Hey I’m Terri Savelle Foy. Thank you for watching
You know my passion is to teach you how to make your dreams bigger than your memories.
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so I can keep you motivated to pursue those dreams.
In fact today I want to talk to you about the 9 signs of a poor self-image
and just see if you identify with any of these signs.
You know, I heard someone say the other day that a strong positive self-image
is the best possible preparation for success in life.
You know your self-image is simply a portrait that you have of yourself.
Now I don't carry this around but it's a portrait that you see on the inside of yourself
and it's the way you think everybody else sees you.
Well here's the thing, your self-image affects everything in your life more than you even realize.
For example, if you see yourself as worthless you'll talk like you're worthless,
you'll dress like you're worthless, you'll carry yourself like you're worthless.
You'll enter relationships and careers even that validate your feelings of being worthless.
And here's the thing also, Satan knows that and he wants to keep you suppressed,
inferior, insecure, with your head held down so that you never fulfill the assignment that God to put on your life.
So we have to improve and build up our self-image and let me just tell you
I only speak from experience so I'm someone who had an extremely poor, negative self-image
and I've allowed God to heal me from the inside out. So see if you identify with any of these 9 symptoms.
Number one is you're indecisive.
Now I'll be the first to admit I still battle with this
You know where you can't even make a decision about what to eat, which movie to see,
which photo to post on Instagram, what outfit to buy
You know, it's just those are effects of a poor self-image.
But it leads to bigger things like which university to attend, which relationship to engage in,
which career to pursue.
So you start out by just making decisions in the small areas
Like, shock your friends by saying this is where we're going to eat and this is a movie we're going to see.
So start in the small areas.
Number two is you can't receive compliments.
You know again, I identify with this.
You know when people compliment you and you always almost make them feel bad for giving you a compliment.
Like if someone ever said “Terri, you look so cute”
“I’d be like no I don't, I look disgusting are you kidding me? Why would you even say that?”
I would make them feel bad for complimenting me just practice saying two words, “thank you”.
It's hard, it really is but just practice saying thank you,
Those are signs of a positive self-image.
Number three is you give in easily.
Now what I mean by this is you don't feel good enough about yourself to even
stand up for yourself or to even express an opinion and it might even be in things you don't really want to do.
It could be with alcohol, with drugs, with sex, different areas of our life
where we don't even feel like we have a right to say no.
And let me just tell you, it does not mean that you're a bad person
you're just acting out of that inner pain. Those are just symptoms of a poor self-image.
Number four is you constantly compare yourself.
Are you comparing yourself to people constantly thinking that they're thinner,
they're prettier, they're more educated, or wealthier they're better than you?
Those are signs that you're in your image your self-image has been damaged.
So you have to stop comparing yourself to everybody else and realize that you are unique
and God made you the way you are for a reason.
Number five is negative emotions and feelings.
Do you know that a poor self-image actually affects your mood?
You might even feel angry, anxious, ashamed, depressed, all those different emotions that we feel
and people might even say to you “you're so moody” and you don't even know why
you have these emotions and these moods.
Well those are symptoms again of just having a damaged, poor self-image.
Number six is unmotivated.
You know if you subscribe to a podcast like this, I'm constantly teaching you
how to get serious about your dreams and your goals.
If you have a poor self in you might get motivated for a season, temporarily.
But then again you lose all that motivation and sometimes it's because you already fear
that you're going to fail anyway, so what's the point?
So you just stay unmotivated.
Number seven is relationship troubles.
Now for one thing there's nothing more unattractive than insecurity.
And you know I even read one time that the number one trait that men and women find most attractive
in each other is confidence.
So see the opposite of that if you don't like yourself it's going to be really hard
for other people to like you either.
So relationship troubles, that's just another symptom where you can't stay or maintain a relationship.
Number eight is being locked in your comfort zone.
Well remember this, insecurity poor self-image it's all fear-based.
And we know God's not behind fear, but if you fear stepping out trying something new
it just fills you with fear and dread and anxiety,
again those are signs that your self-image has been damaged so you stay locked in those comfort zones.
And then finally number nine is not looking after yourself.
And what I mean by that is when you already feel bad about yourself physically,
it's hard to even get excited about eating healthy and exercising working out because,
“What does it even matter?” You already feel so bad about yourself it doesn't even matter.
Well, I want you to transform your self-image, why?
Because God has a plan for your life there's something you're supposed to be doing to fulfill your assignment
on earth and as long as your head is held down and you have that poor self-image
you're going to miss out on what God created you for.
So I wanted to real quick just give you two steps that you can start applying today.
Number one is change your mind.
Now we know just from the Word of God it says “be transformed by the renewing of your mind”.
So you've got to renew your mind to a whole new way of thinking.
Especially if you've thought the same way for 10, 20, 30, 40, years and you might say to me,
“Terri, how in the world do I even do this?”
Well you renew your mind to the Word of God.
See every time the word of God gets in your spirit you push you hear the word, fear has to go.
See fear and faith are opposite forces you can't be full of faith and full of fear at the same time.
So every time you hear the word and of course the Bible says faith comes by hearing,
so every time you hear the word faith comes and it causes all that fear to be driven out of you.
But it has to be intentional.
You know that's why I say subscribe to a podcast
because that means you're intentionally making an effort to fill your mind with the Word of God.
So number one is change your mind by pushing play.
Number two is change your words.
Change the way you speak about yourself.
And this is a two-step process, number one stop putting yourself down
Don't let another negative word come out of your mouth about yourself.
You might think it but don't speak it.
When you look in the mirror don't talk about how fat you are,
how old you are, how ugly you look.
Don't allow a negative word to come out of your mouth.
And number two you have to start speaking positive declarations out of your mouth.
I'm telling you, you might think that's crazy and “how is this going to transform my self-image?”
It works, I'm telling you from experience I did this I still do it to this day.
In fact, I've made a list of declarations and actually have them available for you
if you click the link in the description.
I've got a list of declarations to help you with your self-image.
But I started saying things like “I'm confident, I’m capable, I'm qualified
everything I set my hands to prospers and succeeds, I'm highly favored of God
my spirit attracts God inspired ideas that produce millions of dollars.”
Well see, what you repeatedly hear you eventually believe.
But everybody else can tell you this but you have to speak it over yourself.
So I'm telling you if you will just start with these two steps, you will learn to pull your shoulders back
hold your head up, and walk out the plan of God for your life.
So you can get started today, in fact if you're enjoying the podcast share it with a friend
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Thank you for watching, I'll see you next week.
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