anybody else notice how it orange is the new black season six like nobody even
wore orange what is everybody this is Chris from the rewired salt well we
talked about the problem but focus on the solution if you are new to my
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notification bell if you like - - but anyways what I try to do is I try to
pull things from pop culture whether it's movies or TV or YouTube and see
what we can take from it to improve our mental health in this video I'm gonna be
talking about barb & Carol from Orange is the new black season six this is
something that was highly requested by a lot of people so I want to take a look
at their storylines and kind of learn from and see like what can we do to
improve our mental health when it comes to this stuff so there will be some
spoilers not huge spoilers but quick recap Bob and Carol are two of the main
new characters on oh i tmb season six alright so in this season we're at the
max facility prison everybody's divided by blocks so Bob and
Carol are in two different blocks they're sisters at both in there for
murdering their little sister back in the day alright and they're in this like
insane feud and they both hate another character named Frida who has been in
previous seasons and as a season goes on we start to learn more and more and more
about this feud okay so at the very end of this season like we start to learn
towards towards the end not in the final episode but towards the end that this
whole beef that they've had for 30 years they used to be in the same block and
carol was telling a story about this restaurant they used to work out and
work at in this funny story that happened and Bob's like no that happened
to me and they give me this huge fight and they can't stop going at each
other's throats so they end up getting separated into different blocks and this
is how it starts so they have these blocks and they're always fighting
against each other and they have their own crews and everything like that but
then we find out in the finale is when it goes back and shows the story neither
of them had this story both of them were there as another waitress told them this
story about a glass of ice but they thought it was
the classifieds anyway so we learned that how stupid it was because they both
of them forgot and they didn't even realize that neither of them own this
story so I want to talk about resentments and holding on to stuff and
things like that and then I'll talk about some other stuff towards the end
of this video but anyways like so what I have to do something I've been working
on with my mental health there's something that's been an ongoing but six
years is why I started doing this when working with you know a mentor and some
of you are gonna know what I'm talking about I had to write down all of my
resentments from a very young age I had to write down people places institutions
everything from as young as I could remember everybody who had wronged me
who had hurt me anybody that I still had harsh feelings towards and this list was
huge some of you have been around my channel for a while you know I I've
mentioned I used to be a very angry person
I hated everybody and everybody was the reason why my life sucked so my list had
a hundred and thirty three people on that most people who write down this
list maybe 20 to 40 people on average and this isn't a boast myself up like I
was a terribly terribly terribly awful person for holding on to so many grudges
and resentments so as I'm writing this list the guy I'm working with he says on
the very last person the very last person I want you to write on this list
is yourself so I'm writing this list so imagine writing your resentments towards
a hundred thirty three different people places and institutions 133 and various
resentments against each of those people places or institutions so this list this
took up almost an entire notebook okay and finally I get to myself and my very
last resentment to myself was I have a lot of really stupid resentments like
when going back through when you write this stuff on paper and I suggest some
of you do this if you struggle with anger issues or letting go of the past
and stuff like write this stuff down like when I did that I saw how much how
many pages this was taking up how many things I had grudges against things that
happened when I was a kid things that happened when I was a teenager
things don't even happen to you here a month ago like former employers or
coworkers or ex-girlfriends from like high school and middle school and you
know like different situations like I'm sitting there and I'm like oh my god
like is wrong with me like why am i holding
on to all this stuff this is not useful in any single way and I need to dedicate
an entire week to anger management but like we hold on to so many things from
the past that are just wasting our time like I I remember getting to a point I
had this epiphany this moment of clarity right where i sat there and i was
quantifying like how many hours do I think I've spent being angry at other
people right and I was like this this probably took up years of my life and
like you know those nights when you're laying in bed thinking about that person
who screwed you over all night long like I had to imagine like they're sleeping
like a baby right now like this is not useful to me it's not hurting them like
why am I doing this why can't I just let go so something I constantly do now is
like when I do get those feelings right I look at it I assess the situation I
see what's going on within me and I let go as soon as possible because it's just
not useful this isn't necessarily letting the person off the hook or
saying what they did was okay but this is about me this is about you this is
about strengthening your mental health let go of the past okay
learn from it use it to be a better judge of character in the future know
how to react in certain situations know that the next time you get angry when
you're wasting hours or days or weeks or months or years on it that it is only
hurting you we've gotta let go of this stuff and
barb and Carol really could have benefited from letting go of this stuff
so the second topic I want to talk about is the feud between the two blocks over
Carol how much taller Carl over Carol and Barb's beef right like this is crazy
and this is like kind of prison mentality but I want to like how can
this relate to you like sometimes we're loyal to a fault okay and what this
means is we get this like grandiose idea in our head where to be a good friend to
be a good family member you know whatever it is that we have to stick by
this person's side no matter what no matter how wrong they are
and like especially what we see like going on with YouTube drama like panic
on or fouseytube and things like that might think about the enablers think
about people standing by their side think about like Tana's
vengeance against VidCon of people gassing her up and saying yeah girl yeah
yeah right like there's a point where we got to look at people and say listen
like this is your thing it's not mine I am NOT diving into that with you like
I'll be there for you but I'm not gonna help you fuel this hatred because in
season six of oranges a new black like they were literally trying to get this
to sell blocks to kill each other and when we find out at the end is that barb
and Carol actually scheme this they completely used all of the women
following them to kill each other as a distraction so they can go take out
Frieda like think about that for a second are you being loyal to a fault
are you following people blindly in your life because you have this false
misconception in your brain of what it means to be a good friend a good family
member right like think about that is this really hurting you or is it helping
you in most cases we'll find that it's hurting us so assess these situations
like I'm a huge huge huge advocate of just auditing your life on a daily basis
like see what situations you're in see what's stressing you out see what's you
know causing you negative emotions negative thoughts and things like that
and see what you need to get rid of you know what I'm saying like sometimes you
just gotta say okay your feud is your feud like I'll help you like as you're
struggling with the difficult feelings and emotions and things like that
but I'm not gonna help you perpetuate this anger and animosity that you have
and what I was talking about in the first half of this video maybe you can
teach that person to let go of some stuff too you know what I'm saying
anyways I would love to know your thoughts what were your thoughts about
season six of oranges is the new black what did you think about barb and Carol
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