I really wanted to dig deeper with Daniel,
the man in the middle of all of this
so we started before today.
Now to do this, I called on Mike Bayer.
He is a personal development life coach
who is a member of the Dr. Phil team
as a regular contributor.
Now, Mike has helped a lot of people over the years
including A list celebrities
get and keep there lives on track
by helping his clients break free
of their destructive life patterns.
So I asked Mike to sit down with Daniel
to really learn what it is
that he actually wants from his life
so we could get kind of a north star to aim towards.
Let's take a look at what they talked about.
(dramatic music)
I'm on a fact finding mission for Dr. Phil
and I'm about to meet with Daniel
who's in the crossfire between his mom Cindy,
his sister Sarah and his fiance Marissa.
Daniel.
Hello. Hey, I'm Mike Bayer.
Mike, nice to meet you.
Dr. Phil asked that I come by and sit down with you
and I am a life coach.
So where would you say is the most stress right now
in your dynamic with everyone?
I would say it's my sister and my fiance Marissa.
It's a lot of petty drama,
saying stuff behind each other's back
and then roping me right into the middle of the situation.
And how did you meet Marissa?
Through a dating site.
We just had a lot of the same hobbies
and the same interests together.
Like what?
Star Wars, Marvel, video games.
Is there a character that you look at
that you think, that character is unbelievable?
Falcon in the Marvel movies.
I like the fact that he has a wing suit
and he can fly up high and just get away from everything.
He was a veteran
and he worked at the VA clinics
helping other veterans with PTSD
and helping them overcome their issues.
I know that when I was reading
some of the notes from Dr. Phil,
he mentioned that when there's conflict
between you and your sister,
that you retreat,
that you kind of just have to leave the situation.
Right.
If Falcon were to handle it,
what do you think Falcon would do?
He would actually voice his opinion.
He would probably say,
"Look, this petty drama needs to stop.
"We need to work together
"and really try hard to better other people around us."
Where do you think your part is in all of this?
I believe that I'm playing into their drama as well.
If they were to describe,
what do you think they would all agree upon about you?
Angry.
I just feel angry in general
that I worked so hard in the military
to come out with nothing
and now I don't know where to go.
My question to you would be, what would Falcon do?
He would try to find where he belongs.
How would he do that?
By working as close to you and Dr. Phil as possible.
I don't like where I am in life
and I really want to try my hardest
to get to a better situation.
My suggestion to you,
if you tap into your superhero which is Falcon,
I'm telling you your life will change.
Yes, sir.
And we're gonna help you do that.
Nice to meet you.
Nice to meet you too, sir.
So Daniel, how did you feel
your conversation went with Mike?
I feel it went very well.
He taught me a lot of stuff
and right after I left, I did exactly what he said
and I'm starting to feel more confident.
I just want to say thank you for serving in the military,
you're a brave guy.
(audience applause)
Thank you.
And you walked back in to emotional warfare
when you came back home
and I think that you're stuck
and you know that
and Dr. Phil and I
want to help you find that Falcon inside of yourself
and lift up your light.