another video and today we're going to talk about how to recover after you're
fired so first of all I want to say don't
worry about this too much it's happened to all of us we just don't talk about it
it's happened to a lot of us it's happened to me in fact but most people
don't like to talk about it but you're not alone so let's get started what
you're going to learn in this video so the first thing you're going to learn is
the importance of the right fit and how to spot it
what's staying in a bad job can do to you emotionally and for the long term
and why it doesn't matter who broke up with who essentially if you got fired or
if you quit and how to address the question why did you leave your last job
so stay tuned
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so what is the right fit what does the right fit mean so I've come up with a
few points that in my experience means you're in a good fit so you enjoy your
tasks you enjoy the work that you're doing and by that I don't mean every
minute of every day you love it you enjoy at least 80% and then there's
normally 20% of things that you don't love but you do because you know they're
necessary you have a good relationship with your boss this for me has
personally been the most important one throughout the years if I have a good
relationship with my boss it doesn't matter if sometimes I'm not always
challenged or I don't always love the work but relationships to me are more
important so some of these might be more important to some people than other
people but all all of them together equal a good mix if you have a
reasonably good relationship with your coworkers
so the vibe in there is good it's not toxic for you and you enjoy interacting
with most people of course not everybody because we can't always get along with
everybody but you know what I mean and you have the skills and the
knowledge to get this job done and if you don't you feel comfortable learning
and sometimes you're pushed out of your zone but you're not like completely off
base like you know you know what you need to do so what's staying in a bad
job for you is the why is the worst thing that you could do anyways so
staying in a bad job could lead to health problems it caused by stress can
lead to arguing with your spouse when you get home yelling at your kids not
having any time to be with friends it's very rare for someone to be let go who
loved their job it happens in some cases when layoffs happen and there's usually
some notice involved so if you were let go
chances are you weren't happy chances are you knew it was going to happen you
had a warning and chances are you weren't the right fit sometimes when
people are let go they actually feel relieved
in a way they feel relieved and they might feel a bit of fear as well it's
like oh my god what am I going to do next but in the grand scheme of things
if you were not feeling happy then this is probably one of the best things
before you if you were let go it simply means that you are now in a better
position to find your dream job is the first thing the place where you were
wasn't working and now you're free to find something better
normally the act of getting fired itself isn't the biggest thing it's what
happens after that the good news is that the world is changing very quickly and
in the past most people have believed that if you are fired
good luck getting hired anywhere else because that's that's it you know you're
damaged goods now but in fact that's not true anymore
today it's totally not the case getting fired just means that you said that they
said to you hey I don't think it's working out before you had a chance to
say it to them it's nothing more most employers won't give you a bad reference
because they would prefer not to be sued and giving a bad reference is a risk for
them it's a risk to their HR department and it's not worth it so if anything
they're just going to confirm the dates that you worked and verify any
information that they need to that's factual and legal and move on so it
doesn't really matter who broke up with whom the result is still the same agreed
while it's true that you never want to say I was fired during a job interview
or in your job search we still have the updated idea that being fired puts a
mark of shame on us so to speak as Liz Ryan says but it's not true most people
who get fired from their jobs in my experience are good people myself
included it just means that some something happened and it didn't work
out so you either had a personality clash this happened to me you I might as
my dad used to say he called it a personality clash because he used to say
not everybody can get along with everybody it's just not how the world
works and it doesn't make you a bad person so that made me feel better
because I really is that no matter how hard I try to get
along with everybody it's just not a realistic goal this doesn't make you a
bad person so the employer doesn't tell you their whole story either they have
their own skeletons nothing goes perfectly on their end either so if you
were to ask why is this position open they're not going to tell you that they
hired somebody and that that person ran away screaming and quit because they had
overwhelmed the person and not provided enough training they're not going to
tell you that so when they ask you why did you leave your last job you don't
have to tell them all the gory details either here's what you can say so when
you're asked the question there's two different ways you can ask for it so you
want to listen carefully and neither of these answers tell who broke up with who
it's just not relevant so if you're working somewhere for quite a long while
this is your speech I had a great time learning for the first four years and
then it was time to go I needed a bigger challenge if you were working somewhere
for just a really short amount of time you can say something like this I
misjudged the situation and honestly I thought it was going to be more of an
executive assistant job but it turned out to be more of an accounting book and
clerk type of job and they needed somebody who had a lot more numbers
experience than I did and that's not my strong suit so if I were to do it over
again I would definitely ask more questions this is my exact scenario
actually from a situation this is one where I didn't get fired I left on my
own accord but see if you'll notice in the answer I never said any details
you'd never know by this answer and it doesn't matter and those are the two
those are the two main scenarios so I want to leave you with a final thought
before we wrap up and that is things don't have meaning we assign meaning to
everything and that's from my my favorite 20 Robbins
so assigning meaning to you getting fired or let go is your choice you can
make it mean whatever you want and there you have it and we wrap up fit the
importance of fit what it is and and why you need to spot it wisely
staying would suck the life out of you anyway was probably the best thing that
ever happened to you that you had to go why it doesn't matter as much as you
think it does and how to address it in a job interview thank you so much for
watching this is Natalie join me over at Natalie Fisher dossier for more great
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