G'day, A.J. Mahari here yeah freaking again man what's going on i don't know
anyway response to another comment because yeah sometimes typing just doesn't do it
and i think some comments i mean all comments are important all comments are valuable please
keep your comments coming please keep sharing with each other ask questions etc it's all good so this
person here i wish i could use a real name would help you know but anyway psycho psycho my friend
probably don't think of me as much of a friend i don't know i responded to a couple of your
comments recently in the normal way right tonight by video so you have to comment on the video i did
borderline personality x traumatized by borderline codependent evaluation won't help
you heal if you're potential you said people with borderline personality disorder believe not only
emotional damage some people with largely untreated bpd i totally hear you but you
can't say that about all you can say it but you can't know that about all people so that's where
you and i keep i think button heads a little bit and you said i know several cases of course
after i got involved with the bpd and i became aware of everything and put the pieces together
okay so comments i've seen in yours before we won't talk about right because i chose that
we wouldn't talk about other comments of yours i responded to right this one i'm responding to um
you said you know of several cases of course okay well i don't doubt you on your word but that's
hearsay like what does it mean i guess is my question and then you said i got involved with
a bpd and became aware of everything okay so you got involved with a bpd what you would then
become aware of is what you went through with that person okay so so i know you know that i wouldn't
dispute that with you at all so what i want to say is though that what what i why i wanted to
make the video and not just write it out is what i wanted to say back to you with all due respect is
you're globalizing this to everybody with bpd is nonsensical but i hear you about your experience
absolutely perhaps you know what color a couple other people have had the same experience as you
because there are more men out there that have had the same experience as you i've worked with lots
of men so now we're speaking of a comment that you know you wrote and i i read and i have set aside
but i haven't put you to the channel for a reason but what i want to say to you psycho is i hear you
i don't agree with your framing but i hear your experience i totally understand that
i would never dispute your experience so i hope you understand that
and then you said um so you became more of everything put the pieces together
and then you're using the word day again so of course it's not just the person
with quote bp and quote don't know right that you were with that hurt you so badly
it happens to more men it happens with women with bp but it happens to women with men with bpd
and it's not all people with ppd that's what i wish that you might acknowledge you know
but you said um and then you said they go to court but what i know from your other comments is that
well i think you were either threatened with it if it didn't it or might have happened to you
so some women with bpd whether they're diagnosed correctly or
not right because maybe they should be diagnosed with aspd
some women with bp like i've always acknowledged and like you said up there in the literature
there's 10 to 15 it's probably more around 10 severely impacted which doesn't really describe
even what your experience is but i hear you there are women out there with bpd that are more
than the average they're not the majority they are extreme minority but they're out there and
they're really dangerous and i don't dispute that with you at all i work with so many clients who've
had your experience and then some because i'm not sure where you know if you went through the whole
thing of the courts and what you did i just don't know right i'm not trying to be disrespectful
and you said they go to court in cases of marriages and leave their children
far from their parents okay so some not all absolutely and so so the the word usage of they
is what i'm questioning because i know better than that but i hear you many not all
um they go to court in cases of marriage leave the children far from the parents
um find loopholes in the law and take revenge on men yes yes some do not all and
many men with bpd take the same kind of and even the next step to worse revenge in the sense that
the women aren't breeding anymore so many there's not many there's a percentage low
percentage with men with bpd as well then in a different way and perhaps similar or the same
are just as dangerous to women you know um who are their partners or were so it works both ways but
i hear you you're a man who's had this experience and i've had clients male clients and a couple of
females but male clients who have absolutely had this experience where they get set up lied about
and the police come and the police call the man out and in custody it's still not anywhere near
you know reasonable in the justice quote justice system unquote so i totally hear you
and i just want you know that because i've worked with many men who've been through i think what
you've been through to the degree that you've described it i i'm not sure exactly what happened
or versus threats but but hey your experience is your experience excuse me and then you said uh
so yeah they they find loopholes in the law or they absolutely lie about things some with bpd
not all and not just women but men too but yeah some women with bpd do this to men regularly
okay but it's not all women with bpd and then you said it's not just emotional damage
no in that case it probably does go beyond emotional damage i mean and there can be
physical damage from from this subset the this percentage of women with bpd as there is from
the percentage of men with bpd to women and it can be financial physical reputation absolutely
sadly enough it's true but it's not true of all people with bpd or only women with bpd
and uh let me see where was i you said so not only emotional damage it needs to be disclosed
to society well yeah i mean and i have a client in the province that i live in in canada who
had this this happened to him and parental alienation from his children i'll say to be
vague right and um i was about to say what yeah but no and it took him years
and everybody thought he was crazy and he went into provincial court in the province i live
and he outright won and i mean he had to work for years he outright finally had every
single last person social workers lawyers police everybody that bought the crap of the lies and the
