so it's been a little over a year since Shane Dawson tried to rescue graveyard
girl's Channel and since then not much has happened and in this video we're
gonna talk about why that is and what we can all learn from it what is up
everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the problem but
focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel what I like to do is take
a look at what's going on in the YouTube community and try to see what lessons we
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feature alright anyways to get started I'm gonna give a little shout out to my
girl Donna from the channel psych IRL if you're a fan of the comments below bye
anyways I was inspired to make this video after watching her recent video on
graveyard girl because this is something that I've been thinking about for a
while with and when Donna made her amazing video on graveyard girl was like
huh right I just kind of share some of my experience maybe some tips and advice
that can help you because again like one of the purposes of my channel is we sit
back and we watch all this stuff happened passively but what can we take
from it and say oh am i doing something similar in my own life you know what I
mean so those of you who don't know just real quick rundown grav3yardgirl she
was a huge channel she still is a huge channel but she grew in a lot a lot of
popularity because of like product reviews and trying things that were fun
like I seen on TV and all these other things right and she exploded and you
know she's she's funny she's quirky and a lot of people could really relate to
her right but in recent years her channel hasn't been performing as well
so even with millions upon millions upon millions of
she's not getting as many views she's kind of losing subscribers and
everything like that well Shane Dawson was a major fan of graveyard girl and
one see what was going on so him and I think Garrett went out there and Ryland
and Morgan they went out to Texas to go hang out with bunny and talk to her
about her channel and see what's going on and something that they talked about
a lot in that video was you know having to change right but it was also good
seeing them communicate too because here's a thing like and this isn't just
for YouTube creators like this is for everybody out there like we all need to
be open to criticism and be willing to make changes and just take in new ideas
but it holds a lot more depth and weight when it comes from somebody who is in
that field and like Shane Dawson could relate to what grav3yardgirl was going
through right and this is important like for example not only is my birthday in a
couple days but it's also my sobriety birthday so on Sunday I will be
celebrating seven years of sobriety and nobody could get through to me for a
very long time nobody could get through to me and it
took somebody who's actually been through that experience a lot of people
who have been through that experience to finally get through to me right like it
was it was easy for other people like you know black doctors family members
who had never struggled with a drug or alcohol addiction to tell me like you
need to stop right but when I finally sat down with other people who are in
recovery of doing this thing that I wanted to do like they understood the
pain and the suffering that I was going through so even if you're not an addict
in recovery just check and see like how receptive are you to criticism and
feedback coming in it with somebody who hasn't been through it and this is why I
highly suggest that everybody gets a mentor in different realms of their life
whether it's like you know if you're going out to school like up up to
college like find somebody who's been to that school before attacked them what
helped them get through that journey you know what I mean if you're trying to
climb your way up the corporate ladder like find somebody who's already done
that ask them what they did how their experience was right like I personally
try to help other YouTube creators who are smaller than I
am because it wasn't that long ago when we had a thousand subscribers and I can
share some of my experience and by the way if you're watching this and you have
experience with something like pass that wisdom and that knowledge onto somebody
else who's trying to accomplish the things that you've accomplished all
right but anyways some things that Shane
Dawson talked to graveyard girl a lot about was like being you know more open
and more honest and more authentic right and sharing about her own personal
experiences and letting people into her life and everything like that and you
know that is pretty huge here on YouTube like depending on who you are and when
the series first ended like graveyard girl did an excellent job doing that
right like she opened up she got vulnerable with people and you know she
was talking about what was going on in her life and things stayed pretty good
for a while she was still gaining subscribers getting a lot of views like
I thought tailwind of her series with Shane Dawson and some of you might
remember that the Starbucks Fiasco I made a video about that a long time ago
but she kind of went on this like rant about Starbucks and talked about her
anxiety and everything like that and that was like a speed bump in her
journey because I think she got into the mode of sharing like what she was going
through and everything like that and then she shared a little bit too much
and she got some flack as a lot of people felt that she was being entitled
