What happens when you're in a struggle, the frustration with your spouse,
and they seem like they don't want to work on the marriage with you.
I want to give you some tips that could help you out.
If you can stay focused and stay in tune with your vision.
First thing I want to encourage you to do is become a master at your pies,
physically, intellectually, emotionally, spiritually.
You need to be the best version of you at the very minimum.
This puts you in a mental and emotional place where you can handle the
stress that's being elevated by this condition.
What I'm telling you is that if physically you're taking care of yourself,
eating right and sleeping and emotionally,
you're not obsessing over this intellectually,
you're growing yourself as a person and spiritually you're in fidelity to your
values. You become a person that is strong,
who makes good decisions and who is wise,
and that's what you need in these situations.
And so I would encourage you to master your pies at all costs.
The second thing I would encourage you to do is remind yourself that marriage is
fail as a result of one or both partners,
feeling they are not loved, liked, or respected by their spouse.
And as a result of that, they have likely constructed a wall of protection.
It's not necessarily against you,
but rather to keep them from being hurt from anything that might happen within
the relationship. So the intimacy has been challenged. Now,
if that wall is up, you can't bulldoze it. You can't make them take it down.
The only way this can happen is them agreeing or believing even to take it down
because they trust you. And when they do that,
they're actually offering the influence that you may have lost as a result of
the wall being put up, don't force it, ask. And when they share,
be very safe attack with it or blame, um,
any of those kinds of things. So it could be healthy. Yeah.
As you move forward to your discussion, also refuse to use any kind of control.
I mean,
one of the most common reasons people we'll try to control another person is
because they're afraid. I'm afraid about what's going to happen,
or I'm afraid that you'll hurt yourself, hurt me or someone else. I love,
even though the space sounded like a good excuse.
It's not something you want to do.
You want to be very careful about control because one thing about control when
people feel it, they feel disrespected and you're really hurting your cause.
The next thing I would say is be careful about using coercion or any kind of
emotional manipulation. You know, if they see how hurt you are, they'll do it.
This doesn't typically turn out well.
And I want to encourage you to not do that,
but rather show them that you're a strong person,
but you want very badly to work on the marriage.
This is much better than placing yourself in a pity role because most people
don't find that attractive. Yeah.
Keep in mind that working on a marriage doesn't necessarily mean a book
study are looking at a video work.
Being on a relationship is actually living that relationship.
So are you living it? Are you in it? Are you finding opportunities to have fun?
Don't go to some restaurant could spend money to fight. Don't mix with pleasure,
go there and have a good time.
Go out and have a good time and then do business or relationship
things when it's appropriate. When it won't be mixed with anyone else.
When there's an opportunity to do that, that's living the relationship,
not just working on it. And by the way,
that's what most people do in successful relationships that require a
lot of devotion, hope, vision, and care we believe in you.
So what we're asking you to do is subscribe to our YouTube channel,
check out some of the things we have available in this right here.
We have a save my marriage course that could really help you and give you even
more detailed, um, instruction or advice. In addition to that,
we have coaches on staff that can do one session with you.
And maybe just give you a little more insight either way.
We're here for you and we're believing for you. Take care.
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