have you ever had that tip of the tongue
experience when you're in the moment
you're in a conversation and you just
can't seem to find the right word to say
to respond in the way you want to
respond to it right in this video I'm
going to be sharing with you the best
techniques the five best techniques to
improve your impromptu speaking when you
are on the spot this is about Thinking
Fast talking smart because let's face it
most of the time when we are
communicating it is we don't have the
time to prepare our write write down our
talking points to be able to prepare
overnight and to be able to put down
some slides together most of the time
our Communications are on the spot right
it is in the hallway when we're passing
by it is when someone wants to they just
approach you unexpectedly and they ask
for your opinion on something most of
the time our Communications are
impromptu so what I want to be able to
share with you is some techniques that
you can Implement right away to improve
your speaking impromptu now first of all
I want to be able to share with with you
that like you are absolutely capable of
this because our brain has is made up of
two hemisphere we have left and the
right Hemisphere and most of the speech
functions and the language functions
happen in the left hemisphere right the
left one is for language and
communication and the thing is that
there's an area inside of our brain
called broas area and that area is
responsible for coming up with the right
words and being able to convey those
words effectively right so I just want
to let you know that our brain is fully
capable of impromptu speech right one
brain area assists in communication and
also other brain areas in that are
involved in communication include motor
areas and vernes areas and and and it's
just suffice to know that there's a
multiple brain areas that are involved
when you are speaking because when you
are speaking you're also moving your
mouth you are gesturing and that is
motor functions in your brain right so a
lot of areas work together to be able to
give you that functionality to speak
impr promptu and on the spot but you are
more than capable of being able to do
that all you have to do is to understand
the best technique so you can apply them
moving forward okay so the first
technique that I have just like this
just like I am right now with you
impromptu speaking so I want to share
with you these techniques the first
technique is to shape shift right what
does that mean shape shift means that
you are changing you are shifting your
physiology because chances are just like
I mentioned before when you are doing
impromptu speaking your motor functions
inside of your brain are also involved
in speech right if you are talking you
are moving your lips you are moving your
tongue you are moving your pallet right
and that is motor function so if you the
first technique is to change your
physiology because what is keeping you
stuck is the way that you are showing up
the way that your body is postured the
way that you are the way that you are
standing there the way that you are
positioning your arms your shoulders
shoulders your head the where you are
looking all of those things is where you
what you are used to right now so if you
want to produce a different result which
is more likely the opposite result of
what you're having because you can't
seem to get the words out when you are
in the moment then you have to do the
opposite of what you have been doing
what is that physiology be mindful of
how you are standing how you are
posturing and do the opposite of that
change your physiology and you will have
a different outcome so the first
technique is shape shift the second
technique is to select the right
expectations because your brain as I
shared with you earlier is fully capable
of thinking fast it is fully capable and
I know I get a lot of questions about
this a lot of questions they ask me well
Dr Lee is it that there's something
wrong with my brain right now I am not
going I this video is not talking I'm
not talking about the neurological
disorders that can be present for
example Aphasia I'm not talking about
this I'm talking General absent any
diagnosed
disorders of the brain like Aphasia I am
taught your brain is fully capable of
thinking fast and here's why because
there are two systems inside of your
brain right one system is Fast by nature
and the other system is slow by Nature
this let's let what neuroscientists
usually call them system one and two now
the first system is an automatic
instinctive fast thinking system let me
give you an example if you are driving
on a road and the road is empty there's
nobody there then all of your decisions
your thinking of driving is instinctual
you don't have to take a long time to
decide whether or not you stop at a red
light or whether or not you pause or
whether or not you turn left or right
you know you know instinctively and the
decisions that you're making you can
you're able to think fast another
example is if you are speaking with
someone and you detect a little bit of
hostility in their voice right it is a
fast thinking immediately right away you
know there's a bit of hostility there so
then you know instinctively that you
might want to avoid saying something C
saying certain things right immediately
you know what sort of things might
trigger more hostility so you know all
immediately what things to avoid right
how to look at that person what tonality
to use with that person right and what
you want to do after the conversation so
a lot of examples in life that we go
through it we don't even realize that we
are already thinking fast and we have
that system inherently built in so the
second technique is to select the right
expectation right you have to be able to
expect more from yourself than you
expect from other people right A lot of
times we work so hard to achieve the
outcome that we desire but our
expectation we expect the opposite right
we work so hard to be more articulate we
work so hard to be able to be better on
on the spot communication but we expect
the opposite we expect that you know
English is not our first language or we
expect that people aren't going to
understand us learn to empower your
expectations and select your
expectations
