hello lovely welcome to narc free formula my name is freedom thank you for joining me
today's episode is what the narcissist gets from the new supply that they don't get from you um
this is an interesting one and i want to remind you before i start that what the narcissist says
is very different to what is actually happening in reality so what i mean by
that is the narcissist might be saying things to you like oh i've found the one right
um but let's just remind ourselves you know that the narcissist said the exact same thing
about you they just forget so another thing i have heard before not from my particular narc but
from other people is she's like a female version of me that which is super funny because let's
just think about that yep falling in love with yourself nothing narcissistic about that um
you know in reality it's pure projection just like narcissists project bad qualities upon people
they also project good qualities and personality traits upon people especially with the new supply
when when they're in that state you know when they're first together in that state of limous
and uh it's like infatuation is heightened and you know insane intense version of infatuation
and they quite literally project personality traits onto the new supply the reality of the
situation is what the narcissist is offered by the new supplier is a do-over right so they've bought
themselves more time this is a chance to start over again with someone who doesn't know them
someone who doesn't know that they lie and that they cheat and they manipulate someone who doesn't
know that it's all a game and a con so the new sprite has probably never met a narcissist before
so they'll believe all the lies they're being told because you know no one believes it
no one thinks that anyone lies the way narcissists lie you know that's just not normal behavior right
so if you've never experienced it before you know you you would just assume that the lies are true
so they'll be easy to con easy to manipulate and better yet they're going to keep giving out
the fuel right pumping out that new potent fuel because remember just like you in the beginning
you know when you used to cry every time you had a fight with them when you used to argue
and scream and beg and do all the things you know um just like you used to before the years
and before the tears and before it was all just too much and before you started to realize that
things weren't exactly the way you thought they were you know until you started freaking figuring
things out so they are just like you were in the beginning so they're pumping out that fuel
new tears you know new boundaries to break new games to play let's not forget the narcissist is
chronically bored right they're so bored in life that the narcissist sorry the new supply offers
them a chance to relieve that boredom so they can create a new mask a new back story and a new
character and the new supply just doesn't know them enough well enough to know that it's not real
so here's a personal example so my ex narcissist he used to always act like a real big man like a
tough man like a macho man you know he was always talking tough about how you know he never backs
down to any man and you know he'd show him or he did this or he said that or you know
he always used to talk about how the fights that he used to get into
and it was always used to he always used to talk about the past right but you know i didn't realize
that i was married to a narcissist and that he was lying i just assumed that it was all
true so over time i started to realize well you know i've never seen him actually have a fight
with anyone i've never seen him act tough you know to anyone and in reality there was two times in
13 years when i actually needed him to be like the brave man that he pretended to be but he punked
out he acted like a little [ __ ] and he left me to be the one to protect myself and my family
so he knows that i know that right so he knows i know that he punked out when i needed him and
he also knows that the only person that he was ever tough with was me i'm the only person who
ever experienced his violence right he knows i know but the new supplier doesn't know so she'll
be believing all of his macho stories about what a big man he is how brave he's how strong he is
you know so this is what the new supply really offers the narcissist it's a chance to recreate
you know their false constructs and their masks to recreate this character and get fuel for
someone that they just aren't you know they're getting fuel from that so that new supplier is
literally going oh you're so brave and you're so tough and you're this and you're that's amazing
right it's all just illusions you know but the narcissist is getting fuel from it
so this is why time always works against the narcissist and why they always
keep moving because it's just a matter of time before the the new supply starts to see
the inconsistency in the narcissist story now there's a pattern of behavior that will happen
for the new supply just like it happened for you and i'm going to link another video in here
to outline that because that's a whole new video in itself remember to like subscribe
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