because this is something that happens quite
often for example I went through this I thought that one of the relationships I
was in back in my addiction was purely because of me it was purely a bad
relationship because of me because I was in my active drug addiction active
alcoholism all that and then I decided to go get sober and then get better and
I I was sober for two or three years maybe two years at this time I was like
oh okay this is all me so let's try to do this again I started dating her again
but like like she hadn't changed at all I had made all this change that she
hadn't changed at all and it didn't work out it didn't work out it worked out
terribly and this is another unpopular opinion oh my god I'm gonna get in so
much trouble for this but some of you need to hear you know what tough love
Chris tough love Chris where
Corie shirt that says I heart you with a corgi but alright so you can't get too
bad at me for this statement but let me I'll use me as an example okay so I have
to realize so I was a a drug addict and alcoholic I was irresponsible I wasn't
allowed to see my son I was unreliable like all these terrible
things like what kind of person was gonna date me like clearly something has
to be a little bit wrong with that person on the kooky side like a lot of
us have to ask ourselves like why are you trying to date me
here's another good example anybody who's in recovery from addiction you
know exactly what I'm talking about like sometimes a newcomer comes into like the
rooms like you know told set meters or something like that and they're like
somebody with a bunch of time like wants to date them or is hitting out of like
what is wrong with that person like when people are newly sober like we are hot
messes like I have to question and be like is there something wrong with you
for even wanting to date me you know what I mean
but I think in this situation like what we might see is that like Liza has
progressed into a certain place and maybe David is not right so one of the
things that you find through therapy which Liza Koshi has done is like I have
a video that a lot of you have watched and my mom elaborated on more words like
why you date who you date so Liza Koshi in therapy might have
realized why she even dated david dobrik in the first place and it might be
something that she grew out of and said oh my god I get into the same pattern of
dating the same type of guy maybe this isn't healthy for me all that
and that's all hypothetical but that's something you might realize in therapy
too like Tristan is different than the women that I used to date because I've
worked on myself and came to clarity like I used to date a bunch of women who
were very toxic and bad for me because that's what I was used to you know but
now I've grown and changed now you know I'm with Tristan and is like the
healthiest relationship I've ever been in so that's kind of my two cents on
this like could it work out maybe I don't know but if they did and
David wasn't working on himself it might just turn into
another bad situation but for some of us like I'll end it with saying this for
some of us we need to try it again just to kind of show ourselves like hey it's
not gonna work you know what I mean there are no losses
there's only learning experiences okay but anyways that's all I got for this
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