because I'm here sharing with you that
you are fully capable of thinking fast
so this third technique is to the third
technique is this it's about the signs
of availability the signs of
availability what does that mean let's
say for example let's say that I spend
every single day watching the news I
watch it at 7:00 in the morning and I
watch the 600 p.m. news after dinner or
during dinner and well as you know most
news is bad news there's a lot of things
happening in the world that is bad news
right there are accidents there are
murders there is a lot of of of economy
economic downturns what's going to
happen if I keep on exposing myself to
the
media very soon I'm going to start being
fearful that the economy is going to
crash I'm going to start being fearful
that I'm going to catch some sort of
disease or that I might that I might be
involved into a car crash I might even
being I might be afraid to fly because
I've been exposed to a lot of media
about plane crashes so the science of
availability availability says that when
we are exposed to something for long
periods of time over and over again we
tend to focus on that as being a reality
in our life we we tend to believe that
that is there's a greater frequency of
those things happen even when it's not
true right and so how does this apply to
impromptu speaking the science of abil
of availability says that if you want to
be able to make the words more come out
you want to be able to have the words
come out you got to be able to make the
words available to you so here's what it
means be a voracious learner be a
voracious reader be a vorous voracious
consumer of new skills of new knowledge
right read those books go to those
seminars go to those home study courses
and therefore when you when you really
learn and You observe absorb those words
you absorb that knowledge you absorb
that wisdom and assimilate that wisdom
into an understanding all of a sudden
those words are more and more available
to you that is the science of
availability right so the fourth the
fourth technique is to speak in threes
right chances are one of the biggest
hurdles we have when we're asked to
speak on the moment is that we're
thinking inside our heads a lot of
different things there's so many ideas
so many different angles so much that we
can put up there we just don't know
where to begin and so if you choose just
three speak in threes pick three of
those things that are relevant to the
question that was asked or that is
relevant of the opinion that you want to
put forward the message you want to put
forward if you speak in threes it does
three it does two things first of all if
you speak in threes it's easier for you
to remember what you want to say and you
don't have to get lost in all of your
complexities of thoughts not knowing
what to speak about about first just
pick three and the second thing that
happens is if you speak in threes three
things or three points is easy for other
people to remember remember the whole
purpose of communication is to
communicate to convey your thought it's
for them make your communication about
them so that means if you speak in three
threes you're doing them a favor because
they have an easier time remembering
three things than if you keep rambling
on about 10 different things 20
different things and you're unable to
draw a bridge or a connection between
them so speak in threes now the fifth
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the final technique to improve your
impromptu speaking is this
structure structure you need to have a
structure to keep your audience together
right structure creates Freedom right
everything all the freedom that we want
the freedom to speak the freedom to have
that confidence comes within boundaries
if you don't have a boundary around a
structure around your Communications you
won't know where to begin you won't know
what to say next and you won't know how
to close out your communication so
structure will create that freedom for
you right and notice right I'm talking
about three structures I'm going to give
you three structures that you can put in
your Communications and notice I'm
practicing what I preach speaking in
threes okay so here are three structures
that you can Implement in your impromptu
conversations right away the first
structure is chronological right which
means that you talk about the past this
is what happened you talk about the
present here is what is happening and
then you talk about the future here can
here's what stands to happen if we do it
this way so chronological that is one
way that you can deliver an impromptu
presentation of your message in the
chronological structure the second
structure is persuasive this is the most
persuasive structure that you can put in
your Communications impromptu
Communications right when you're
implementing the the persuasive
structure here's what you're saying
you're saying oh here's the issue at
hand you know I appreciate your question
and I and and here's the issue at hand
and then here's the solution here is
what I suggest here's my recommendation
and then finally you move to and hear
how that benefits the people right so
it's the issue the solution and then the
benefits to the people so that's the
second structure that's persuasive the
third structure is motivation right and
this is what you can use to motivate
your audience right and here's what that
sounds like you start off by talking
about what's the issue what is the issue
right now that we are facing which is
why we're in this communication in the
first place what's the issue and then so
what then you move into the so what why
is it important why is it important to
have this this discussion about the
issue why is this why is this this issue
important to address and then you move
into what's next what's next what is the
next step to make sure this issue does
not come does not continue to be an
issue what's next after we Sol we we
Implement a solution for this issue
right so the motivational structure is
what is the issue why is important and
what's next right so I want to hear from
you comment below which of these five
techniques are you going to implement
today when you are in an impromptu
conversation so that you will never have
that tip of the tongue experience again