WE RECENTLY TOLD YOU ABOUT A
SURVEY THAT SHOWED WOMEN ARE
STILL DOING ALMOST TWICE AS MUCH
HOUSEWORK AS MEN.
THE STUDY
SHOWED THE AVERAGE MAN WOULD
NEED TO INCREASE HIS CHORES BY
70% TO BE AS PRODUCTIVE AS THE
LADY OF THE HOUSE.
70 SEEMS LOW.
THIS BRINGS UP AN INTERESTING
SCENARIO WE'RE TALKING ABOUT IN
OUR RELATIONSHIP REBOOT.
KRISTIN IS HERE.
CHORE PLAY.
ELABORATE.
IT'S THIS IDEA THAT IN
MANY
HETEROSEXUAL MARRIAGES, WOMEN
ARE TURNED ON WHEN THEY KNOW
THEIR HUSBAND IS SHARING
EQUALLY.
SO DOING SOME CHORES
CAN LEAD TO A LITTLE BIT MORE IN
THE BEDROOM.
ARE CERTAIN CHORES SEXIER
THAN OTHERS BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE
TAKING OUT THE TRASH --
I WOULD SAY THE SEXY CHORES
ARE THE ONES THAT THE WIVES ARE
FEELING THAT THEY'RE DOING ALL
THE TIME.
SO MOWING THE LAWN, NOT SEXY.
CHOPPING THE DRIVEWAY.
IF I DO LAUNDRY.
MAYBE.
IT DEPENDS ON YOUR MARRIAGE
TOO.
SO FOR INSTANCE, AFTER 24
YEARS OF MARRIAGE, LONG AGO, MY
HUSBAND LEARNED THIS, I WANT TO
WAKE UP ON MY BIRTHDAY TO THE
SMELL OF BLEACH.
I THOUGHT YOU WERE GOING TO
SAY --
WATCH OUT.
WOW!
BECAUSE I REALLY APPRECIATE
THAT.
WE HAVE A VERY EGO -- THE
RESEARCH IS PRETTY DEFINITIVE ON
THIS TOPIC.
IT'S SEXY WHEN
COUPLES SHARE EQUALLY.
I DO CHORES AROUND THE HOUSE
SOMETIMES, BUT I'M NOT SURE I
CAN DRAW A DIRECT LINE BETWEEN I
MADE THE KID'S LUNCH AND I DID
THE DISHES, AND I MADE DINNER.
AND THEN THAT NIGHT --
NO, NO.
IT'S MORE NUANCE
THAN THAT AND IT'S GENERAL THAN
THAT BECAUSE THE IDEAS HERE IS
THAT -- IF MEN SAY THINGS LIKE
I'M GOING TO HELP YOU OUT.
WHAT
THAT IMPLIES --
OH.
IT'S HER JOB, SO ESPECIALLY
IF SHE'S WORKING TOO OUTSIDE THE
HOME, IT'S LIKE, NOT A REAL
STRONG ROCK TO STAND ON.
IT'S PROBABLY NOT A GOOD
IDEA, AND JASON I'M SURE YOU
DON'T DO THIS, WELL, I MADE THE
KID'S LUNCH AND FILLED UP THE
CAR WITH GAS.
SO, HELLO.
DO YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN
.
IT'S A GOOD THING YOU'RE
HERE.
27 YEARS OF MARRIAGE.
AND
I'M STILL FIGURING IT OUT.
IT'S SOMETHING NOTE WORTHY --
ONE OF THE TIPS IS FOR
COUPLES TO SIT DOWN AND SAY,
WHERE AM I FEELING OVERBURDEN.
WHERE COULD WE SHARE MORE
EQUALLY.
THAT'S SEXY.
THOSE COUPLES WHO SHERRY KWAUL Y
SHARE GSEQUAL -- THEY
SHARE EQUALLY AND HAVE --
CAROL, YOU AND I HAVE TALKED
ABOUT LOVE LANGUAGES WHERE
PEOPLE HAVE DIFFERENT THINGS
THAT SEND THE MESSAGE THAT
YOU'RE LOVED AND THAT'S WHAT
THIS GETS AT, RIGHT.
IT'S THIS IDEA TO ONE PERSON,
VACUUMING EQUALS LOVE, CHANGING
THE BABY'S DIAPER WITHOUT BEING
ASKED, TAKING INITIATIVE TO SAY,
OH, LOOK AT THE DUST BUNNIES
OVER THERE.
I'M GOING TO
SWIFTER.
THAT EQUALS LOVE TO
CERTAIN PEOPLE.
TO OTHER PEOPLE
IT MAY BE THE DIAMONDS OR
FLOWERS.
YOU HAVE TO LEARN THE
LOVE LANGUAGES.
PEOPLE HAVE DIFFERENT
STANDARDS OF CLEANINESS AND YOU
CAN MAKE GENDER STEREOTYPES.
THERE'S MEN -- THE IMPORTANT
PART IS TALK ABOUT THAT AND NOT
JUST ASSUME BECAUSE YOUR PARTNER
DOESN'T SEE HOW DIRTY THE FRIG
IS OR THE DUST BUNNIES IN THE
CORNER, IT DOESN'T MEAN THEY
DON'T LOVE YOU.
IT MEANS THEY
CARE LESS.
THAT'S WHY
COMMUNICATING IS IMPORTANT.
IT DOESN'T MEAN YOU HAVE TO
PUT UP WITH IT.
YOU CAN SAY
THIS MEANS A LOT TO ME.
TALK IT
OUT.
SHORT PLAY.
GOOD LUCK, GENTLEMEN.