Hey this is Clayton.
And in this video I'm going to share with you 1 Secret on How to Allow More Love in
your life and in your relationships.
Now this video was inspired by a quote that I read online by a woman named Piper in the
show, Orange Is The New Black.
I don't watch the series on Netflix but I know it's really popular.
But I saw a quote online that said, “It’s like coming home after a long trip that’s
what love is.
Love is like coming home.”
And I got to thinking about that quote and how it's been so true for me in my life; that
falling in love and being in love is like coming home.
[It’s] like coming home to a familiar feeling, something safe, something where…
something that I may have forgotten.
And what is home?
What is it that we’re actually coming home to?
And the reason this is important to dissect and look at is because when we can understand
more of the architecture of what love might actually be, and it's not something so amorphous,
then we can begin to find real ways of being… in ways of behaving which then we can allow
and create the territory for more love to occur in our life.
So there's this line of thinking of what love is.
It is when someone is able to experience parts of themselves with you that they haven’t
experienced before or they haven’t experienced in a really long time maybe since childhood.
And then as they experience those parts of themselves, you can love them and they can
love those parts of themselves and they can become more fully integrated as a person.
So in sense… in a sense this quotes, “Love is like coming home,” it's really true.
It's like love is like coming home to self.
Love is like coming back to yourself.
And these parts of yourself that you're ashamed of, these parts yourself that maybe you let
go of or forgot of, can come out and be loved and be accepted in the other person's presence.
Now it's not all rainbows and butterflies because sometimes when we love somebody really
deeply, there can be a lot of stuff that comes up between the two people, right?
It can be really difficult…
some of the deepest most loving relationships can have some of the most difficult struggles
because the deeper you go with somebody, the more of those parts of yourself that perhaps
you haven't claimed, those parts of yourself that you forgot do come out and can get aggravated
and triggered in the relationship.
And they can come out for both people to look at.
And see and if you haven't accepted that part of yourself that's coming out, that is triggering
you.
You may be projecting it on the other person like it's their problem.
And then you may try to fix them.
You may try to change that.
You try…
may try to blame them.
And as…
when you look at it through this model of realizing that there are parts of yourself
that are coming out in the relationship for you, as an opportunity for you to love and
accept more deeply.
You can begin to remove the triggers from the relationship and grow through the relationship
together.
And it's not easy.
It's not easy.
I've had one hell of a time doing it in my relationships and it truly is some of the
hardest work that you will ever do in your life.
And it can be some of the most fulfilling.
Now what is this one secret that you can use to allow more love in your life?
Well it's to listen to the person.
It's to truly listen to the person without defending yourself, to listen to the person
without trying to change their mind, to listen to the person without judging them, to listen
to the person without fixing them, to listen to your partner without trying to save them.
And when you are able to do that you serve as a mirror for them to begin to see themselves
and to love those parts of themselves and to accept those parts of themselves again
when they see you accepting those parts of themselves and loving those parts of themselves.
And that's where relationships can be a territory where you get to experience a sense of completeness
when you're with that person.
And completeness even by yourself because parts of yourself come out, that you didn't
even know that you could love, and now you're loving them and integrating them back into
your life.
And that's one secret to allow more love in your life.
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