have you ever wondered why women engage
in anal sex I'm Dr Rena Malek urologist
and pelvic surgeon and today we're going
to talk about just that so we know that
the participation of just heterosexual
people in anal sex has become
increasingly common but there's really
little knowledge about why women choose
to engage in it is it because they see
it more often portrayed in the media do
they feel like they need to please their
partner or is it for their own pleasure
now in a 2014 study researchers wanted
to understand the experiences and
perceptions of women when it comes to
anal sex and in the study they
specifically defined anal sex as
penetration of the woman's anus by her
partner's penis and not other things
that could be in the same category like
anal oral or digital penetration now the
researchers conducted four focus groups
of total of 32 women and these women
were from diverse ethnic backgrounds and
they were recruited from two different
areas one was an outpatient drug
treatment program and another was a
community-based sexually transmitted
infection testing program and these
women had to report having anal sex with
a man and a history of illicit drug use
now I'm not exactly sure why they wanted
them to have a history of illicit drug
use my guess is they wanted to see if a
lot of women were doing this under the
influence of drugs now they asked women
how often they had anal intercourse in
their lifetime and with their current or
recent partner they also wanted to know
was the partner new casual or a regular
partner they wanted to know did they use
alcohol and illicit substances when they
were having sex and any other relevant
information like did they use lubricant
or enemas or where did they do it so
they identified six main reasons that
were really common among all the women
one was being under the influence some
women did engage in an intercourse while
they were high or under the influence of
substances other was personal desire
here people chose to have anal
intercourse because they got pleasure
from it another reason was pleasing a
partner they wanted to either please
their partner or fulfill their desires
another big one was avoiding vaginal sex
so they wanted to have anal intercourse
because they didn't want to have vaginal
sex like if they were during their
Menses or they wanted to protect from
pregnancy sometimes there was even quid
pro quo situations they participated in
anal intercourse in exchange for money
or drugs and the other big thing that
came up was there was a lack of explicit
consent or coercion with some women so
they didn't actually want it or consent
to it because they really either didn't
know they could say no or they were
actually forced into it so let's get
down to the number 62 percent of women
were high at the time of having anal
intercourse 53 said that they were in
situations where they actually didn't
want anal intercourse to say no and 49
describe situations where she engaged
and then of course because she wanted to
so that was almost half to go a little
deeper a lot of women said that their
partner wanted to have an intercourse
with them because they wanted to have
them experience something new something
exciting something exotic that they had
not had from another partner before some
women also described that they would
only have anal intercourse with a
special partner or at a special time
sort of like a gift for a special person
and like I said while many women enjoyed
anal sex the majority still preferred
vaginal to anal and those who did enjoy
it talked about how it's so important to
use lubrication and go slow on the other
hand women who had male partners that
were like self-centered didn't really
think about the woman's needs or had
little experience using lubricants
during the encounter almost always
described it as painful some described
feeling even emotionally humiliated by
The Experience so what did you take away
from this study obviously this is a
super small study and a very specific
sub group of women who are also illicit
drug users so it may not be completely
generalizable to every single woman but
with the exception of being high when
having anal sex I would bet that these
experiences are pretty common in many
women having anal sex so if you are the
person giving anal sex it's important to
communicate use lubrication prepare your
partner and take it slow if you're the
person receiving the anal sex be open
and communicate about what you want and
never continue if it hurts always use a
condom and check out my video on how to
have anal sex safely for more tips as
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