lack of communication causes frustration someone smarter than me probably said it
but i say it all the time so i feel like i
invented it so if someone else wrote it you just let them have the credit but
lack of communication causes frustration now i want to tell you i've had
thousands of people over the years work for my company or my
on my brand and i know when i'm the most frustrated
is when someone didn't communicate with me or i didn't communicate with them
and as i evolve i realize if i don't communicate my goals if i don't
communicate my values if i don't communicate the culture that
i want if i don't communicate where i see the company going in five
years if i if i don't communicate what my mission is
if i don't communicate what my passions are it could seem like crazy busy work
this dean's all over the place he wants to do this and the better life and his
books and tony and brendan and growth and live
events and like i have a lot of stuff going on
if i didn't communicate i could frustrate
employees and team i don't even call them employees they're my team they're
my family and i bet you without a shadow of a
doubt i have definitely caused frustration
with teams in the past but the last couple years no because i
communicate transparently openly and obsessively
i don't want anybody wondering where we're going as a company
i don't want anybody wondering what our mission is
and that's in business but let me tell you
in life i have an ex now and we share the responsibilities of
co-parenting if we're both not crystal clear on our
communication man can we get frustrated can you get
into your ego can you get mad can be like i can't believe she
didn't tell me that or she might be saying i can't believe he did that
without letting me know first or i didn't understand what he was thinking
or what she was thinking and here's what i know at this phase of
my life i wanna i wanna make massive leaps i
wanna do the things that move the needle in my life i wanna leave a legacy
i wanna make an impact listen i love having you here with me but you can't
even imagine what my goals are over the next 50 years i want to leave such a
legacy and the legacy is not look at all the
money i made is the impact i want to change the way people look at
education i want to change the way people feel i want to give people
another level of peace in their life so i got to be clear
i got to be on point and i can't do that if i don't communicate right
and i can't do it in my personal i can't be the right a good dad i can't be an
ex-husband i can't be in the relationship i'm in now that's amazing
i couldn't have that relationship if communication
wasn't key and here's the point that i want to make right now sometimes
sometimes you get frustrated with other people's bad or lack of
communication but you know what i want to challenge
you to do i want to challenge you to look in the mirror
and see if you're really communicating properly
are you being transparent or do you hold some back
to help maybe protect people i know i've done that for years i'm just not going
to tell her that or tell him that because it might frustrate
you and that means i was doing them a
disservice so i want you to think about your
communication your transparency what are you holding
back what do you not tell certain people what do you tell
other people and when you talk are you clear here's one of the things
that'll get you in trouble every time is assumptions i commuted they got it
no they didn't in most cases they don't get it especially if you
really know something or you're really passionate about something
you like skip over words just thinking they got it and then when they don't get
it like ah come on i told all you guys i shared that in business i shared this in
our relationship i shared this as a parent
why aren't you guys getting it because you sucked at sharing your message
so i'm going to tell you to look in the mirror too what's up what's up hey
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