- If you met a guy you like,
you feel attracted to him too,
and he seems too good for you.
In fact, he seems so cool
that when he is around you feel nervous, stressed.
You can't speak and you seem to freeze.
Well, it is because you're putting him on a pedestal.
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So ladies, stop right here,
because in this video I will give you
two main reasons of why you should not
put a guy on a pedestal,
and what to do instead.
Reason number one, by putting him on a pedestal
you are reducing your own value and worth.
When you reduce your own value
you end up chasing and trying to impress a man.
Ladies, he will not believe you are good enough for him,
then you don't believe and value yourself.
A man will not go after a woman
who thinks he is a king without even knowing him.
It's purely naive and silly,
and also, you're trying to impress him
and prove your own value and worth.
And that is what a man need to do to a women,
not vice versa.
How can he pursue you
when you're already swept off your feet?
Instead, he'll think, "Well, that was easy,
I will just sit back and enjoy the show."
Number two, when you lose your confidence
he loses attraction for you.
When you put a man on a pedestal
not only you reduce your value,
but you also make a million of mistakes.
You can't be yourself, you are too scared to speak,
or maybe you speak too much.
You will either freeze out of fear,
or will do the opposite and be too much in his face,
or too aggressive.
Ladies, do not put him on a pedestal,
instead, do this.
First, be wise.
Any f-boy can sweep you off your feet
on the first few dates.
All he needs is a nice dinner, a few charms,
and basically that's all it takes.
And for those type of guys,
that's where their skills end.
They do not understand anything about women
apart on how to please her in the bedroom
because they have no experience with women
besides bedroom doors.
As a result, these guys end up being
the worst relationship material,
as they look good on the paper,
but have no idea on how to give a woman
what she needs in the relationship.
And in majority of case,
when you'll actually need him to be there for you,
he's gonna be busy playing mind games on you.
My point is, ladies, everyone knows
how to put their best foot forward
on the first couple of dates.
Don't build a guy up from the second you saw him,
take things slow.
Look out for the red flags, test him,
and if few months later he is still growing on you,
well that's fantastic, I'm happy for you.
So ladies, theses were my few reasons
on how not to put guy on a pedestal.
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Just one last note,
in order not to put a man on a pedestal,
you must have a lot of self-love,
self-value, and self-worth.
If you do not see your own value,
no one else will.
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