and we'd like to share Bo would you share with these beautiful people your
three favorite things yeah whenever we do this exercise the fur I think of one
guy a guy named Roy London and he was the most well-known performance coach in
the world he has since passed but this was nineteen ninety and I had just left
playing in the NFL and I wanted to become a performer I wanted to be great
on stage and everyone told me you got to go work with this guy so I went went to
LA and I just wanted to peek in on this guy's class and when I peeked in I never
seen anything like it he for one there was this really handsome guy on the
stage like I never seen a guy that's good-looking that he was coaching and
the guy had a guitar and he was like a country boy analog attar blonde hair and
Roy London is coaching him and he's going crazy like you gotta do that you
got he was all over this guy and some of it like was reminded me of playing in
the NFL was that kind of coaching the guy on the stage ended up being Brad
Pitt by the way yeah before he was Brad Pitt I love that you're pointing at me
right yeah that's right I see the resemblance I see it and Roy taught in
that minute I lived in New York City at the time and I was moving I was I was
just gonna check this guy out in LA then go back to New York I left all my stuff
in New York and moved to LA and left my stuff there and never left this guy's
side because of the way he was training this handsome guy on stage he he gave so
much of himself in the training that I go if I'd leave if I go get my shit I'm
gonna miss something and you know why he was teaching like that because he was
dying he was dying and I didn't we didn't know students knew that he was
dying we just knew this dude is serious about this craft of performance of
giving all of yourself and that's what he did because he thought every night
that this was it he's never coming back and you better get what I'm gonna say to
you today because you may never see me again because I may go home and die
tonight and in two years so I stayed at his side
for two years and he died and this is how he trained so every time we do this
exercise where it's the three most important things that's who I think of
because that's exactly how we taught and these three things I'm going to teach
you the same way Roy top and these three things that I'm going to teach you most
crucial so i can go away after this next 15-20 minutes i can go away and if you
have these and you master these you will own the key to the kingdom and these are
the only i have three little kids 85 and three and this is the only three things
they need to master in their lifetime to become a leader in this world going
forward okay number one you ready number one you personal story your personal
story most valuable thing you got I don't care what kind of education you
have I don't care about your background your personal story is the most valuable
thing you have yet it's the first thing you're going to devalue it's the first
thing you're going to discount and go I you know mine my life my story is kind
of boring or it really can't make an impact on people no fair don't do that
ever not anymore not going forward it's no fair to say that and it's not true
everyone I've ever met has an amazing story they just don't know it and it's
dramatic they just don't know it because you've spent all your life 50 years for
me 51 years for me living this life I don't tell 51 years of it I tell three
minutes of it or two minutes of it everyone's got drama there that personal
story connects you to the rest of the world now when you're telling your
personal story this is not for the faint of heart at all it is them I think it's
the most heroic act you can do it takes all the courage you have to go inside
here and reveal this thing how this thing operates but it's our number one
thing for connecting to people because guess what vulnerability vulnerability
is the new power right so if you're vulnerable all of a sudden we've got to
be attracted to you we've got to come to you and then you should not be the case
because we've spent most of our lives right most of our lives we spend all I'm
not going to be vulnerable i'm not going to show anything but who are the people
that were most attracted to in our lifetime think of them think of the
olympics you guys watching the olympics right now what's attractive is when
they're so vulnerable because they're so far gone they're so far out there
extended you see these little little girls little Pixies so you can't take
your eyes off from Kenya why yeah and they're so fragile one little gone out
loser no good does you know like that their personal story is the key to their
life if they have the ability to express it and share it with people okay that's
number one personal the more personal your story the more universal it becomes
so the more I get personal about my story like I'll give you an example
right now 10 second story my dad is a cowboy right he's a hero cattle right
when I was growing up so when you rope a thousand-pound steer you jump off the
horse and you hold the steer back with the rope well the rope the steers run in
the opposite direction that rope slides through your hands well that burns your
hands actually smoke comes off your hands so my dad had these hands just
full of scar tissue so when we were kids in the swimming pool during summer my
dad to pick us up and throw us and we go ah dad don't touch me because his hands
were just scar tissue okay that took ten seconds to tell you that when I speak of
my dad's hands you don't think of my dad's hands you think of your dad's
hands the more personal it is to the teller the more specific the more detail
the more you get your life so people always go well but wouldn't that be
selfish to just talk about myself you know my personal story no you know why
people don't get you when you're telling your personal
story they don't get your life they get their life if you're good at it if your
specific and make it personal now that personal comes with a lot of pain okay
but guess what guess what how many are in here 300 350 right there's not a huge
line waiting outside there's not a line of people waiting outside guess why
because this is painful this tape that's what I'm talking about the vulnerability
this takes all that you got but going forward in this world if you want to
lead and you want to have an at-bat because eventually you're gonna get in
that bet they're gonna go you know what you've been around long enough come here
come up here and if you can express yourself and communicate people will
follow you then you can lead them anywhere you want right so we got to be
responsible about that personal equals universal that's number one number two
physicality it's a lost art physicality you must bring it to your storytelling
in fact I want it to be this is how I love story tellers is how I train them
to be I don't want there to be any separation between you and your story
right in fact I want these molecules of you and this story to marry to bridge
together and be one so that this physical body is communicating you 24
hours a day everywhere it goes like the athletes are a great example because
that's you see like even when they're not performing what are they doing why
can't you take your eyes off those little pixie girls yeah they're just
like their whole life is in the balance and they're physically getting
themselves ready for it and it's pure expression yet they don't say one word
there's a tribe in Africa and this tribe lives among the beasts and they never
get eaten by the beasts they live among the Lions and the Tigers and his
cheetahs and they never get eaten so my movement coach this is what he specially
he's dedicated his whole life to the movement of people on stage and to
animals and studying those two and putting those two together and what what
it takes down stage presence so he goes he hears about
this tribe in Africa so he goes lives with him he lives with the tribe and he
notices the way they move and the way they carry themselves no lion would ever
mess with him because they move with a purpose