worse and everything that it is with some of these women with bpd
and he won his case outright and the tragedy of that was that his children that he'd been largely
alienated from by his ex with bpd were now adults and so he was starting to be able to have
but he lost years and that was a travesty absolutely it happens and it's there's no
excuse for it it's beyond the pale and society you might mean a whole lot more than this but the one
thing i hear when you say in society it needs to be disclosed yes it does because the justice
system isn't getting it and so i'm passionately there with you on that absolutely i hear you
you said people with any cluster b disorder are dangerous and harmful
to other people well there's where i don't agree with you because it varies it buries i mean once
you get to the psychopaths forget it i don't care one way or the other but with people with bpd
specifically more to the point some with npd but like uh it's not much of a case i can make um
but people with bpd are vast differences and there are some vast differences in mpd because
yeah it's hard to say but the vulnerable narcissist is not the same as or the coburg
they're not the same as the albert but you know like i'm not trying to defend them at all
nor am i here to defend people with bpd in any way shape or form for poor behavior bad behavior and
worse and there is this percentage of women that you're talking about for sure absolutely and the
justice system doesn't get it and they need to get it because it is totally an atrocity was happening
to men in these cases but when you say people with any cluster b disorder are dangerous and harmful
to other people you're not correct you're just not statistically correct because they're not all the
same especially in bpd so while you've experienced it sounds like the absolute worst and probably
the person isn't even bpd they probably should be diagnosed with aspd not variants just straight up
so not all people with cluster b are as dangerous as others and that's just that's just the truth
and i've worked with people for 30 plus years on both sides people with bpd many men who've gone
through the likes of what you're describing and more and then some i'm not saying more than you i
don't know um and also uh there are lots of people with bpd who hurt themselves and don't hurt others
lots of people bp who aren't here anymore because that was their solution
for whatever reason and what they were going through so they're not all the same as all i'm
trying to get you to acknowledge because yeah it it i think it's important people acknowledge that
but that doesn't mean you change your opinion about what happened to you or the reality that
there are some dangerous women out there and i think they're women that are misdiagnosed by the
way so whether or not that matters to you and you said bpd is no exception not less dangerous
well bpd is in again a percentage of people diagnosed with it male or female um
quite dangerous like you say because i believe these people are being misdiagnosed
they especially the women should they there's a 10 which is a lot of women that
i hear you on your experience and i think they should be diagnosed as straight up psychopaths
because i think that's probably what they are but when they when psychiatry muddies the water
american psychiatric pseudoscience monies the water uh bpd versus aspd that's the problem and
that's where it lies the rub between you and i not your experience not what you're saying um
i really believe your voice is important and from your experience and i'm sorry for what you've been
through i really really am and so i'm not trying to say people with bpd can't be dangerous or
that they're exempt and oh totally different from narcissists but they are not the same
except there's this problem of psychiatry needs to be straightened out
because they're not the same as psychopaths either because there's something going wrong
in the presentation and diagnosis of these things with the american psychiatric association
that's what i still contend and that's what i see evidence of in all the studies and things that i
read and i'm aware of so um there is a percentage it's a lower percentage of people with bpd that
are as dangerous as you're describing but yes there is that percentage and it is in women
and it isn't men and i don't dispute that so hopefully um people can think about what
i'm saying here because i don't i don't dispute anybody's personal experience sometime sometimes
it's the framing of it it's the globalizing of it that i want to be careful with on this channel and
i hope you can respect that but i hear you psycho i hear you on and that's the name the person uses
i'm not being you know um that rude or anything i hear you on your experience and i believe you
and i ha i take no issue with what you're saying it's the framing and the globalization so without
a doubt like i said what you're saying is very important and people need to know more about it
and you're not the only man who's been through this as you said you know of others and i know
of others and i'm really sorry for any man i'm sorry for anyone who gets hurt by anyone
i'm not a bpd apologist by any means but people with bpd don't deserve to be lumped together
any more than than people without it or people with some other label or all men or all women
are the same because they're not all the same that's all i'm trying to say so otherwise um i
welcome your comments and i'm glad you're sharing your experience and i want to validate for you
not that it matters because you know what you know i don't disagree with what you're saying
at all and i totally believe your experience i really really do so i hope this is helpful
not only to you but to others and to get the message out there that there is something
inherently wrong with the diagno diagnosing in the pseudoscience of apa right now but that
there are women that will come under the label and be understood to be under the label of bpd
and and the study that says that that's the female variant of aspd is like i mean come on if you go
read it if you find it i read it it's ridiculous it doesn't establish anything and it hasn't been
replicated or critiqued or anything but i believe that what you've experienced and what many of my
clients have experienced male clients and what i've heard other people speak of and i have a
couple of even friends who've been through stuff males that have been true stuff with a female
i believe they they likely are psychopaths and they don't fit the criteria for bp and
they should be diagnosed as straight up psychopaths anyway take care