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Hi Psycho2goers!
Welcome back to another video.
Are you feeling stuck in your life right now?
Maybe you realized you were holding yourself back
from your goals and happiness,
or maybe you realized
that you need to put to rest some bad habits
and want to move forward with your life.
To help you shake things up a little
and help you start moving forward
here are six lies
you need to stop telling yourself.
Number one.
You don't have enough to be happy yet.
How often do you get stuck thinking
about the things you could have gotten but didn't?
Whether it was a job promotion,
a new car, a new house.
Thinking about the what ifs in life
can make it hard to see the bigger picture.
When you think this way
your focus becomes more so
on what you don't have versus what you do have.
Are you obsessing over things you don't have?
Do you feel distracted from your current present?
Do you feel like you'll never have enough to be happy?
If this sounds like you
it's time to make a conscious effort
to focus and be more mindful of what you do have.
Maybe you don't have the newest, fastest car,
but you do have a car that runs pretty good.
It's reliable, and it gets you where you need to be.
Or maybe you haven't been able to move
into your dream home yet,
but you do have a nice enough roof over your head
that's comfortable and warm.
When you shift your mindset onto what you do have
it helps lower that frenzied sense of distraction.
While also helping you stay positive
about your life and where it's headed.
Number two.
You're not good enough.
When you think back
has there been anything you haven't been able to accomplish
or achieve simply because you weren't confident enough
in your abilities?
Was it that you didn't try out for the team
or the school play?
You might think you're not smart enough
to ace an exam
or that you're not attractive enough
to have a partner.
When you have low self-esteem
your self-worth is minimized
and thinking that you aren't good enough
can negatively impact your performance.
You might even get to a point where you feel like
trying to do anything is a waste of time.
To help combat this issue with your self-esteem
make a list of your strengths and weaknesses.
You can figure out ways to refine
and embellish your stronger traits while realizing
that your weaker traits don't always have to be on display.
And that they're also a part of who you are as a whole.
You can grow in confidence and shine your light
for all to see when you put this into practice.
Number three.
You don't have the willpower.
Have you ever looked up to successful people
and noted their habits and thought to yourself,
I don't think I have the willpower to do that.
You might be using this thought process
as an excuse to give in to certain pressures more easily.
For example, if you think
that waking up early would be a good idea
but you use lack of willpower
as an excuse to sleep in instead
you're preventing yourself from forming a healthy habit.
Making certain changes in life can be hard,
whether they're big or small changes,
but once you start
your sense of will, strength and integrity will grow.
What you need to do is set yourself for success
by making some changes in your environment.
If you want to get up early
make sure that you have enough time at night to wind down,
reducing the time spent on your electronic devices
right before bedtime will help you go to bed earlier,
and you'll wake up feeling rested.
So, while it doesn't seem like much
making these small changes in your environment
will set you up for success.
Number four.
It's too late for you.
Have you ever felt discouraged thinking that it's too late?
You refrain from changing jobs
or from finding a lasting romantic partner
because you feel like time has passed you by.
The truth is it's never too late for you.
You might be letting societal expectations
guide your timeline,
such as giving into the pressure
to go to college right after high school
and feeling like you have to obtain your bachelor's degree
by age 25.
However, remember that you are your own person
and you're allowed to follow your own path at your own pace.
Some people graduate from college in their 60's.
Some of the richest people in the world
only found success when they were in their 40's or 50's.
Don't feel the need to restrain yourself
with arbitrary timelines.
You can accomplish things at your own pace.
Number five.
Anything that's not perfect has to be a failure.
Do you get discouraged and beat yourself up
when you, for whatever reason,
feel like you can't do something perfectly?
When you're constantly striving for perfection
you might be setting the bar too high for yourself.
We are all flawed.
And if you try to ignore or stamp out those flaws
you'll only wind up hurting yourself.
Don't let your pursuit for perfection
be a decisive factor in your life.
Choose to go forth and give it your all instead.
Remember you'll always miss 100 percent
of the shots you don't take.
And number six.
You can change people.
Do you think you you have the inherent power
to change others?
Do you get into a relationship with a new partner
with the hope or desire to change
or fix them for them better?
If there's something you don't like about someone
it's better to learn to accept them as they are.
You can waste a lot of time and effort
trying to change others
when they won't make that change
unless they have a true desire to change first.
Be careful who you give your time and your heart to.
Sometimes the only person standing in your way is you.
Do any of these lies sound familiar to you?
Which lie do you tell yourself
and how do you plan to change that?
Let us know in the comments below.
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