and all these other things but anyways since then and something that Donna did
a great job pointing out on saikai row is that we've seen we've seen graveyard
girl revert back to kind of her old style of videos and kind of doing the
same things to stop getting views into action so the primary thing that I
wanted to talk about in this aside from like finding someone who's been where
you want to be and getting advice from them but it's our own personal
resistance to change right and one of my favorite sayings and if any of you know
this exact quote you know what it is like I always butcher it but you'll get
what I mean right but one of my favorite quotes was this it was like when the
pain of the same becomes too great finally we
let go and have the willingness to change right like we are these people
who hold on to the same thing for so long like that bad hot coal that's just
burning us right and finally we have to let go and we have to change like this
is something that happened in my life for many many years I refuse to change I
was stuck in my ways I'm like this is the way I'm gonna do things this is the
way I'm gonna live my life unfortunately it took me down the path of drug and
alcohol addiction and it wasn't until I got to the point where I stopped being
stubborn and I just asked people for help and I said listen you probably know
better than I do what do I need to do so in your instance even if you're not in
recovery maybe it's taking advice from your therapist right or a family member
or a friend but here's the thing like we actually have to do those things we
can't just take it in it then not turn that that suggestion into action but for
a lot of us and I see this a lot working in the sphere of addiction recovery as
well as you know people who struggle with mental health issues and things
like that like I'm not a therapist or psychologist if you don't know me but I
was working at a drug and alcohol treatment center for a few years doing
groups working with clients one on one just kind of like peer-to-peer support
but anyways there are a lot of people who get into you know that honeymoon
phase or in recovery it called the pink cloud and they're doing everything
they're taking suggestions they're on a roll they're just doing everything that
suggested for them but when things start to get good they start to fall back into
their own behaviors so in the case of grav3yardgirl it's just her Channel
right and I know that's her livelihood and everything like that but when it
comes to like especially like drug addiction alcoholism those of us who
struggle with mental health issues it can be detrimental to our lives like a
relapse kills people right but when we stop working on our mental health when
we quit taking those suggestions like this is one of the reasons why I highly
recommend people don't just only go to therapy when things are really bad like
go to therapy while things are good like something that's
really important especially like when it comes to our mental health but I've
realized from my experience is that we have to be proactive about it we have to
set up these daily habits like I have a lot of daily routines
that I use for my mental health and many days I'm having amazing days but when
I'm having a bad day it's already a habit to do those things right because I
have to make sure that I don't fall back into those old behaviors all right and
this is something that we all need to look at like take a moment just take a
pause and ask yourself like if you're struggling right now if you're
experiencing suffering right ask yourself are you falling back into old
behaviors right like this is one of the reasons why I preach mindfulness to
people so much and so we can pause and be like oh wow I'm acting the way I used
to act I am doing that thing that I used to do right but to circle this back to
graveyard girl here's just my final thoughts on that situation and this is
for you as well like if graveyard girl realized that her trying a new type of
content you know opening up and being vulnerable and being honest and
everything like that if she found that that wasn't making her happy and she
wants to just keep doing product reviews and just being goofy and things like
that like you do your thang boo right because the reality is is that we're all
in control right we have control over what we do like when I'm sitting down to
make a video it's like okay like there's a trade-off right like do I want to make
a topic that you know I got I'm really excited about like and a lot of times I
am really excited like I'm glad I get to talk about this video right but
sometimes I'm just like okay well this is a trending topic maybe I'll share my
thoughts on this right and it's this kind of trade-off right but we all have
to understand in our own minds like what do we want like where our values at
right are we looking for you know the fame the money the followers the views
whatever it is or is it like I just want to do what I love right because the
thing is when we get to a place where we don't need too much we can do the things
that we love and to worry about buying that fancy house
or the expensive cars or anything like that you know what I mean so if buddy is
happy doing her thing do you boo all right hey there anyways let me know your
thoughts on this down in the comments below let me know if you struggle with
change if you struggle with bouncing back to old behaviors and all that kind
of stuff alright anyways that's all I got for this video if you like this
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